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I have a question, Sort of goes together with the previous question about have you been rejected for Friendship when you request someone.

I was wondering has anyone accepted another person’s Friend request but they don’t acknowledge that you are their Friend? They don’t keep In touch or say Hello once In awhile and you really don’t see them answering any threads or commenting on your post?

It confuses me as to why anyone request you as a Friend and yet you never hear from them. This happens here and on Facebook. I don’t get why they request you If they aren’t going to say anything to you.

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Well the term friend is a term of endearment as well. Being on the net for 13 years, i have many internet ‘friends‘. It’s about being kind to one another and learning from others.  

So, I will continue to use the word friend.

Frannie, do not worry about it.

I befriend those who seem interesting to me. I also like all different points of view and another reason why I add friends. But I do not expect all to respond etc as I cannot to all either.

It has nothing to do with having the most friends, being popular, etc. This isn’t HS. It’s about learning new things and different ways of life.  

On here, if you are not friends with someone you cannot see their blogs unless a friend posts to it. Another reason I like to add friends.

Being crippled, this is my link to the world and it helps keep me informed. So, i like all kinds of ‘friends‘.

As for rejections, it is that person’s loss.


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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • I will go to their profile page and see If they have even been on. Sometimes they are on alot and yet never hear from them, but there are some who haven’t been on this site for months and I usually delete them cause If they haven’t been on for a few months, then I am guessing they won’t be on anytime soon but of course If they come back and request me again, I would be glad to accept their Friendship again.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • LOL..terma

      It makes sence yeah, and I don’t really go thru my list all the time either, but i do know who keeps In touch and who doesn’t, but basically was just curious because I have had some request and then right afterwards the person dissapears...lol anyway.. maybe It’s just me who over thinks things. tongue out




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      Rose Nino wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Oh Fran, I hope you don’t delete me. I don’t respond to every question. Sometimes, I really just don’t know what to say. Or I have to really think about it and by then another question has come up and I forgot all about the other question (s). But it’s nothing personal and I totally love everyone of you awesome ladies.  

      Hugz heartestatic




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • tongue out...lol, well when I get bored, I tend to over think things and I just blurt It out..hahaha!!!!  It’s just one of those days.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • LOL rose..no no, thats not what I am saying. I can understand If you don’t answer every question or post, heck..I don’t do that..lol, I was just wondering why someone would request you and not even say Hello now and then, just a hi how ya doin??  ok..maybe I worded everything wrong..lol, I am not good at wording things right sometimes..worried




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      Cristina Corral wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • I really enjoy connecting with everyone because everyone has such unique advice and helpful tips, but I see what you mean, Fran.  I wish there was a button that instantly said hello to each of our friends.  Is there? LOL




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      Rose Nino wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Got it Fran! heart And that is an awesome idea Cristina.

      heartestatic




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Thanks Ladies for understanding me estatic like Ia said, It’s been one of them days..lol




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      Kyah wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • In the Virtual World the word “friend” is tossed about quite a bit. Some people think the more ‘friends’ they have on their profiles the more popular they appear to others who look at their profiles. I’m not into FaceBook, but on myYearbook, I only have about a score of virtual friends and 5 more are actual real life friends.

      In real life, I make friends forever, which means I’m extremely selective. In the virtual world, I have befriended perhaps 3 people in the 10 years since I’ve been visiting chat rooms, forums, and social sites. It’s hard to tag someone a friend, who could walk right past me and I would never know it.

      Look at the actual definition of FRIEND:

      noun

         1. a person whom one knows well and is fond of; intimate associate; close acquaintance

         2. a person on the same side in a struggle; one who is not an enemy or foe; ally

         3. a supporter or sympathizer a friend of labor

         4. something thought of as like a friend in being helpful, reliable, etc.

      Don’t take their silence personally, they‘re virtual. If your real life ‘friends’ are suddenly silent, that is the time to take it personally!




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • I didn’t think of It that way, but true..happy




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Well the term friend is a term of endearment as well. Being on the net for 13 years, i have many internet ‘friends‘. It’s about being kind to one another and learning from others.  

      So, I will continue to use the word friend.

