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My boyfriend from my 20s and the man I should have married recently asked to be my Facebook friend and wants to know how I am doing. I haven’t talked to him in 20 years.  All the old memories have surfaced and I feel so alone.  He is married, two kids, nice home etc while I am long time divorced and barely getting by.  I have been crying for three days.  How do I move on and feel better?



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      Mamapan wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • Hit the “Ignore” button until you can handle it.  I don’t see anything good coming out of this...




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      Linda L wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • Agree with Mamapan.  Red flag - he’s married w/ children. I’m also long time divorced and barely getting by.  I cry too because I feel lonely, but you‘re not alone because you have people who care and support you.  Reach out to a family member, close girlfriend, your fab40 friends - we’ll help you along the way. heart




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • It makes me wonder just how happy he is in his marriage and what he’s exactly looking for by contacting you. I don’t know, Anne, I don’t have a good feeling about this - you may be too vulnerable right now.




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      Msj wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • last yr. the “one” that got away found me via myspace and we dated  and it turned into such a nightmare I had to get a detective and file stalking charges.... turned out he had been in prison for assault. Now, he is well dressed (wears suits/ties) handsome, church attending, says he is going to be a preacher, all the good stuff..... RUN RUN FAST




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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • It just doesn’t sound like you are in the right place emotionally to deal with this.  I would do like Mamapan says and hit the “ignore” button.

      Tulip




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      Cathie Beck wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • Ann, I’m not sure you should have married him, it’s odd to me he wants to be friends when he’s married. My X hooked up with a woman he knew before the divorce, so naturally I’m
      suspicious about your ex boyfriend too. Don’t cry, Sweetie, something good will come to you, I’m sure! You‘re smart, sweet and pretty too!  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Kathryn O'Hara wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • Even if he is happily married, it would be unfair to his wife and kids for you to re-enter his life.  

      But just the fact that he wants to be your friend is not too alarming, it just sounds like YOU are not in a good place to renew your friendship.  I’d suggest you hit the ignore button too.




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      Lazylola wrote Sep 2, 2010
    • ditto the ladies ignore suggestion




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