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Okay, a little off topic: You know the thing where if you‘re upset you bring yourself back into the present moment? (Talking about upsets from the past or worried about the future.) How do you bring yourself back into the present moment? Do you have a technique?




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      Suzann wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • My books say to be aware of what’s in your mind before it turns into an “upset.” And then after you‘re aware of it, you re-focus on the present moment and your breathing. I get stuck in re-focusing on the present moment. I can do it (hey, Suzann, here you are just sitting on your couch drinking coffee, that’s it - type thing), but then my determined mind goes right back to the previous day’s “upset.”




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      Angelcart wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • Suzann, I’ve never mastered that skill unfortunately.  I have to admit I’m bad about taking too long to get over something.  My dad used to always say “you can get glad just as quickly as you got mad” (or something about that).  Anyways, I’ve got a long way to go.




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      Anne E wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • I don’t know how to do it either!




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      Suzann wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • Thanks, lovely ladies. Perhaps it’s just part of being human. happy




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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 23, 2010
    • With me.... it IS the present moment that would be upsetting me, when I’m upset, so I have to move forward from there and get the heck out of the Now. LOL  

      If I’m busy with something I can get over being scared, hurt and/or angry. Distraction has its benefits. ;oD  

      Cathie




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      Suzann wrote Dec 23, 2010
    • Bernadette, I LOVE that you have your Black Belt. Yes, I can imagine that you can take that confidence and move it into your emotional life as well. How brilliant is that.  

      Cathie, LOL, fabulous!!! I never looked at it that way! “...get the heck out of the Now“. I’m so loving that.

      Oh distraction - you mean ... it’s okay? What a concept, because I can easily be distracted by novels, movies, and “Ghost Whisperer” re-runs. Okay, love it.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 23, 2010
    • Suzann, a friend of mine thought it odd that when I’m upset I can’t play and get lost in my violin. I just can’t focus to play. I need to physically move to run off the adrenaline rush. I
      have scrubbed clean anything that stood still. LOL   Sometimes my wolf dog I’ve lived with for 14 years looks at me like... “Don’t even think about it!“.  

      Yes, distractions are Ok and do work for me. After I’ve run myself tired I enjoy a movie or a book to relax and rest up. Then my rational mind can work on the problem calmly.  

      The “problem” isn’t erased but my emotional reaction to it is changed, it’s not a crisis then.  

      Cathie




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