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How is your relationship with her?  Your Mother-In-Law.  I personally, did not have the opportunity to develop a relationship with my husband’s mother, since she passed before we met.  I have heard beautiful stories and then I have heard some not so good.  Care to share the type of relationship you have with your Mother-in-Law?

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      Inakika wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • My mother in law was great! She was the complete opposite of my mom, a real ballsy dame! She encouraged me to stand up for myself and never be a shrinking violet.
      When I first married Alvin, she and I bumped heads alot. He is her only son and I had intruded. Over time we grew to love each other, I even called her mom.
      Sadly, she passed away May 13, 2006 after a valiant fight with cancer. I was right there with her when she passed.
      My father in law says that I have taken on so many of her ways, they even call me little Hattie sometimes!
      And talk about a cook! Being born and raised in Louisiana, she could cook her a** off! Nobody makes biscuits like mom! I miss her, but I know she’s taking care of my son for me so that helps alot.
      This is my favorite picture of my in laws. Circa early 70’s  




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • thevintaged...I am LMAO, oh how funny.. I get tickled hearing some of the mother-in-law stories.

      Tori, that’s really great, not many can say the same.  My husband on the otherhand is always telling folks he has the best mother-in-law.  Not sure if he figures if he doesn’t he would have the worse wife...LOL...  No really my mom gets along very well with him.




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • my first mother-in-law was a nut to say the least..she has grand-daughters that she really doesn’t know, even though we live about 35 minutes away from her...she constantly complaining (well used to) and she’s two-faced...She does not believe in divorce but was in total agreeance to me divorcing her son because he didn’t treat me well...more recently she’s said that I’m still married to her son..(The bible says once married, always married unless the person is dead..Her words)

      My current mother-in-law is a meddler...she thinks she can run my house and I’m not down with that...She tries to tell us how to raise our children..and we‘re not down with that..lol...She told us that our 13 year old has ADHD and I’m not feeling that at all...He just needed me..a mummy... Now she says that baby boy is spoiled because he cries when she wants to hold him....

      As you can see...I can do without in-laws...lol




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • teek..you know this is a soft spot for me right now...right?..lol...BTW...christmastime still does not bring out the good in my ex-mother-in-law...she does not buy anything for my girls...




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Ingrid, how beautiful, and she was indeed a beautiful woman.

      Soulful, I am sad that you had a double whammy...sounds like MnL #1 is a scrooge




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • I have been married to my husband longer than his Mother raised him. LOL
      We had a rocky start, he being an only child and son, she didn’t take to some floosy coming and stealing her son.
      It took us a few years, but she and I have a great relationship now.
      She lives many miles away from us, so we don’t get to see her as much as we would like.
      But then again, the miles between us might be why we get alone so well.
      When we were home for Thanksgiving, I told her that I had raised him longer than she did, I think it’s about time she take him back for awhile. She said......no thank you sista!




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      Inakika wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Hey ladies, I have a friend with a boat! LOL!




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      Daphne wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • My mother-in-law is an extremely helpful, giving, involved grandparent who, on occasion, has over-stepped her boundaries...only to be reminded who the Mommy really is (by my husband).  I believe that she has always had very good intentions so i don’t let it get to me.

      I know my MIL wasn’t crazy about my husband’s decision to marry me...but, to be honest, i don’t think anyone would have made her happy.  Over time, she has come to realize that it is I who makes her son happy...and that makes her happy.  

      After nearly 25 years of knowing each other, we have come to respect one another.  I have learned that if i want my MIL’s honest opinion about something, i have to be sure she doesn’t know my husband’s opinion!  LOL




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      Daphne wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • My mother-in-law is an extremely helpful, giving, involved grandparent who, on occasion, has over-stepped her boundaries...only to be reminded who the Mommy really is (by my husband).  I believe that she has always had very good intentions so i don’t let it get to me.

      I know my MIL wasn’t crazy about my husband’s decision to marry me...but, to be honest, i don’t think anyone would have made her happy.  Over time, she has come to realize that it is I who makes her son happy...and that makes her happy.  

