How do you deal with grief? Are you prepared for the passing of your parents? Will their passing be any different if you are prepared after a long illness or if it is sudden?
I cry, talk to god, get angry, sad, talk to someone and try to process the feelings and start over the next day.
No I am not prepared for that. My Dad passed when I was 16 so I understand a bit ...
I try not to think about it and will deal with it when the time comes.
Faith gets me through a lot. When my dad passed he has been ill and steadily declining for a few months. We spent a lot of quality time together and when all was said and done, I had to give him permission to let go and let God take him.
My mom and I see each other a lot and talk on the phone every week. We have many heart to heart talks and are very candid about the inevitable. We‘re both prepared for her passing when that time comes.
I don’t know what I would do If my mom passed or when that day comes. I just know I will be a mess! It’s always been my mom and I. thats all I have to say. My dad, I never met my biological dad so If he passes, I won’t feel a thing. When my stepdad passed away I was hurt, but we knew It was coming cause he had cancer and we were prepared but It still hurt and I was very sad.
both of my parents passed away - I was 15 when my dad died from a blood clot and 33 when mom passed from a brain anyersym. My mother in law just died from pancreatic cancer and I can say the pain is still pain but I have a better time of seeing the beauty in her life and not dwell on her death.
My parents and grandparents are already gone. I celebrated their lives when they died and their memories live on in my heart and in the photos I have. Have been dealing with death of loved ones since I was like 4 years old. I recognize that it’s part of life.
Its going to be hell. I have been watching them get older , and its so sad . Im not sure if I will be able to handle it. Im not good with death. Not sure how I will be able to go on without them.
ok, lets try this again.. lol was halfway through my reply, and i went back to yahoo homepage! LOL
My daddy passed away 16 years ago. i was pregnant with my son, so i felt i needed to be “strong” for the baby’s sake.. so i dont think i have ever really greived..
My step dad passed away on 13 Feb, and it was hard. it was espically hard seeing how badly mom was affected...
momma passed away on 25 April, and i have this opened wound..i havent really grieved for her yet either..i know i will grieve for all three, and when it hits, it will be like a flood..
I was fortunate enough to beable to take care of all three of them, and am so blessed by that! it was a healing time, a restorative time..
i miss them all terribly..
IMO it makes no differrence. I lost my mother when I was 17 to cancer (she went fast) and then I lost my father to cancer about 9 years ago and we had time. It still hurt’s just as much whether you have ample notice or not.
Im not sure you can be prepared for something like that. My parents, no not at all. Im an only child, and they have allways been there to help. so ill be lost.We have allready lost some loved ones and i still think of them, and i cant imagine not seeing them again. so i have to push it from my mind.Thats one of the things that really bugs me about getting older, We feel like we are losing our familly. mostly to cancer. My grandmother of lung,breast and ovarian. My beloved uncle died of bone cancer. and my mother has been three yrs cancer free, of breast cancer. Woo Hoo!And yeah we were smokers, i still am. its just so hard to quit.
Both of my parents have passed. My Mother had pancreatic cancer for 22 months and died in November 1997 and my dad died unexpectedly in August 2008. Both were hard to adjust too. Grief is natural, it is hard to adjust to one not being physically with you even when you are the care givier and know they are dying. But the grief process is one that was very hard for me. Both impacted in ways I did not expect.
My dear Fab Sisters, we have all lost so many loved ones.
My husband died when he was 39. It was lymphoma. Took him in 4 weeks. We were totally unprepared. When he died, there was so much we had yet to talk about. It was shockingly ... unfinished. I think his mom and dad felt the same way.
Like Kita, though, I believe that when we die, we are simply born into the spirit world - perhaps it’s a beautiful place, that’s what I’m hoping.
My dad died in 2001. The doctor told us he wasn’t going to make it and he didn’t. It was a surprise because I always thought my mom would die first since she multiple sclerosis for such a long time. My dad was sick too with kidney disease and he was in and out of hospitals before he died, but it still came as a surprise.
My mom told me she was dying a few days before she did. She was in a lot of pain because basically her body was shutting down. She was ready to die years before she did and she talked to me about it quite frequently. My mother suffered from multiple sclerosis for over 37 years and her death to me was a release from her suffering. As a Christian, I firmly believe she is in a better place and is no longer suffering. That’s what got me through the grieving process.
But it’s still really wierd not having any parents anymore. I don’t have any friends who have lost both of their parents. I was 30 when my dad died and 36 when my mom died.
no matter how my parents pass away i will grieve the same. i would seek out solitude, books of wisdom, a picture of my family, lollies and lots and lots of fruit, water and healthy food. somewhere close to the sea or deep within a forest. i would cry, i would talk out loud as if they were next to me, i would reminese the good and bad old days with them. i would allow this solitude for at least a week then i would just pick myself up and get back to my normal life routines.
I lost my father nine months ago and I am still grieving. There are days I break down and then there are days I am stronger. Death has always been hard for me to deal with. I’ve had friends and other loved ones that have passed as long as 22 years ago and I still find myself grieving that loss. I find comfort through the love of my family and knowing that someday, I’ll see them again.
Ive lost both of my parents...my father is April of 1998 and my mother Dec. 28, 2009. It was more difficult for me when my father died. We did not expect it even though he was very sick. I was closer to him too. But he suffered from diabetes and congestive heart failure and had two heart bypass surgeries. He as tired.
My mother had alzheimers for over 12 years. I prayed that God would take her because this is a horrible disease. My mother didn’t want to be like that and I prayed God would take her and free her of it.
I miss them but they are both in a much better place than me. It’s not goodbye..but see you later with them. I will see them again in heaven and I take a lot of comfort in that. We are on this earth but a short time. Think about how fast this past year has gone...and then the average life span is 75 years of age...we are not here long. So instead of grieving I just live my life as God would have me...do the right thing...and LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME. My parents would want me to do that.
I am really not sure as both of my parents are quite healthy..my mom being 75, dad being 77. They live ten hours away from me, so I don’t get to see them that much. We all try our best to meet together in the summer for mini vacations.
We do talk frequently on the phone and e-mail...so just knowing mom would not be there to talk to would be devastating, so I pray she is around for another 20 years as is my dad.