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Do you think it’s ok for a disabled person to be rude just because they are disabled and use the excuse “you don’t know what I’ve been thru”

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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • “NO!” and no again, I don’t care what or who it is no one has the right to be rude to anyone becsause of their disability.




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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • That’s what I thought too.  I saw an old aquaintance on facebook whining that someone had called him rude, and he trotted out that excuse.  

      No, I don’t know what he’s been thru, but what’s that got to do with rudeness????




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • I don’t think there’s ever a valid excuse for bad behavior or rudeness.




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • Well, being disabled, sorry sometimes rudeness is needed.
      Someone actually asked me what the hell I needed a wheelchair for (when i used to have to use the store ones). Let’s just say she walked off with her tail between her legs.

      It really depends on who is is and what they say to me. Or even how they look at me sometimes. I’ve had people give me nasty ass looks when I pull into the crippled parking. As soon as they see me wheel down my ramp, they turn away red faced.  

      And, if I see someone use the crippled parking w/o a tag, I’ll be as rude as I can. I think until you are disabled, you have no clue how cruel ‘healthy’ people can be.  

      just my thoughts




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • I try not to be rude, but some people.. I tell ya! estatic




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • IMHO, when one has a disability, it is tough and they have to go thru denial and acceptance, and then live with that for the rest of their lives.  Their lives would never be the same.  Even it is physical element, it affects mental and emotional as well.  I am not saying they are entitled to be depressed or grumpy, yet, they can be depressed and short.

      Like sometimes we have a rough day and we would be short to others who did not cause us the problem.  Just like that, sometimes, they just aired out.

      I truly think not unless we are in others shoes, we would never understand what one has faced and gone through.

      If we all act teeth to teeth, this world will end very soon.

      So in short, I personally do not want to place a judgment and just another one bit the dust for me.  

      Again, mumble jumble and IMHO.




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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • I think it’s one thing to respond when provoked, and I can understand that there are probably a LOT of provoking situations when you‘re in a wheelchair.  It’s a different situation entirely to just be rude.  

       Tracy, I’m sure you’ve given folks no more than they deserved.  I’m also thankful for the things you’ve shared here and on your blog that help the rest of us understand better. heart

      My husband is disabled, but too proud to get a handicapped sticker for his vehicle.  He can barely walk and is in constant pain.  I’ve never ever seen him be rude to another living soul.  He gets short and nasty with me sometimes and I understand that.  I can’t imagine him telling someone “you don’t know what I’ve been thru.”




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • I can so see your point as I never have said “you don’t know what I’ve been thru.” I may say, until you roll a mile in my chair!! lol




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 17, 2010
    • I am not a living saint but if someone says that to me, if I have time, I probably will say “why don’t you tell me”




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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 18, 2010
    • I don’t think rudeness is ever acceptable! No matter what your circumstances are doesn’t give you the right to treat others poorly.

      I will say that if someone gives you a hard time you have every right to respond to the best of your ability.

      We all have circumstances! They just may be different!!!




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Nov 18, 2010
    • I agree that rudeness is never acceptable whether a person is disabled or not but I do understand about being provoked. Sometimes though you just have to give it right back to that person. And it’s funny how the person giving it back is the one considered being rude...how is that right?




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      Cathie Beck wrote Nov 18, 2010
    • I hear ya, Judy!  

      My disability is not visible unless you live with me and watch me go through a multiple of bacterial infections over and over from exposures to toxins. I still won’t be rude though I may sound rude to others that belittle my disability. It’s not something that can be fixed, it’s my life and I’ll live with it the best I can.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Womensafety wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Here is a funny thing Women are considered a handicap if applying for any government grants. I have ZERO tolerance for Rude people at any time of my life. I know  a lot of handicaps that are never rude tell the bastard he is not the only one with problems,




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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 22, 2010
    • I don’t believe rudeness is acceptable in any way, but on the flip side, there are people in this world that can’t get off their high horse and see what others are going through..today, for instance I was diligently using my electric blower to remove large amounts of leaves from my property, now mind you, I have no trees on my property, but I willingly clean up everything that comes from everyone else’s trees...a neighbor walked down and because he was not happy that I was using a blower, said to me..“You really have to wait until there are more than ten leaves.“...of course, there was a lot more than ten, so I laughed and said. “If I must put up with the leaves, then you all must put up with the blower.“..case closed!!estaticestatic




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