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My ex-fiance just called to tell me that my step-dog, Charley, passed away last night. I was in a fragile place to begin with, and now I just feel broken. Any help or advice would be appreciate.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • Cry if you want to.  It is ok to grief even on animal - it is not crazy.  It is normal.




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      Hbrose wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • Sending hugs your way Suzann, some times we just need to let time heal us. The “in the meantime” is always hardest, for now fill your thoughts and heart with happy and loving memories to help you through this time.  heart




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • Suzann, allow yourself to feel all of the emotions and do whatever you need to do to get through it. Our pets are important members of our family. It’s perfectly natural to grieve and everyone has their own way of doing that.

      Sending you hugs!heart




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      Coralee Flug wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • Hugs I am sorry...




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      Kyah wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • One of my friends told me yesterday that his cat who lived with him for 19 years died. You have to go through the same grieving process as you do if they were human. Nothing can rekindle that unconditional love except another furry companion, but allow yourself time to come to grips over the loss. Many people can’t get another pet after losing one so near and dear, but if you only could see how many I see in the shelter I volunteer in, just waiting for the chance to show their love. And that’s what life’s all about, love.




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      Anne E wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • Suzann,
      I had the same experience when I found out that my beautiful black labrador mix, Sammy, who went to live with one of my exes’ friends after we split up died.  heartbreakheartbreakIt felt like someone had punched me in the stomach. Some one sent me the Rainbow Bridge poem which made me cry my eyes out, but ultimately was healing.

      The Rainbows Bridge Poem

      RainbowsBridge.com
      Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

      When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
      All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

      They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

      You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

      Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....  

      Author unknown...

      I’ll be praying for you. heart




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      Carine Nadel wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • big hugs to you Suzann and it’s more than ok to grieve and cry.  I know the grief and it takes time, that you must give yourself to lessen the pain.




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      Mzd3 wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • Sorry for your loss Suzann (((hugs))

      @ catfan ....Loved the poem




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      Paige Strickland wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • So sorry to hear your news.  Hugs.  Take care.  Furry kids do matter.  P.




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      Kyah wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • You know that Rainbow Bridge poem is so powerful it affects me as much now as it did when my cat died years ago and a friend sent it to me. frown




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      Marilyn09 wrote Oct 31, 2010
    • heartbreak Sorry to hear about your loss. Our dog was sick with tongue cancer (chow chow) and we knew she was dying but it did not make it any easier. heartbreak
      I bawled like a baby. She was a good girl and protected the house with all her might. My hubby worked graveyard and I could not sleep from fear and anxiety but from the first night we had her she checked out every little crick and sound and I slept so easily just knowing she was on it.
      I loved my mu-Tasha.  

      And she really loved our kids too!




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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 1, 2010
    • Many hugs to you Suzann!..I have suffered through three of my sweet cats passing on and our beloved dog Brandy, even our hamster passing on made me cry my eyes out..so grieve and remember the happy moments.heart

      I love the Rainbow Bridge poem!




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      Cathie Beck wrote Nov 1, 2010
    • I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Suzann.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Suzann wrote Nov 1, 2010
    • Thank you so much, my precious dear Sisters. Your support means the world to me. Reading about your pets and your experiences reminds me I’m not alone. I’m so grateful to be part of the Fab40-hood. Love the “Rainbow Bridge“, OMG, and I so believe it. I totally believe we’ll be united with our loved ones, pets and all.  

      Thank you, thank you, thank you.




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 1, 2010
    • I have a couple of my fur-babies in urns on my mantle. If I had known this was possible years ago, I’d have more. I still get weepy over my babies when I think of them.  

      They were my kids...
      Big hugz to you!!
      heartheart




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      Msj wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • Im so sorry, big hug to you Suzan




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