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My brother has always been very selfish, irresponsible and a liar growing up.  I thought he would change, but he is now almost 40 years old!!! Instead of changing to a nicer person he is worse!  Is there a diagnosis for this?  Most people mature and change.  It doesn’t appear that he will be changing anytime soon.  It’s heartbreaking!


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      Anonymous wrote Dec 1, 2008
    • The only person we can change is ourselves.  I am sorry for your heartbreaking.

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      Amy L. Harden wrote Dec 2, 2008
    • I totally agree with the above answer.  You can only change can not pilot another person’s is up to them to change.  As heartbreaking as it is for you, the only thing you can do is ensure that his behavior doesn’t cause problems within your own life, encourage him to seek him anyways...just because he is your him in God’s hands for His care...understand that worrying about him or allowing the heartbreak to consume you is not doing you or him any good.

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      Anonymous wrote Dec 2, 2008
    • Unfortunately, he will never change and he has caused trouble for the family.  He doesn’t have a job nor is he interested in pursuing one. He doesn’t care about anybody and has no gratitude whatsoever. It’s going to be harder for him as he becomes older.  Oh well!

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