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Do you consider yourself a good mother?  What are some of the things your mother did to you that you said you would NOT repeat when you raised your children?

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My mother did make a lot of mistakes when raising me...I use to think I was a good mother...until I found myself making the same mistakes my mother did...I was resentful at one time but the older I get the more understanding and accepting I get...I look at it like this...that is what they were...nothing but mistakes and we all learn from them...
I also believe parenting styles are inherited...and if it is negative it would be up to us to change them...that is what the responsible person would do...I did...now I have the love and respect of my children that I deserve and need...happy


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      Amy L. Harden wrote May 3, 2010
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      Amy L. Harden wrote May 3, 2010
    • Okay...no one is jumping on this question...My mother used to always criticize me and always told me that the things I wanted to do were not lady-like...“girl’s don’t sweat, Amy!”  I was always dressed in a dress, baby doll shoes AND when I was teenager I had to earn my own money to buy blue jeans or denim anything.  “Denim is for farmers, Amy...you are not a farmer!”  Whenever I had a dream to be in the theater, joining the Navy, competing in a beauty pageant...my mother always said, “What makes you think you can do that?!!!”   That was all I had to hear and I would go out to prove her wrong...though I did succeed in all these things...her critical voice still rings in my ears at times.  I have spent much time trying to put that negative voice on MUTE!

      I promised myself that I would never do this to my children...though I fear I have snuck a few in, yet I have caught myself...are retracted what I said immediately!




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      Mztracy wrote May 3, 2010
    • Hey Amy!

      I did, once consider myself the best mom around. Then my disease starting taking over and now i feel like my kids deserve sooo much better.




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      Karyn Olson wrote May 3, 2010
    • My mother did make a lot of mistakes when raising me...I use to think I was a good mother...until I found myself making the same mistakes my mother did...I was resentful at one time but the older I get the more understanding and accepting I get...I look at it like this...that is what they were...nothing but mistakes and we all learn from them...
      I also believe parenting styles are inherited...and if it is negative it would be up to us to change them...that is what the responsible person would do...I did...now I have the love and respect of my children that I deserve and need...happy




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      Kathryn O'Hara wrote May 3, 2010
    • My mother was a pretty good mother, but she was very religious and there was a lot of guilt tripping and negative reinforcement. And she hasn’t even spoken to me since 1984 because I am not involved with her church, and she firmly believes that I am going to hell and my husband and children will curse me from hell. (I got that in writing from her)  

      Somehow, I’ve managed to stumble along.  I accept her for who she is and who she is not, but I miss her.  My children don’t even know what she looks like.  I think she did the best she could.  I also know that how I parent is my choice and I get to decide how I will do things.  I love my kids and enjoy every minute with them.  They keep coming home for dinner and calling their dad and I, so they must love us too!




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      Mzd3 wrote May 3, 2010
    • My Mom was too stressed and depressed . She was not very loving then. She also turned a blind eye to things that were going on that shouldnt have. She didnt protect me. BUT... she is very different now, and I have always and will always love her. But, I always tell my kids I love them and will always protect them from any harm that I can.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 3, 2010
    • IMO  I am an excellent mom, I worked midnights when they were young while their dad stayed with them during the night. I home schooled them when they were in that early leraning stage so they excelled when they did get to school. I am their best friend as well as their mother and they know how to seperate the two. They were introduced to church at a very early age both are saved and filled with the Holy Spirit. HALLELUJAH!!!!!! I vowed to never beat my children or scold them to the point of never wanting to share their feelings and thoughts with me like my mother did me. I always said I would never mistreat my children in any form or fashion and I kept my promise, they both are doing well in their lives and that makes me a proud mom.




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      Mzd3 wrote May 3, 2010
    • Thats awesome Neicy!  heart




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      Lisa Brown wrote May 3, 2010
    • Well, I never spanked my kids with hangers or wooden spoons so that was an improvement.  When I was 11 I was responsible for watching my 1 yr old sister during my summer vacation while mom was at work.  I took good care of her but I think I was too young for that job.  Also, I don’t ever remember my mom just hugging us and telling us she loved us.  I did that to my kids all the time, even when they were teenagers, I made them sit in my lap and I held them and told them I loved them.  Course they hated that...LOL.  My mom didn’t protect me either, when she found out my stepfather had messed with me, her response was “I will keep an eye on him.”  She didn’t divorce him till she found out he was messing with another woman.  That sent a really horrible message to me.




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      Mzd3 wrote May 3, 2010
    • sorry u went thru that lisarene , it hurts, i know.




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      Lazylola wrote May 3, 2010
    • I learned how to parent by the way I was not parented. My mother was abusive every which way, verbally, physically and emotionally. I love my kids dearly and I know they feel the same way...we tell each other we love each other all the time. I do consider myself a good motherestatic




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