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I so need your help, dear Sisters. I’m having a melt-down/oncoming panic attack about tomorrow’s trip to the family holiday. I love my family and they love me. But a 4-hour drive and 3 days away from my sick cat is more than I think I can handle this year. Do you think it would be terrible of me to not go?




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • My whole family, including me, is attached to high drama. My not adhering to the family routine would cause a lot of storyline, woundology, and possible hysteria. I’d go on the trip just to avoid that, but I’m feeling so “uncentered.” Thanks for your input!




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      Rose Nino wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Absolutely not Suzann. I’m sure everyone will understand. And as you said, they love you. Or maybe you can take your kitty with you?  

      heartheart




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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Suzann no turkey is worth it if you are worried or upset. If there is no way to take your sick baby and you just feel that uncomfortable then stay home. I know the family may get upset but that kitty is your room mate and companion and baby.

      Is it possible for you to make it a day trip? I know you said 4 hr drive but it’s still doable. Or just 1 night away?




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Thanks Rose and Vikki. I love your ideas, and I’m also grateful for your giving me some perspective on this. When I panic, I lose perspective. So THANK YOU, sweet angels!!!




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      Cathie Beck wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Suzanne, I stayed home from a planned visit down to my brother’s when my old wolf dog was sick. My brother was a bit pissed at me, but he got over it. It was just a day trip. You could take your cat with you and make it just an overnight trip. That’s what I’m doing for this Thanksgiving.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Thanks, Cathie. Good ideas.




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      Lazylola wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • I would stay, as Vikki said no turkey is worth itestatic Hope your baby is better soon.




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Thanks LL, I think you‘re right. And thanks for the good wishes for my cat. She had surgery last week and she’s still very fragile.




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Bernadette, that’s great - I hadn’t thought of all the options that were available. It was all or nothing - so I’m seeing that there are middle grounds.

      I don’t think Lexie (kitteh) can travel, because she’s still having trouble eating and going to the bathroom from her surgery (bladder stones). But having people here is good - not the 4-hour away people, but perhaps over the weekend, the nearby people would like to come over for a feast.  

      I love that you guys are thinking outside of the box!




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      Jo46 wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Keep it simple Suzann-it is just a “day“. It isn’t worth it to jeporadize your cats health or yours! I think the best thing is to stay home and stay in!  By the next morning when you wake up, you will be glad you did!  :)




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Jo and Eva, thank you. Your reassurances are putting things back in perspective for me. It’s not so bad to bow out of a family day if my cat is sick. I don’t know why I couldn’t make that decision on my own, I guess I just panicked.  

      Thank you all for your calm level-headedness and common sense approach. I really appreciate it. You all helped me get “back to center.” My gratitude goes out in buckets to everyone.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • I would stay home with my sick catheart Family should understand your position and when your cat gets much better, you can take a 4 hour trip to visit them and make a day of it. Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving to you and your sweet cat.




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      Mitta Vicki Wise RN, hypnotherapist, reflexologist, weight loss coach wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Hi Suzanne

      Take care of yourself. There are times when I’ve pushed myself or not had my heart in something I was doing or it just didn’t feel right for that time.
      Listen to your intuition and your gut! And your energy level!
      Not to mention you have a healing kitty.

      Can you communicate with them via Skype or some other way so that they will feel your energy, your input, your love, your prescence in some way? Maybe that will help them and all will be well or at least blow over. Your and your kitty’s wellbeing will be saved!

      Happy Thanksgiving!

      MItta




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      Suzann wrote Nov 24, 2010
    • Fran, thank you. And Mltta, thank you too - yes, I do think I have Skype, I mean there’s a button that says “Skype” - have never tried it, so now would be the perfect time. Great idea!




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      Hunnypot88 wrote Nov 25, 2010
    • No, if your not going to be happy and are worried about your cat in my opinion why go. You can spend Christmas eve and or Christmas day with them and enjoy the visit worry free.




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      Marya1961 wrote Dec 1, 2010
    • I hope things worked out well for you, Suzann and your sweet cat is feeling better.heart




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      Suzann wrote Dec 1, 2010
    • Thanks, Hunny.

      Marya, things did work out well. I took everyone’s advice and stayed home with my cat, and as it turns out, Lexie is much better now - but I truly think had I left her in the care of pet sitters over Thanksgiving, she would not have done well. She was so fragile from her surgery.

      Thank you all for your help on this. Because of you guys I was confident and validated in my decision to skip the trip this year - everyone understood, and my cat is much better!!!!




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