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Have you ever had someone reject a friendship request on here?




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Since I typically get to know someone before I request friendship I haven’t gotten a rejection.

I also never rejected anyone. To me, there is just no reason to. I like people who have similar interests also but I like people who are different because I learn so much from them!

Sometimes I clean out my friendship lists if there is someone who has left for good (or so it seems).

I like how they do it on Facebook with Ignore. To me, its much more pleasant.

Don’t feel bad about it. There are lots of good people here who will be thrilled to have your friendship.


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      Paris Mano wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Yes so many that I was getting a complex!!!
      Now I just welcome them and don’t request friendship.
      If they want to be my friend, I’ll let them request.
      Too bad...they are missing out on a wonderful friend...Me and you too Tracy!!estaticestatic




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I got my first ‘reject’ today! frown
      Was kind of depressing, like what did I do to you! lol

      You are right though they are missing out on awesome ladies like us!! We rock!! heart

      And ty for your donation Paris!! heart




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      Paris Mano wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • That is how I felt too!
      I was excited that my friendship came back and then when I saw it was rejected! I couldn’t believe it! Maybe I read it wrong. Then I felt really bad like you did. Some will, some won’t, SO WHAT....NEXT!!! hahahaestaticestaticheart




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      Veggie wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • One.




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I almost went to their profile and typed , “Thanks for the rejection!” tongue out




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      Paris Mano wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • You are too funny Tracy!!
      I know I did go to their profile to read about them.
      I guess I like everyone. Sometimes they may think they are getting spammed. Because FAB40 IS a very different website.
      Not many people spam on here. I do have my link on my signature but don’t push anything on anyone. If they are interested, they will look.
      I just enjoy the friendships I am making and the bonding with each of you. Who knows....maybe we will all go on a cruise one year!! FAB40 cruise of the year!! WooHoo!!heart




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      Kyah wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I must admit, I have rejected several friendship requests; some people have interests and ideals that I can’t grasp, and I accepted those who have requested friendships who have similar interests. I do this here as well as social sites like FabOver50 and myYearbook.  

      You should never take it personally; in life you don’t get along with everyone and this is no different, except it’s virtual.




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I figured it might be because she is not very active on the site and maybe just did not want to add a lot of friends. She only had around 10. So, that’s my reasoning behind it!! lolestatic




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      Trudy S wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • NO.  I have had some folks never respond.  I would definately wonder why.  This is such a specialized site.  tongue out




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Personally if someone is rejected, it should just be lost in space. No need to notify. IMHO estatic




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      Kyah wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Lost in space is okay, I guess, but I believe the purpose of informing the requester of the reject is so they don’t continue to request. If they continue, it’s considered harassment & on many sites, a breach of terms of service.  

      I have also removed friendships when they send spam or try to sell things to me. Friends, real or virtual, should not take advantage of a friendship.




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Not so far but there’s always a first time for everything!happy




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I think thats really awful to be rejected !!!  I mean we all seem like a FABULOUS group!!!




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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I got 2 rejects, I know how it feels.




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      Rose Nino wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I’ve had one! But it’s okay, I don’t take it personally. I believe everyone has their reasons.  The “no’s” build my character. Sometimes in life NO really means they just don’t KNOW. estatic

      heart




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I have my links in my sigs etc, but that is not spam. This is a networking site as well.  

      I do not send out pm’s for my shops, etc. The only one was for my kids in this contest.  

      Funny thing is many may ask again just because they forgot they were rejected at one time. I’ll forget about this and then in the future i may see a post and think, wow i’ll add as a friend not remembering the rejected me. Try and say harassment...it would just be a mistake.

      Maybe if a member is rejected, no notice sent, but the add friend is removed for that person to see so they cannot add again.

      I don’t know. IMHO, it is their loss!!




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      Kyah wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • This is true, it is a networking site and the best way to network is to post a topic and read the thread. Get to know the person before sending a friend request, if not, don’t be surprised if a rejection is received. I never click on links in sigs or place links in sigs. Anything I want to share would be on my profile, IMO. Period.

      NO may also in life mean they DON‘T WANT to KNOW!

      Dr. Seuss said it perfectly: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, don’t matter and those who matter, don’t mind.”




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      Isachrissy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I haven’t been rejected yet!  OR maybe I have but really don’t know how to use this site yet. Who want to be rejected at 40tongue out Anywho request me—I will be you friend!




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      Hbrose wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I may have, not sure. How do you know when you’ve been rejected?  Do you get a notification as such?




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Ladies, we should open a group here called the ‘The Fab40 Rejects‘. Only pre-req is you have to have been rejected!! lol




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      Myrna Perez wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Many have not responded to my friend request, so I take that as rejections.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I like to read others profile pages before requesting their Friendship to see If we have some things In common. If they still reject me, well then, I won’t lose any sleep over It. I would be a little curious as to why they rejected me, but I guess thats how It goes.happy

      Do you get a notice when rejected?




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • yup got a notice.  

      The weird thing is we had replied to each others blogs in nice ways.  

      The person is not very active here, so that may be why as well.

      I’m a Fab40 Reject and Proud!! rofl




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Ohhhhhhhhhohhhh..ok, thanks for the Info estaticheart




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      Wookiemom09 wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • I have only sent a couple so no rejection yet.  I did actually reject someone when I first opened up my account as I didn’t understand what I did until after hit decline.




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      Karyn Olson wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Yes I have...once a few months back...I was kind of taken aback by it...my pride was bruised a bit and my feelings hurt a teeny bit...but I guess it is their prerogative...and besides I have tons on my list that are the awesomist of friends...estatic




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      Songbird wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • It’s hard for me to reject someone especially if it’s a woman. I feel bad even to reject a male on other sites (if I have not interacted with him before).  Usually if that happens, I just skip the “accept” or “reject” button.