      After nearly 25 years of knowing each other, we have come to respect one another.  I have learned that if i want my MIL’s honest opinion about something, i have to be sure she doesn’t know my husband’s opinion!  LOL




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • I’ve always envisioned what it would have been like to have a mother-in-law, and have played both sides in my mind.  My son is an only child and some of these answers will definitely help me to be a good mother-in-law should he choose to one day get married.  

      Thank you ladies...




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • yeah vintagediva...a long boatride where they can’t find their way back home...lol...

      jacquie..it’s not that MIL #1 is a scrooge...she does well with her other grandkids...and it’s not because they‘re my kids because the woman tells anyone...she adores me...I’ve never bothered to try and figure that woman out though...she’s ok with my ex’s supposed child that came about when he cheated..so who knows..my girls are better off without her and they don’t miss her either...they have my mum every day of their lives...lol




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • My mother-in-law passed June of this year. Out of respect, I will not vent. Let’s just say it was a miserable 26 years.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Jacquie, that is so sweet of you to be concerned about being a great Mother in law.
      I’m sure you will be the best!




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • inakika...can i borrow that boat?...i’ll rig it so that it gets a slow leak...did i just say that?...my bad...

      teek...it is indeed funny that this topic came up today..i wonder what the universe is trying to tell me...lol




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      Carine Nadel wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • MIL is one of the most narcissistic women on the face of the earth.  No one can talk w/ her-she has to have the floor, all the time.
      Literally, she has outworn her welcome EVERYWHERE. She has a personality that grates.
      And the kicker-she thinks everyone loves her. Of course, that does go w/ being narcissistic, doesn’t it.
      My husband is truly a saint. His sister moved to a different part of the state and only sees her a total of maybe 6 days a year. And she complains about 3 of them, b/c she has to have her at Thanksgiving and Mother’s Day. As I said, no one wants her.
      Sad isn’t it? She’s never seen her second Great grandson and has only seen the 1st one once.
      SAD, SAD, SAD...




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • LC, thank you.  Becoming a wife, mother, in-law, etc, thought we don’t take the time to, does require some advance research.  

      Leadinglady, I do honor your respect, but I also got the message...lol

      Carine, how awful, the poor lady, I bet she is pretty lonely and therefore, she tries to make all others just as lonely and miserable

      Soulful, yes, your girls are much better off, she has some issues...with your mom, I bet they get lots of granny love




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      Lisab41 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • I love my MIL. She is so very caring and understanding. She knows her son can have mood swings that puts shame to any woman. She sometimes feels I am a saint for being with him and thanks me for mellowing him out. Now my Father-in-law is another story....




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      Inakika wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Wow, Carine, that is sad. She’s missing out on so much.

      Soulful, I’ll help you! We’ll put Carines’ MIL on there too!




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Hopefully I’ll be a good mother-in-law too...although I’ve got a while to think about it...my daughter has no intentions on getting married...but all of her friends think I’m the coolest mum ever...and they just love the relationship my hubby and I have together because we‘re so playful...

      my mum is the ideal MIL..she keeps to herself and lets us be the parents...hubby adores her because they can get their drink on together...lol




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • OMG, the boat is going to sink before it leaves the shore...LOL




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • lol...hold on jacquie..i’m sure there’s more MIL’s to go into that boat...just watch and see..lol




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • easy...the little mermaid....ursula....
      looks like her and is loud like her...nuff said




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • LMAO, here comes Tracy adding hers to the boat.  I see a sardine boat heading out ashore..RTFL




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • mztracy...didn’t we just have this convo on the phone..not an hour ago?....lmao

      I think I missed out on having the perfect MIL in hubby’s bio mom...The stories I hear about her she was such a pistol..and a beautiful woman...She struggled with the English lauguage..but it think that in itself would have been fun...God wanted her to shine with Him though...




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • thevintaged, maybe, if she can bring herself to, she can take a page from your mom’s book...




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      Busylizzy wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • PLease don’t forget my monster-inlaw oops I meant mother-inlaw she gets on my last nerve and she knows that (God Forgive me for what I’m about to say). She is a backstabbing “HEFER” always trying undercover things always be sneakie.




