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My 6yr old daughter got a part in a short film but her character is supposed to get shot!  Her character is also supposed to say the words F...k and A... Hole.  I am inclined NOT to allow her to do this film based on the language and violence even though she would be paid handsomely.  Do you think I am being too strict?  Keep in mind, she is 6, almost 7.




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      Angelcart wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I can definately see your concerns.  I would talk to her about the language and violence and make sure she understands it’s clear that the language/violence is  necessary for the film only.  I would let her do it.  One film leads to another and so on and so on.  Who knows, she might end up being the next Julia Roberts!happy




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      Frannie1964 wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • Guur!! I had this whole speech and It said my session has expired,why?frown

      I agree with Angel, I was going to say have a talk with her and let her know that the language she will be using Is only for the film and not to be used any other time.

      Having a part In a short film sounds exciting, and a few actresses who started out young are still doing good. I would also think about putting the money away for her college.




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      Dawnkaren wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I think you should trust your first instinct - which you say is to not allow her to take the role.  I agree.  If it compromises your values, then you should turn the part down.  There will always be other parts.  I think at the tender age of 6 she should be protected from any kind of violence, she has plenty of time in the future to earn money.  Just my opinion.




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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • Being paid is no excuse for foul language coming out of children’s mouth.  

      You’ve got a choice here.  You can teach her that anything is alright if you get paid enough, or you can teach her to take the moral high ground.




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      Anne E wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I wouldn’t let her do it.




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      Anne E wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • I would have to say no.  She can’t unlearn the bad words and shooting that she’d be learning.




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      Linda Hendricks wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • Well... if you think she wants to act and is a natural... and you think there is a future in it for her... I would let her do it... if she’s not really interested... then I’d let it go..

      Either way... as far as the shot goes...I would talk to her about the world of make believe... it might be a good lesson for her to understand the difference between real life and what she sees on TV and in the movies.

      As for the choice words...I was 5 when I was playing school and cursed at my dolls... my mother calmly asked where I heard that... and I said oh... Mrs XXXX says it all the time (my kindergarten teacher)... so sheltering her isn’t going to change her eventual exposure ... someone, somewhere will say those words... she just needs to understand that it isn’t acceptable in real life.




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • If it were my daughter I would say no due to her being so young. I would go with your gut feeling on this one and what kind of film is this that they would want a young child to play that part?




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • Personally, I hate seeing young kids doing those types of skits. It always makes me cringe and ask what kind of parent would let their child do that.

      IMO




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      Frannie1964 wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • And thats probably why I don’t have kids...lolworried




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      Cristina Corral wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • She has done other ‘mature’ films but she had no idea what the content meant at all, nor did I want to tell her.  When she see’s this film she just remembers how fun is was to shoot it!

      I had trouble trying to upload it but you can see it here:

      This is sort of an anti-abortion video, but not used for anti-abortion groups.  This film was done by a NYC Film graduate and entered into a film festival.  We will see how it places.




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      Cristina Corral wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • You see, here is the weird thing happening with the posts.  I posted it and it didn’t show up until I posted it again.  Sorry for the duplicate posts.frown




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 28, 2010
    • that was an a amazing vid, but there was no cussing or her being shot. She has talent, choose the proper roles.  

      My hubby works in the studios and see how kids react and said he would never let our girls [being twins] do any acting until they were old enough to understand and decide for themselves.

      She has talent, I do not think she needs to be in such an adult type of shoot like the shooting and cussing. heart




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      Msj wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • no input here but I WOULD love to know the outcome!




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      Angelcart wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • She’s beautiful!




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      Cristina Corral wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • @Tracy/Angelcart Thanks, and I have another short film posted on my video page here.  This one, she has a speaking roll....again, a little adult content, but no cussing or violence.  

      Take a look at it if you have a chance.  She did very well!!!  It’s called The Shell Game




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      Denise Critcher wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • I don’t know if it’s right or wrong. On my mother side of my brain I would say no she just too young. But my non mother side would say is she old enough mentally to handle this? Does she know what is going to be asked by her?  

      Take yourself out of the question you see a girl and asked to do this part as a person looking in what would be your answer?  

      If she is talented enough other things will come her way.heartheart




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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • She is darling...this can be a tough decision when it comes to adult content taken on by children, but unfortunately kids hear all types of bad language at any given time, you always hope it does not rub off on them at young ages..but she is talented, so maybe pick and choose the proper films for her might be an idea..IMO!happy




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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • can’t see my post..frown




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      Cristina Corral wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • Thanks, Mary & Denise.  She is a good little actor.  You should see the short film that I have in my video collection on my profile page!estatic




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      Cristina Corral wrote Apr 29, 2010
    • I know, I can’t see mine either until someone else posts !  What’s going on???worried




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      Hbrose wrote Apr 30, 2010
    • Wow! for just a few short minutes what a powerful film! I was so engrossed in the story/message I almost forgot why I was watching it (hope they are recognized for their work on this).  As for your daughter, so adorable and talented, she did a great job!  As for your current delima, boy that’s tough, i can see your conflict. I’m two sided too. On the one hand as a parent I dread the idea of exposing such a precious, innocent 6 year old to such mature and derogatory content. As we all know, in today’s world our kids will be subjected to this sort of thing soon enough, so why push it at such a young age?!  BUT, on the other hand, if acting is the path she is likely to take and she has the talent and ability (clearly she does), and if you think this role opportunity will help expose her talent further and escalate her potential career as a serious child actor, I would have really have to consider it!  And of course, as a parent help her clearly understand the role of acting is just that and should have no influence on personal character or beliefs, etc.

      Do you trust the film maker, producer, whatever that their work is of influence in the industry such that the people and actors involved are viewed as “a” list type professional actors?

      Such conflict on this one! Good luck and I suppose the bottom line for me would be to “go with your gut feeling“, as many of suggested.




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      Kathryn O'Hara wrote May 1, 2010
    • What a beautiful girl!  You must be very proud of her.  

      If it were my daughter, I would not let her take the role. Integrity is not something that is for sale and no amount of compensation is sufficient to pay for the loss of her innocence. Bad language is hard to unlearn, and even if she doesn’t know the meanings of the words she is speaking,they are still degrading words.  And as a gun owner myself, I HATE to see unsafe/criminal use of a firearm in any situation,especially in a fictional arena such as a film. Go with your gut,Mom, and protect her.  She will be an adult soon enough and will be faced with all the crap we adults face for the rest of her life.




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      Cristina Corral wrote May 4, 2010
    • Thanks, Rose, for taking the time to watch her film above!  She did a wonderful job and enjoys it a lot.  She didn’t know what the message was in this film.  When she sees it now, she just smiles and remembers how much she loved working w/ the other two actors.

      She is taking this path and of course I want to shelter her.  But she has heard those words before, unfortunately.  She knows that those are adult words and that she is not allowed to say them.

      I do have to say that I am leaning on the side of not letting her do it.  It is more because of the shooting aspect.  Albeit not real...to a child, just the thought is quite frightening.

      Sarah, has more opportunity out there.  There are plenty of auditions that are awaiting her and I will post her next job!




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