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      Brimstone1968 wrote Dec 20, 2010
    • Forgiveness for me is to be able to move pass the wrong someone has done to me.  when I see them the deep hurt and hatred is not there, I am at peace with the matter.  When I realise I can smile over it and do not visit the incident again and again I know true forgiveness has taken place and I am in a better place.  To forgive and move on is freedom to my soul.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 20, 2010
    • I agree with both ladies above. I never accept anyones appology unless I mean that I can truely forgive and let it go. Forgiving someone  means less that I carry upon my heart.




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      Mary Clark wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Forgiveness means that when you THINK about what that person has done to you....and your temperature does not rise anymore...you have truly forgiven.  It doesn’t mean you forget it....but when the temperature doesn’t rise...you move on...you have truly forgiven.  It takes some people longer than others to forgive...just depends on what the wrong was.  But I will say....as a Christian...we are instructed to forgive others.  In order for YOU to really move on with LIFE...you have to forgive.  Having that bitterness, anger, & hatred only hurts YOU.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Forgiveness to me means that I am able to move past something that I felt was wrong. Most of the time I choose forgiveness (let’s not confuse it with forgetting) to ease my mind and not the mind of that I forgave. Right or wrong it is me!!!




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      Amy L. Harden wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • “Hurt feelings buried alive never die” Joyce Meyer

      “Forgiveness does not make them right, makes you free.” unknown

      “Forgive says God...resentment harms the vessel more than the one upon whom it is poured.” unknown

      “Forgiveness is a funny thing...It warms the heart and cools the sting.” unknown

      In the end, forgiveness is more for our ourselves than for the person who needs to be forgiven...forgiveness frees us from the burden of resentment, bitterness and carrying a burden of hurt and pain that was thrust on us by another.  Forgiveness is a choice...it is a gift we give ourselves....the second part of forgiveness is learning the lesson that it teaches.

      An excellent website to check out on this is Gary Chapman’s
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      It is an excellent book also.
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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • It’s, Survival. The essence of me survives if I can let a wrong go. Sometimes it’s finding an excuse (reason, understanding) for their actions, words, abuse or abandonment. I don’t have to live with their choices for the rest of my life unless I choose to and want to give up on my own survival.  

      Cathie




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      Kmarie wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Forgiveness to me is emoting less, by this I mean moving past the pain, the hurt, the sorrow, the anger, the rage, the envy, the emotions and not allowing yourself to respond any more, to remember the lesson learn and move forward to not repeat the same situation over and over.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Total forgiveness to me is a restoration of that relationships back to or even better than before anything arised and created hurtful feelings.




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      Suzann wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • You all are so inspiring. I am loving reading everyone’s comments. I’m very much like Cathie Beck, for me forgiveness is a survival issue. If I don’t forgive, stuff just eats me alive, and ultimately I’m the main one who suffers. So perhaps I forgive for myself!!!  

      Mary Clark also put it very well when she said forgiveness for her is when she thinks about the thing and her temperature doesn’t rise. That’s absolutely brilliant.




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      Diane17 wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • For me personally, the phrase forgive and forget comes to mind.  If I forgive someone for something they have done, I don’t bring it up again, I don’t dwell on it, and I do my best to just forget about it and move on.

      I had a close family member who could not forget what another family member did to her and even spoke about what had happened AFTER that person had died and it had been DECADES after the incident.  I found this to be very sad and disturbing.  I don’t want anything to affect me the way that affected her.




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      Linda L wrote Dec 24, 2010
    • Although I know intellectually and for my well being what forgiveness is, I’ve yet to forgive and forget the hurt from my ex. Of course, thru the years the pain has lessened, but it’s still there.




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      Mary Clark wrote Dec 24, 2010
    • Linda...forgiveness does take time but this is the way I see it. The longer I hold on to the hurt the more control I give to whoever hurt me.  Itr doesn’t mean you forget what they did because you‘re human and that is just the way it is...but...I have found the longer I hold on to it...the only person it’s hurting is ME.  I do hope you get to a point of forgiveness. It sure is liberating!




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