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I am over the ex-husband and have been remarried for over 2 years now. A family member close to me had an affair with my ex-husband while we were still married and the family member repeatedly did this.  I told the family member that I forgave but will never forget. I no longer feel that I can trust anyone.  Especially females.  Any words of wisdom?



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      Angelcart wrote May 11, 2010
    • Well I too like many women have been cheated on by their husband’s/ex’s.  I found I couldn’t trust him, not women.  I think maybe you need to dig deep down inside and realize it takes two that it just wasn’t her.  Now, this in no way excuses her behavior especially being a close family member.  As long as you don’t trust other women and carry this inside you I believe it’ll eat you up.  Perhaps you could attend some counseling class’s or read some books to help you get over this feeling your having.  Best of luck to you.  It’s tough but if I can do I’m sure you can too!happy




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      UK Girl wrote May 11, 2010
    • I agree with my friend above - it takes two to tango and most females wouldn’t touch another woman’s man so just heal and move on honey heart




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      Vikki Hall wrote May 11, 2010
    • You have been given wise words of wisdom! However you feeling mistrustful is really not hurting anyone but yourself. And you really do deserve moreheart

      Best of luck to you!




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      Kathryn O'Hara wrote May 12, 2010
    • Same as above, but I would add that it is ok to protect yourself in the future.  To do that, remember that “Actions always speak louder than words!”  So no matter what someone says to you, you always look to their actions to discern their true intentions. And yeah, some counseling will help you sort thru the feelings and separate emotions from fact.  The space in your heart that is taken up by mistrust is space that cannot be filled with love and joy.

      Wishing you  wonderful life!




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      Maryann Rhodey wrote May 12, 2010
    • You have been given some great advice by all the women here.  You really need to focus on you now.  Take care of the piece that is eating away at you.  You can’t move forward if you are still dealing with those issues of mistrust and as Vikki said those feelings are really only hurting you.  Take care of yourself and give yourself the gift of healing.  Give yourself permission to move forward and learn how to trust again.  Angelcart’s suggestion to read or seek counseling is good advice.  

      Wishing you all the best!




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