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I have a real hard time holding my tongue if someone is being rude and disrespectful to me. Do you ignore rudeness or give it right back to them?

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      Mzd3 wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • I ignore it...Im a wuss  well, it does depend on who it is....




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • It used to bother me.  Nowadays, I just ignore it.  Telling myself, they are having a bad day, PMS time, or it is their problem, not mine.  

      Once in awhile, if it really bothers me, I will ask “are you having a bad day?”




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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • Depends on the who, what and where’s. Sometimes I just ignore and sometimes I am rude back but with a smile!




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • Ditto Vikki!!




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • It depends for me, too. Usually I ignore. Sometimes I give them “the look.” Sometimes I offer compassion if it’s someone who just can’t help themselves and could really use some kindness. But, there times when I just rip them a new one. But that’s reserved for the real jerks who deserve it.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • Depends on the situation and who it is. Sometimes It’s just hard to hold back. But I try.




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      Kyah wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • I tend to call ‘em like I see them, and if I find something someone did or a person him or her self to be rude, I’ll say something in a heart beat. New Yorkers have a reputation of the rudest people in the country. I just do what’s done to me.




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      Lazylola wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • I’m more tolerant now. (It is easier for me to ignore people)




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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • Cynthia I use “the look” too!




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      Anne E wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • I’m with Frannie on this one!




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Nov 2, 2010
    • I have a harder time when I see a parent being rude or mean to a child. But if its to me I sometimes laugh depending on what it is. But if its bad enough or sometime if  im having a day ill let them have it usally in a very calm cheeky way that usally shuts them up but ive been knowen to rip into a person or two in my life lolheart




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      Marilyn09 wrote Nov 3, 2010
    • the only people that are rude to me are ones that I work with so I ignore it.
      unless it gives me the opportunity to say. We are a team you should be watching my back (mistakes)and make it right like I do for you.




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Nov 3, 2010
    • I have a tenancy not to let it go and say something. It depends on who it is and what they said as far as how harsh my comments are back to them.




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Nov 3, 2010
    • Well I had an incident the day I asked this question. I told my friends about it and that I gave the rudeness back to the woman they looked at me like I had five heads and shook their head at me! Not sure why I’m the one that’s wrong. That being said, I do try really, really hard to bite my tongue because I run into rude people alot and I just can’t tolerate it...there’s just no reason to be nasty!




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      Karyn Olson wrote Nov 3, 2010
    • I use to not say anything but that wasn’t good...I’d only stew about it...then I would say something and be just as rude about it and that wasn’t good either...I am now older and wiser...I have learned to stand up for myself without stepping on toee, hurting anyone’s feelings or causing conflict...Must add that I am not perfect and the odd time the old me will come out and I can give out a verbal blasting...lol




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      Frannie1964 wrote Nov 3, 2010
    • Sometimes you have to bite back Angell. There are some people who are rude and disrespectful who actually are nicer after you have told them off. I have given my 2 cents to a couple people and one of them was a manager at my job who just for some reason wanted to be rude to me. So I told him what I thought and I didn’t hold back, the next couple of days he was actually nice to me and even started saying good morning to me and then joking around with me. I tell you, sometimes you need to set these people straight cause they get away with this and it takes one person to tell them off before they act nice. I don’t know if that makes sence, but it worked for me a couple times. It’s not that I was being mean, I was just standing my ground. I don’t do that alot, just when I know the situation is the right time.

      Hope everythings alright my friend.happy




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Nov 3, 2010
    • Frannie that does make sense. I think standing your ground is so important because then it will make the other person realize they need to back off and know they can’t disrespect you like that. For instance, my boss...I stood my ground with her rude behavior toward me and since the incident this summer she has been much nicer toward me. She realized she can’t push me around because I won’t take it.




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