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If you had it to do over, would you keep your last name after marriage or take your husband’s?

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 14, 2010
    • I’ve been married twice. I’ve done paperwork to change my social security card, my driver’s license, my credit cards, my bank account and now I’m going through the name change on my passport. I think in retrospect I would have preferred to just keep my maiden name after marriage. After all, it’s the name given me at birth. It’s who I am.




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      Tamra wrote May 14, 2010
    • I’ve thought about that at different times in my life.  When I graduated from college at 21, I was already married.  But I chose to honor my parents by graduating with my maiden name, and it appears on my degree.  As soon as I started my career, I began using my married name.  

      Having two sons who will always carry my husband’s last name, I’m glad I changed mine.  And later this month, we will celebrate our 30th anniversary, so I’ve been a married person with his last name longer than I was a maiden with my parents’ name.

      I’d have to say I’m glad I made the choice I made.




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      Cristina Corral wrote May 14, 2010
    • I always kept my maiden name so it made it totally easy when I needed things like that!




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      Tuliplady wrote May 14, 2010
    • I’ve been married twice and taken hubby’s last name both times.  In hindsight, I wish I’d kept my own last name.  It would have saved on so much paperwork.  

      Now they tell me when I renew my drivers license, I’m going to have a nightmare proving who I am. Since the name on my birth certificate, which I don’t have a copy of, is different than the name on my license, I have to have documentation of all the name changes.




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      Hbrose wrote May 14, 2010
    • This is my second marriage as well. Though it was such a hassle to go through the name change process (once again) to my husband’s name,  I’m glad I did.  To each his own, I suppose its a matter of preference.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 14, 2010
    • It matters not to me because I still have my maiden name lol!




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      Anne E wrote May 14, 2010
    • I would have kept my maiden name if i would have suspected that I’d get divorced.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote May 14, 2010
    • The Chinese always keep their maiden names after marriage.  Sometimes, it causes confusion.  

      My divorce is upcoming and I am debating if I should change back to my maiden or keep it till I need another change in life, down the road, if necessary.




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      Lazylola wrote May 14, 2010
    • The first time I changed it, big mistake, that ended in divorce, I didn’t change it the second time and he wasn’t too thrilled with my decision to keep my name. That marriage also ended in divorce, glad I didn’t go through the hassle to change it to his and then the hassle to change it back...I will never change it for anyone again...




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      Momofthreeprincess wrote May 14, 2010
    • I am sitting thinking about just hyphenating my ex-last name with my maiden name.  Its already like on family farm stuff.  And If I get remarried who knows what I will do.  Its so damn hard to change anything anymore.  So maybe I will just be with the hyphen.




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      Frannie1964 wrote May 14, 2010
    • I never did change my last name to his. I just plan on keeping mine.




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      Paris Mano wrote May 15, 2010
    • When I got my divorce you could take your maiden name back at that time at no cost. I chose to take back my maiden name because that is who I am. If I ever got married again, and make no mistake hell would freeze over before I did, I would keep my maiden name. heart




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      Veggie wrote May 15, 2010
    • When I divorced my second husband, I didn’t know I could have changed my name back!  I wish I had.  I still carry it because of the hassle & money.  I would love to have my name back.

      When we did divorce & found this all out a couple years later, I did for a while want to keep it because my youngest daughter was still home with me and in school so thought it would be easier on her.

      Now, I do NOT like having it tongue out




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      UK Girl wrote May 15, 2010
    • Everyone I work with knows me by my maiden name but I changed my name when I got married and I’m also debating if I should go back to just my maiden name .... I wish I had never changed my name but my husband made a big deal about it tongue out




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      Vikki Hall wrote May 15, 2010
    • I am glad I took on both of my hubz names! My maiden name is Hungarian and difficult for most to pronounce. So going from that to Hall is so much easier especially since my 1st name is Victoria.  The 1st day of school was always the day that decided if the teach and I would get along for the year. Correcting your teacher on how to say your name and oh yeah don’t call me Victoria either could go 2 different ways.

      Sheesh apparently I’m not over it...... estatic




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      KRIS JULIN wrote May 15, 2010
    • Due to the hasstle of taking my first husbands name, trying to get it changed back to my maiden name with the INS has been a nightmare.

      This time round I have kept my maiden name, I told my husband there are too many ex-wives with his name.

      I have no problem at all with anyone adding his name to mine or the formal Mr and Mrs if it is to a formal dinner  on name cards or cards in general.  Sometimes my last name is added to his. Now that is funny  

      I did offer that he could change his name to mine




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      Terri Carroll wrote May 15, 2010
    • Hindsight is 20/20, but in retrospect (had I even SUSPECTED that my husband and I were going to split),I would have kept my maiden name, kept my finances separate, retained my individuality.  One thing I can guarantee is that there won’t be another marriage, or another name change....I refuse to go thru the hassle on either point again!!!!




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      Tracy Lynn Brown wrote May 28, 2010
    • Yes im proud to carry his name. now my ex i cant say that about. my last name was Lowe for 20 yrs, and i wanted my maiden name back, but i met Don, and married him.




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