      It’s hurtful to be rejected but for all you know, it might be a mistake. Sometimes your finger works faster than your mind. :)

      In any way, I would just move on and be happy. Look to the happier side of life and soon it will be off your mind. I am sure, there are so many people out there who wants to be your friend.




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      Tamra wrote Mar 17, 2010
    • Well, worse actually.  Someone REMOVED me from her friends list.  She didn’t agree with my opinion on a thread where I defended another Fab40 friend from her unfair criticism, and she became so angry she deleted me.  But it really didn’t bother me.  I felt that standing up for someone was the right thing to do.  Someone who dislikes me for that quality isn’t the type of person I want to be friends with anyway.  So I guess you could say, no love lost.




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      Marya1961 wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • I suppose if a person does not respond, then that is taken as a reject to me..it does not bother me either way, because I have met so many wonderful women here and they are in my friend list and hope to meet more, and if others care to get to know me, fine..if not, move on!happy




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      Lazylola wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • Not yet, well at least not here...lolestatic




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      UK Girl wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • As a lot of you know I meet and greet the new members so they can see the action on the dashboard and if they have a query they can have someone to come to with this . So I do get a few rejections but I now see it as they don't understand the site and that in effect by joining up your friends with everyone.

      I can honestly say I have had the best laughs of my life on her some nights when the conversation gets rolling and I have also met some really awesome women who give out pearls of wisdom, wit and have a grasp on life – so anyone who gets rejected don't feel bad you do have loads of other friends who make up for it.

      Tamra – that has happened to me and funnily enough she left soon after and to be honest I thought maybe Fab wasn't the best place for her .........




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      Angelcart wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • I may have.  Like hbrose not sure.  I admit I have rejected before because I went to read about them and felt it was just someone wanting to sell me their product. Nothing personal I just didn’t want someone pushing their product on me.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • Great question Tracy!

      Yes I have been rejected and yes I have even been removed from someone’s friend list.

      As for rejection I usually leave them a comment and say sorry for somehow offending them and I wish them the best and hopefully we will be friends somewhere down the road. I do think it’s like Vicki said they just get overwhelmed and don’t understand the site.

      As for being removed it’s either because someone is getting ready to leave the site or we just have a difference of opinion.
      The hard thing about the virtual socializing is that you don’t get to ‘hear’ the tone or ‘see’ how something is being delivered.




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      UK Girl wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • Vikki - good point on the “hear” and “tone” as it’s virtual socializing




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • I have noticed though that sometimes there are ladies i could have sworn we were friends, and then did an add friend. They also were shocked as we knew we had been friends.  

      I just love having friends from all over, different areas, opinions etc. That’s what makes it fun.




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      Angelcart wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • I agree very much with not being able to “hear” the tone being typed.  I know sometimes I have  misunderstood what the person meant just as I’m sure they have misunerstood what I’ve typed.




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 18, 2010
    • Not yet! I accept everyone’s friendship request because I thought the whole point of being on this site was to make friends and learn from one another. I have deleted someone for being unfriendly and rude to me though.




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 20, 2010
    • I think that is why it bugged me term. It was my first and yes you remember your first!! lol

      My feelings got hurt, but I’m over it....I think!! lol tongue out




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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Mar 21, 2010
    • You know Tracy,
      I just realized someone ignored my friend request.  You know what... I am moving on!  If someone does not like me without getting to know me - I am fine with it!  It’s their choice.




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      Cristina Corral wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • happyThat’s so funny because I just sent a private message to my BFF here (lol) and told her that I thought it was sooooo darn hilarious that someone would deny my friendship request!  Bizaar I thought, as we are all women who are all supposed to be networking!

      In fact, I am sooo thrilled that women from far away countries like trinidad have befriended us! I love it!

      When someone denies it does nothing to me but shows the person’s character, a character I am proud that I do not have. I think most of us feel that we are not above and beyond anyone else here.

      I have a skin care business and I still have friends here who do the same.  How ridiculous would it be if I denied their friendship because we have the same business?  No.  It’s just plain silly and juvenile.

      Tracy, I don’t want the “denied” message to be thrown into space....I want to see who that person is. LOL

      Also, there is no way to archive that info, so how would we know who denied us if it was sooooo long ago?

      At any rate, I think it’s rude because this forum is for all of us women.  And we DO all have similar interests, that is why we are HERE!!!

      I think we should ALL be friends, automatically!  lol




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      Mindy Wilson wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Snip:At any rate, I think it's rude because this forum is for all of us women.  And we DO all have similar interests, that is why we are HERE!!!

      I think we should ALL be friends, automatically!  lol: Snip

      This is a great idea...then we can pop-off friends anonymously! Perfect idea!

      Mindy




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Well since this ?, I got rejected again!! frown
      lol




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      Cristina Corral wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • That’s so ridiculous, Tracy.  We have eachother and so what if you or I or anyone else has their link on thier signature.  If we are not interested then we will not bother to purchase, but I for one Love to Network and help another woman out!!!heart




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      Rose Nino wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • I noticed I had become friends with someone (now that I think about it, it was Paris) and now I notice we‘re not friends anymore. Maybe it was a mistake. I’m not sure what I could have done or said to offend her. The funny thing is I never send anyone any information on my business, unless they specifically request it. But I do post info for those that may be interested in reading. But even those, I title with my business name. I figure this way, if someone knows right off the bat, and could care less, about it, then they don’t even have to read it if they don’t want. Oh well! But I totally agree with the comments here and I would never reject someones friendship request for any reason. I love finding out all about the amazing women on this site, and I love supporting other women in business as well.  

      estaticheart




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