      Frannie, do not worry about it.

      I befriend those who seem interesting to me. I also like all different points of view and another reason why I add friends. But I do not expect all to respond etc as I cannot to all either.

      It has nothing to do with having the most friends, being popular, etc. This isn’t HS. It’s about learning new things and different ways of life.  

      On here, if you are not friends with someone you cannot see their blogs unless a friend posts to it. Another reason I like to add friends.

      Being crippled, this is my link to the world and it helps keep me informed. So, i like all kinds of ‘friends‘.

      As for rejections, it is that person’s loss.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Yes thank you Tracy estatic I love being on the net and I love my cyber Friends as I don’t have many Friends In real life. So most of the time I am online, I just love chatting and finding out about people and learning differant things.heart




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • yw Cristina! heart




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      Lazylola wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Well said Tracyheartheart




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Also, lol, in Fab40 we are more than just people on the net.  

      Many of us have met in person, talked on the phone, Christmas card exchanges, we have the traveling bracelet and the list goes on.  

      Being in a wheel-chariot and blogging on my life, the women came together here at fab40, and got a fund to help me get the bathroom of my dreams. To me, that is friendship. We got together in Vegas, so it was easiest for me, and that is friendship!  

      This is a networking site, it’s what ya do, you friend people and you may even learn something new.

      OK, I’m done!! lol

      BTW, Frannie you rock!! heart




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      Lazylola wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • You are so awesome Frannie!heartheart




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      Wookiemom09 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • I am guilty of going to the home page and hitting the top entries and skimming through so I don’t hit all posts and as so many wonderful women here have sent me friend requests, I haven’t thought if I am touching on all of their posts, blogs and such.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Thank you Ruby..so are youheartheart




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      Paris Mano wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • I don’t correspond with all of the people I have as friends but I certainly would not delete them just because I never hear from them. Some day they may get something from what I say or they may have some advice to offer me. Some people are just silent. So it really doesn’t bother me. The rejection does more than them accepting my friend request and never hearing from them.




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      Kyah wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • Well now,

      You can be kind to and learn from another without being ‘friends.’ It’s just being human. In here, a site geared toward mostly women 40+ means we have many things in common as well as not. As in real life, there are people we don’t see eye to eye with, that we don’t have anything in common with and all are entitled to their opinions even if we do not agree with them.

      With regards to having many friends listed on profile pages, I was referring to general social sites like FaceBook where the average number of friends per member is around 140. True, as it may not be high school, demographically speaking the largest group of FB members aged 13 through 25 totals over 20 million. They have an entirely different reason to be on FB than say those members aged 34-54 which totals 11 million more or less. Many of the latter age group are on there to keep track of the former age group, which is a good thing.

      Whatever you get from any social site is interaction, conversation, advice and camaraderie of sorts. If they come together to help another that is a blessing and a good sign of caring. It’s nice when people turn out to be more than an avatar and words on a screen.

      I also would not delete a person just because I have not heard from them. And when it comes to rejections, in MHO, it’s not that person’s loss, it’s that person’s choice as an individual; which may not be understood but should be respected, and there will always be another person who will either approve or deny. That’s life.




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • Bottom line, it’s all in how you look at it. I prefer the term friend, a more positive name.  

      Rejection, in any form can be hurtful. I choose to accept.heartheart




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • back at ya Cristina! heartheartheartheart and ty




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      Marya1961 wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • First let me say, I heartheart Frannie!...you are sweet, caring and uplifting with kind words..for me personally, friends are treasured people that I hold dear..as we get older it is more difficult to keep friends close, especially if they move away or the relationship changes.  The world has changed and others have agendas, hectic work schedules, kids (big and small)..in other words, little time and some just caught up and forget that even the smallest gesture can make a huge difference in another person’s life..hope I am not rambling...focus on those who take the time and encourage the others who do not.estaticheartheart




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      Rose Nino wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • heartheartTo each and everyone of you. You are all awesome and I appreciate your friendship. heart

      Hugz estatic




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      Crazyaboutdogs wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • Don’t take it personally. I’m terrible about keeping in touch. I don’t spend a lot of time on the Internet.




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