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For those of you that still have kids in school do you think that the no tolerance policies that most school have are fair?

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      Momofthreeprincess wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • My daughter has gotten herself in a bit of trouble she brought a multi-tool (tool that looks like a swiss army knife but with pilers) by accident to school.  The tool was in her pocket from fishing the day before.  She has been suspended for 10 days with the possiblity of expulsion.  She has an IEP for bi-polar, and ADHD, which might be the only thing that might get her from being expelled.  Right now I am jumping through hoops getting records from her doctors about her treatments and how everything is effected.  I just feel like I am not doing my job right as a parent.




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      Momofthreeprincess wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • someone asked her what was in her pocket and she took it out she didnt open the tool.  the child that asked her what was in her pocket then told the teacher about it.




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • That sounds a little over the top to me too. Why can’t they just confiscate it and give her a warning...or even a shorter suspension periods...ten days? If she wasn’t using it in a harmful manner then they shouldn’t need to go the extra step in threatening expulsion...that’s a bit much. However, I do understand why schools have zero tolerance policies with all the violence in schools these days but there needs to be some exceptions in cases like yours...it doesn’t seem fair to me but I guess if they made exceptions then everyone would be looking for a way out. Good luck...hope you can get it worked out.




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • That is completely over the top!!

      At my kids school if a fight breaks out and the person who did not  start it or even fight back, still gets suspended. It is getting a lil bit too much!




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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • I think schools are getting way too carried away.  At my kids school, they are not allowed to lock their vehicles in the parking lot, just in case the school wants to do a random check for drugs or guns or whatever!!!!  My kid’s school is one block off a major national coast to coast highway.  What a great place to steal a car.  None of them locked, stereos, cds etc sitting there for easy pickings!!!!!

      Momofthree, that sounds WAY over the top to me.

      Some of the dress codes are equally bizarre.
      The school our oldest daughter graduated from had a no pajama pants policy.  She got sent home for wearing them that decently covered her, and yet the bimbos in skimpy tops with tons of skin hanging out and the low cut jeans with their butts hanging out were considered to be dressed just fine!!!!




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      Lazylola wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • common sense needs to be added to the policy




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • heart I believe that certain grades , certain cases so to speak should have their own set of rules. Kinder has its own rules, then lower grades, upper, middle ,high school its based on what children can grasp so why not this. I do believe in a no tolorance rule but one that fits the understanding of the grade.
      As far as fighting I do believe that kids that watch with out getting help are as accountable as those fighting. We need to draw the line that no violence is exceptble only if protecting yourself then there needs to be mediation. The agressor should be expelled the defender not but for kids that just watch it happen and egg it on .....that has to be stopped to maybe not expellshion but classes .they have no filter and most get excited. I know this isnt a perfect answer but somehow we need to find a balance its a hard call.
      About you feeling your a bad parent....no, accidents happen and it wasnt like she was showing it to show it she was asked and that probally made her remember she even had it.
      I wish you luck but know your not a bad parent.




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      Momofthreeprincess wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • My whole problem is that Kat viewed it as a tool, just the same as you view your chef’s knife as a tool or a hammer, not a weapon.  Its getting to the point that maybe we should just send our kids to school in bubble wrap, sit with them in the class and hold their hands.  I am sick and tired of schools parenting my kids.  They act like you have no idea how to be a parent and they are the only authorities on the matter.  You would not believe the hoops I am jumping through just to get her back in school.  Because Kat does have an IEP she may get to go back.  But at the same time the school can say that she is too dangerous to be with the other students.  She has in the past been a bit of a problem but that was back in first grade and since has not been.  The whole first grade thing I think was a teacher that just did not know how to deal with a child with special needs. Sorry for the rant, but it feels good to get it off my chest.




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