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Oh Busy, don’t you worry dear, I am sure there is room on the boat...LOL




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Heck...we’ll make room for her...CALLING ALL MONSTER-IN-LAWS...lol...ooops I mean...mother-in-laws..lol




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      Busylizzy wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Please let me know when the boat is leaving so I will have her there on time. LMAO..........




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      Mary Clark wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • I have a wonderful mother in law.  She has never tried to tell my husband and I what to do, but if there was something that concerned us...she would in a very politely way let us know how she felt about whatever...and why.  99% if the time she was dead on it.  

      I’ve always respected her and actually preferred her to stay with me at night in the hospital when I gave birth to both of my boys.  At the time she was a nursing administrator over the entire hospital at night and really did know how to take care of you.  

      She has really helped my husband and I out in many ways when my husband was very sick a couple of years ago and didn’t work for 8 months.  We would have never made it without her and we owe her a lot for all of her help.  

      Now she is 77 years old.....loves to read...reads all the time.  Watches her particular tv shows....goes to church.....visits and checks on her friends....drives a Lexus...and loves to laugh.  I love her.




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Mary, that really great to have her in your life, my husband can tell your story, since my mom has always been there for us.




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      Leeann wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • I will try and make this short. My mother in-law doesn’t bother with my kids, it all started when I first  married  my husband. I have lung problems and so do my kids. I never allowed them to smoke in my house so they never would come around. They have always treated me really bad until four years ago when I was told I had cancer , they treated me great for a while and when I pulled through they went back to never calling. I just wash my hands of it. They hated my husbands first wife. I think they would hate anyone that was married to him! Life is to short , they are missing out on four wonderful  boys!




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • we sure will busylizzy...Hey..I’ll have mine there an hour ahead of time just to make sure she gets on the boat..cuz it’s getting mighty packed and the last thing I would want to happen is that they’ll be no room left for em...lol




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      Inakika wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • And how could she not love you Mary!
      My husband and my mom are very close. When we split up and I moved to Florida many moons ago, she took HIS side, not mine. But she was right.
      After his mom died, his relationship with my mom grew deeper. I told him she is our mom now, just like he shared his mom with me.




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Busy don’t you worry girl, that boat would not leave without her...LOL




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      Busylizzy wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Soulful40 & Jacquie6363 you both have me over here LMAO..... hahahaha.




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      Inakika wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Busy, give me her address and I’ll make sure she gets on that boat! LOL! Heck, I’ll pick her up first!estatic
      Too bad my friend dosen’t have a yacht!
      I have an idea! We‘re all smart women, lets build an ARK!




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • inakika..i think that’s a marvelous idea..we‘re surely gonna need it..lol...there are so many monster-in-law stories out there..lol




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      Busylizzy wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • Inakika I’ll supply the wood.Lol.........estatic




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      Mz. Queen wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • There just isn’t enough time or words to tell you about the two MNL’s in my marriage history book. One is indescribeable and one I just don’t care for. And both the sons had me fooled. The first one for 14 years and the second one for 7.

      I don’t know what to do!

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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Dec 15, 2008
    • lol...busy..i feel ya...

      47...it’s funny...MIL stories are always the same..either you love em or you hate em...there’s no middle ground...no grey area..lol




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 16, 2008
    • I’m thinking we might need a bigger boat here!! LOL




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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 16, 2008
    • I have a pretty good relationship with my mother in law. It was kind of rocky in the early years, but in retrospect, I think it was more because of my own insecurities than her personality.

      We are very different, and she seems to have accepted that about me. I don’t keep in touch very well, I’m sure that would improve things.  

      As for being a mother in law, it’s such a delicate position. I want to be helpful, but it can be tricky knowing when and how, if at all, to approach issues. I love my daughter in laws as if they were my own (one isn’t really married yet, but they live with us). I have a son in law too. Quite a different thing than with girls!

      I feel very fortunate that I’ve not had to endure the horror stories that some of you ladies have. My M-i-l isn’t perfect, but she’s not a demon either!




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