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What do you do When a family member(s) pisses you Off?

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      MaryAnne Carrier-Harrison wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • Its Family-so hard to deal with.

      Can’t just forget about them and never see them or talk to them.

      What are we to do when they piss you off???




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      Lazylola wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • forget about them and never see them or talk to them




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      Mztracy wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • tell them, if they do not stop, cut ties.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • If they piss me off, they are going to know it.

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      heartheartheartheart




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      Michelle05 wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • WARNING: This is more of a blog than a reply ladies, hold on to your seats!

      Well, I actually had an instance last Thanksgiving, (YES ON Thanksgiving Day!tongue out).  It was My Husband vs. My Mother & Sister tag team! heartbreak

      My mother has this way of being a little immature at times, and it came out after dinner towards my husband.  They got into it, then my sister thought SHE needed to step in to defend my mother, not knowing fully what happened and that it was the mother that started it, and I tend to R-U-N away from confrontation.  So we jetted out of there as fast as United Airlines!  I cried the whole way home and SWORE up and down that I was never going to talk to mother/sister team again!!!  My husband wanted me to call them as soon as we got home, because you can't choose your family and he didn't want to be the reason I didn't talk to them ever again! (see ulterior motive) happy

      Anyway, when I’m mad - you know it!  So my sister started harassing me with messages and I made her sweat it out for a week! (mean sister, I know)ohhhh  The second I gave in to talk to her, Accusations flew out of the phone and smacked my face!  I was stunned to say the least.  Held my ground, made her aware of the “Real” situation that she so fondly defended, and she realized that she was wrong for the way she handled it.  Question for you Fab40‘ers, my mummy is 62, isn’t she old enough to defend her own battles?  Just curious!  

      In the end, I forgave everyone involved, especially myself, (for having a dysfunctional family happy).

      In the last 2 years, we have lost 3 family members and 2 friends.  Holding grudges is not good for your health or sanity for that matter.  

      We are not guaranteed a tomorrow, so shouldn’t we love thy family with all we got?

      heartMichelleheart




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      Lazylola wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • Michelle, in my case my mother is toxic, I “talk” to her on occasion but do not go out of my way to talk to her. My mental health improved when I severed ties. There are a couple of other family members that are also toxic and I just stay away from them. When we happen to end up around each other I am polite, I say hello, make small talk and move on.




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • if the cost is too much to be in the relationship........end it!




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      Michelle05 wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • I agree that some family members are more of an emotional burden than some.  And those should probably be left to their own despair.  I actually have a couple friends that don’t care to speak to some of their family members.  One friend has a sister that is unusually Cruel with a Capital “C“, and another friend whose mother is also “Cruella“.

      I am thankful that my dysfunctional family is just that, dysfunctional, and not “toxic“.  I’m sorry you have a mother like that Ruby.  But just think, you have a ton of “mothers” here for you here!  Including me  happy




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • I have cut ties because of immature/jealous siblings, my life is so much better without them in it trying to continuously make me the butt of their jokes.




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      Momofthreeprincess wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • When you have a family memeber that cause so much stress and grief in your life sometimes its best to have as little to do with them as you can.

      My brother stopped talking to me about 4 years ago.  He stopped talking to my parents about 5 almost 6 years ago.  His reason is so childish that I just can’t believe he acts the way how he does.  He stopped talking to them because he didn’t want to hear about their problems.  Reason for him not talking to me is because I told him that he had no right to tell me or my sister how to raise our children.  And yes he is a very toxic person and so is his wife.




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      Nerissa wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • I can pick my friends but not my family so I figure that God gave them to me for a reason. Some of which are  to learn tolerance, patience and forgiveness. There was a time when I allowed myself to get involved in the “negativity“. Now I handle it completely different, now I say “you can do whatever you like“, I am just not compelled to participate. I follow two of my favorite saying, if you can’t say anything nice, don’t day anything at all”  and ” one person can not argue” works for me...




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      Anne E wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • I tend to gripe about them to my friends. frown




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      Msj wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • my mom is 72 toxic and well irritating it took 30 years for me to learn to deal with her - one day I calmly told her how I felt and that I know she doesnt intend to be hurtful but “this is what Im feeling, and hearing,..”  

      I put a spin of humor in it well, my mom has a great sense of humor so we had a lil laugh and she really didnt realize how she had been coming off...  

      she apologized and well, she IS getting up there in age and I understand that is just her so I handle her with “kid gloves” and don’t take it too seriously and just keep our conversations controlled subject matter.

      hope that wasnt to confusing, I had a rough day tongue out




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Jul 28, 2010
    • estatic after my parents both passed my siblings ( I am the oldest ) turned toxic but by their account it was me. ..part I’ll own up to but as time went on I found that I was the one doing all the giving and comprising. I told them and they refused to see they had any wrong doings (keep in mind my sis who is the youngest, is really close with my brother )well anyway I will always love them and I miss them but everything is a two way street. I cut ties and never once have they tried to contact me and well my mental health is better. Just because they are family doesn’t always mean it productive or healthy




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      Linni wrote Jul 29, 2010
    • since the passing of my mom and step dad my siblings have hurt and pissed me off! so, i just distance myself..




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 29, 2010
    • My Mother was whacked in my opinion, and I stopped talking to her. She passed this March and I paid for my brother to go up and kept in touch with my sister through all of it though. It wasn’t bad feelings on my part, I got a lot of good things from my mother that I value, but to me it seemed like she was trying to pressure me into believing everything she believed in and got pissy at me if I iddn’t.  

      My usual is to let myself calm down when people have hurt and pissed me off before I will talk to them again so I don’t say something I’ll regret. I care more about how I handle the situation that how They handle it.  

      Cathie




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