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How do I get over the death of my pet Alfred? Does this empty whole inside me ever go away?

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      Rosa Page wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Alfred was my baby. I was the only master he had ever know and I let him down by lossing sight of him when the delivery guy came to the house. I was upset that the delivery was an hour and half late and now the food was cold. I guess alfred got out when I was fighting with the guy. When we closed the door and sat down to eat, my husband and I called for alfred cause he was not at the table begging. Mean while my neighbor knocked at the door asking to please tell her that alfred was inside. At that moment my world ended. The pain is something I have never felt. I can’t stop crying. I can’t stop feeling sad. I can’t go to my car cause I have to walk over where Alfred was hit and died. The morning and just before bed is the hardest. I feel empty. I feel lost as if I am looking for the door out of this haze. I can’t feel anything but empty. Yes, I can go on with my day but when I get home or when I get up or go to bed I feel this empty whole. Does this feeling ever go away?




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      Yana Berlin wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I’m so sorry to hear that. As with everything time heals wounds, but a whole inside may always be there. I know you probably don’t want to hear it, but getting a new puppy will help. Staying busy is always a good thing to get your mind off.

      Big hugs and hang in there.




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I’m sorry for your loss.
      It takes time...




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      Jenni0811 wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Losing a pet is heart wrenching. I have kept the ashes of my 2 dogs in a wooden box along with their collars and a couple of keepsakes. I also still have photos of them around the house.




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Time will fill the void.  So sorry...




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      Fxydiva wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I lost my beloved 4 year old Shih-tzu Rudy 9 months ago tomorrow to a kidney disease.  I still miss my dog but I know he’s in a better place and I didn’t want him to suffer.  I have since brought a new member into my family, a now 6 month old shih-tzu named Oreo.  I’m making new memories with Oreo, but Rudy will forever be in my heart.  I got Oreo 4 months after Rudy passed. It depends on the person how soon you want to bring another pet into your home.
      Rudy

      Oreo




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      Linni wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • it takes time... time heals, and a new puppy does help..

      i am so sorry for your loss! we had to put our dog of 14 years to sleep, and it was very hard..time, and memories helped!

      hugs
      Linni




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      Rosa Page wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Thank you to all for the kind words.




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • What40, you have my deepest sympathy. The pain will eventually lessen.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I am so very sorry. There are many of us here who can understand your feeling of loss. The hurt you feel and the emptiness in your heart will eventually be replaced by a sweet and tender memory.




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      Carine Nadel wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I’m so sorry for your loss.  the pain does ease, but I still get teary-eyed over my Tippy, the mixed terrier I had through my growing up years.  all of us still cry about our beloved Lucky (shepherd mix) and Snowy (a white domestic cat)and believe me, we are holding our breath about our beloved Sunshine who is 12-1/2.
      I know the pain, all too well. I feel for you.




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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I am so sorry. We lost a poodle when I was growing up in a similar situation. It was heart wrenching, and one of the hardest pet deaths I have ever had to deal with, aside from my horse that died about 18 months ago. They are just like members of the family. I empathize with you. Time does help. Just as others have said, another pet help too. It took me over a year to get another horse. We never did get another poodle. Try to reflect on the good memories.




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      Rosa Page wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • This was Alfred my heart and my love.




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      Fxydiva wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • My heart and prayers are with you what40.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • It is hard when animals depart
      Once I cried for 30 days
      and my hubby thought I was going to commit suicide.
      I feel your pain in missing Alfred
      There is no replacement
      even though you know he is in doggie heaven.
      Take care.




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      Michelle Rowe wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • What40-I’m so sorry to hear about your beloved Alfred. I’ve had dogs my whole life (I have 3 now) and losing them is devastating. The only thing that helps me is to get another puppy right away. The new baby will keep your mind occupied. Losing Alfred the way you did will be especially painful and harder to get over. Sorry, but it’s true. I’ve had dogs killed by other dogs and to this day I cannot look at the spots where it happened. It’s just too painful. I wish I could reach out to you and give you a huge hug right now. There is just no easy way out of the crappy way that you feel right now. Reaching out to us fab40 women and other people in your life will help. Talk about baby Alfred to anyone and everyone who will listen.  

      Have you ever read the poem called The Rainbow Bridge? Sometimes it will help to imagine little Alfred here waiting for you.

      Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
      When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

      All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
      They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.  

      You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.  

      Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....  

      Author unknown...




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      Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Im so sorry for your loss.  Our beloved Shadoe was put to rest 4 years ago.  We were blessed to have him since he was 6 weeks old.  He was 16 when he passed and very ill.  He was a healthy, happy and vibrant Labrador Retriever in his youth.  In the last years of his life, we brought two cats (brothers) in the house with him.  My one cat Jesse was Shadoe’s protector.  He knew when Shadoe was having a bad day and slept with him to comfort him everynight.  When Shadoe passed, my Jesse was miserable.  It takes time to heal but the hole will always be there.  I mention Shadoe’s name and my Jesse still looks for him.  I, too, have Shadoe’s ashes proudly displayed in my home.  He will forever be a part of my family.




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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Im so sorry, My bloodhound “Blue” passed away this year.  He was a great tracker and he found so many lost pets.  When he was sick people called and said they had to have Blue no other to find their lost kitty, they said even sick they would pay for him to come find thier kitty but he died that weekend.  I bet he would have found it.. He was so good at tracking.. I miss my bloodhound baying at my window at night on a full moon, and the Coyotes.. joining in as he was king of the beasts.. Loved Blue.. miss my big slobber dobber.

      I feel for you.




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      Butterfly13 wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • I had my daughter Natalie (cat) 21 years.  She was the only child other then my siamese Frankie and growing up Candy -cat I have ever had. Since I never had human babies I gave them all my love and treated them as anyone would their children.
      It has been 5 years since Natalie died 12 since Frankie died and for me, the empty place in my heart will always be there. People have said over and over, no cats could have had a better mom.  My words of comfort to you is your beloved furry child was so lucky to have had you too! Im sorry for your loss.




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