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Do you ever say no??? Sometimes a friend will ask for a favor that I just don’t want to do. I say no but feel badly about it.

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      Angelcart wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I have but not enough!  My girlfriend who I’ve known my entire life (we grew up living next door to each other) was getting married and asked if she could use my wedding dress.  I really didn’t want to loan it out but I thought about it and decided “when am I ever gonna wear it again?“, so I let her borrow it. I bought it from Cache so it’s more of an evening gown than a wedding dress.  My husband was stunned that I let her wear it.




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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • In the past, I never said no..but there have been situations where my agreeing to lend something has bitten me in the butt, so now I am more choosy about my things being lent out or if I may commit to something that I am unable to do.




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      Rose Nino wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • In the past I have as well. I had a problem and could not say no to anything. I was stressed to the max and always trying to please everyone. But things are different for me now. I am sincere and honest about everything  in my life now. It's so much less complicated that way. And I live a much peaceful, happy life than before. So if I cannot commit to something or even if I just don't feel right about it, I will not hesitate to say no.  

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      Cristina Corral wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I’ve said no to people but then feel bad about it.  You are definitely nicer than I am, Angelcart because I wouldn’t lend anyone my wedding dress! LOL




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      KRIS JULIN wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • It does depend on the friend.  I lent my son at 7 weeks old to my best friend for the day, as she was having lunch with a bunch of girlfriends who all had babies. She did not want to be left out, so I offered Zak. He came home after a fab day of attention with his diaper back to front.  Did not even occur to me to ask her if she knew how to put on a diaper.  25 years later, we are still the closest of friends and I would do anything for her, unfortunately she is in the UK. I would not do that for anyone else. Actually I would as Zak is 15 now.  Most others NO




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I still have a hard time in saying NO and nowadays I will say “I rather not” instead of a hard core NO.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • Like Kris said, It depends on the friend. My bff for 23 years, I would do anything for her as long as It doesn’t land us In jail.estatic

      I have said No before to others and yes I felt bad about It, but sometimes you just gotta say No.




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      Anne E wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I know the feeling.  It’s hard to say no, especially when it’s something you wish they wouldn’t ask in the first place.




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      Lisa Brown wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • This is a skill I am just learning.




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      Mary Clark wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • For years I said “YES” to everything and everyone!!  It eventually bit me in the butt big time to where I suffered exhaustion and depression. It took me many years of therapy learning to say “NO“.  

      Now when someone ask me to do something I think about how I’m going to feel when I’m dreading doing whatever and wishing I had said “no“...and then I tell them “I’m sorry...I’m already obligated at that time or that at this time I will have to say no.  I have told people before that I cannot have too many things going on at one time....which is the truth.  You don’t have to tell them why if you don’t want too...you just need to say “I’m sorry but I can’t“.  Then..learn to NOT FEEL GUILTY!!




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I always hated saying no to friends and family then I would end up putting extra pressure on myself from committing to something I really didn’t have time to do or didn’t want to do. I have learned to say no but now I have to stop giving reasons why I am saying no. I think I feel guilty saying it that’s why I feel I need to explain. From now on I just have to say no and no explanation necessary!happy




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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I have learned after years of trying to please people and me ending up feeling used and un-appreciated I have learned to say no with out guilt.




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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I am still learning how to say ‘NO‘.  It’s hard for me.




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      Karyn Olson wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I always feel guilty saying no...but I am learning...slowly...that it isn’t that hard to say...happy




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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I don’t say no very often.  When I do say no, it’s without a bit of guilt.




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      Msj wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • I had to LEARN to say no! I also have guilt probs....it is amazing how much energy I saved for ME from saying no to others and when I spend my energy on some people I have less to give to ones who may need me more Or to spend on me ... if that makes sense...sorry, im kinda tired...




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      Mary Clark wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • I’ve also found that the more you say  “YES” the more (usually the same people) keep asking you to do whatever!!  I also found that when you do learn to say “NO“..and those same people have been asking..they’ll eventually give up and quit asking.  

      As long as you will do it...they’ll keep asking...and funny thing is they never mind do they???




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • I echo what Mary has said because for years I was the "yes" girl and then the very people who I was always running round town doing errands for never reciprocated when I was ill.
      Just one thought why feel guilty when you say NO is it because of the way they ask you or the way they speak after you have said NO  if they make you feel guilty then they have a problem not you !




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      KRIS JULIN wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • I actually said no last night, when someone wanted me to change my dates for my trip to Palm Springs.  It did not suit me, so I had to say no.  It gets easier the more you say it. Well except to my husband.. now he make me feel guilty




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