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It depends on the root of the anxiety I think. I find that I’m feeling more anxious when my perimenopause symptoms are present. I get a little flutter of anxiety right before a hot flash. It’s strange. It wasn’t like this last year when the hot flashes were at their worst.
Is it just when you are alone? You could start journaling them and seeing if there’s a pattern, especially if they become more intense and more frequent.
Wishing you well, Diane!
I did for awhile after the X moved out, but got over it. It’s kind of strange being alone after being used to having your daughter there, isn’t it? Do you have a dog or cat to snuggle with while you watch tv or read? Oh playing some music at night makes the house feel less empty too.
All the best to you!
Cathie
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All the time! I do better with one person around. More than that and I get anxious. Crowds are a definite no no. I’ve been like this for years and don’t like it one bit. But, I have managed with medications to go out into the work force and work at a part time job where I have minimal contact with other people. I feel for me it’s just a part of me I have to live with. Sorry, I know that doesn’t make you feel any better.
But I do hear there are groups, if you chose to pursue that route and sometimes medications are needed. Good luck with whatever you choose.
I don’t mind being alone. My husband used to travel more than he does now but luckily he goes out with friends golfing and doing their guy stuff which is fine with me. Both our kids were here for a visit a couple weeks ago and I felt alone for a couple days after they left but it was nice to have some time to myself again. I’m not really alone though since I have the 4 kitties.
No anxiety whatsoever. I prefer to be alone. Being alone and being lonely are two different things.
I remember when my mother’s husband passed away, she had a hard time being alone and was close to losing all sense of reality because she could not fathom life alone. She even tried to get me to pick up and move to New Jersey from my home in New York to be with her. She was willing to get a 2 bedroom condo so we could be together. I stopped that like a freight train. I told her how could she expect me to uproot my life because she was so afraid of being alone? My single, solitary life that I’ve been enjoying for decades? I reminded her that I have lived most of my adult life alone, prefer it that way and have no problems depending on myself for everything. I told her that it was possible for her to be independent, that millions of women are single and enjoying life and if she ever had any difficulty, to give me a call, I’ll calm her fears. But there was no way in hell I was going to pick up and move to Jersey. Never in this life that’s for sure!
Terma, I’m a little worried about how I will handle it when my old wolf hybrid passes on because he’s been my motivation to survive the ETP (environmental toxic poisoning) and there is No Way I’d subject Winter to the X’s (lack of) care. LOL, maybe I’ll just have to live on to spite the X? LOL
Cathie
I have no trouble being alone. In fact, my hubby and I have the problem that we each like to be home alone. Lucky for him I have lots of evening meetings and things, and I have time when I get off work before he gets home to be alone.
If he were gone from my life, I’m sure I’d get lonesome, but I never mind being alone. I have too many things to do.
Tulip
I enjoy being alone :)
Sometimes I have been the most lonely in a room full of people.
I have anxiety from time to time, but doubt it is because I am alone. I think it is due to menopause.
Being home alone during the day is my chance to unwind and get things done..and when hub goes on his hunting trips it is a way for me to replenish and nurture me for a bit, so when he is back home I am a new person...and our son is working so much that I am lucky to see him, but I know for sure I will miss him when he ventures out on his own, hopefully by that time I will be involved in a big project.
Give yourself the much needed time you deserve, Dianne!
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