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I walk away and take a deep breath and get my thoughts in order and then go back to the situation. :)
China,
I like that counting, by the you finish counting you have forgotten why you was mad! LOL
Dee,
Walking is also a good source of letting go and getting back with the situation after the walk can help maybe resolve some issues.
thanks,
If it's an email or voice mail I have a strict 24 hour rule ..... that way nothing is said in anger or haste but as I have grown older I have learnt to pick my fights but I make sure people don't think I'm a push over or I avoid confrontation .
I had a conversation about this over lunch today and this time last year I did a complete detox of my address book – just cut all the toxic drama out of my life – the blood suckers and strangely enough not had to control any anger sometimes I think it's those around us who get us into situations.
Oh, Chinadoll - wonderful!!!
I go for a long, long walk (and sometimes chat with myself).
depends on the day.... I might analyze the situation....
pray - talk to God
I might visualize things my teacher or dear friend has said in the past that would relate
I might do some Tai Chi Chuan
Well, controlling my anger WAS - my biggest problem for many years. I controlled it by EATING, by holding it in, by CONTROLLING it. Now I let it out. Whoa, Outta my way! Along with releasing (unleashing) the anger, I’ve released 50 lbs! Walking away from things I have no control over helps a lot - which is most things it seems. Giving myself permission to be a ‘big’ (grown up girl) rather than a big girl at 40+. FINALLY.
UKgirl, very good idea - a detox of your address book. I’ll try...
I should clarify - I used to be even angrier when I tried to control it. By the time I stuffed in down, stewed, and ruminated, and binged, I could blow just about anything out of proportion. Speaking my mind in ‘real time’ keeps my anger proportionate. Well, and realizing that an angry face gives me wrinkles...
Lorrainela, good stuff & I can relate.
Something I heard a long time ago was whenever I’m upset about something there’s something wrong with me. Doesn’t matter what’s said, done or whatever the situation, if I’m upset it’s me.
Sometimes hard to swallow! But when I do any of the things you ladies have already said, I see me, eventually.
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