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Two big entertainers have announced that divorce is not an option. They are Will Smith and I just read Courteney Cox said the same thing. What are your thoughts?

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      Leadinladytracy wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • If there is abuse - divorce is the only option in my opinion. For everything else, I think it’s an individual decision.




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      UK Girl wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • Tracey,

      When they say it’s not an option do they mean because they are committed to each other as in death us do part way or because they see themselves as a business proposition.......




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • Both have said in interviews, if you make divorce an option then you will get a divorce. They both state marriage is work and you have to be willing to make it work. They were referring to their committment not business.




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      Feathermaye wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • I’m not sure how I feel. In their worlds, they can bend and stretch the rules of traditional marriage to make it work for them. They could never divorce, but live separate lives for years and years.

      Once upon a time, divorce wasn't an option, lol.  

      I would like to think the statements they are making speak to their dedication to working it out, no matter what. There are children involved, business dealings I’m sure, and some deep emotional investments.

      Personally, I’m too much of a pessimist sometimes to make that sort of statement, but I respect those who not only can make it, but honor it, too.




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      Cassandra wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • I agree with you feathermay , I also respect those who talk to talk and walk the walk .
      High profile and wealthy entertainers are people in a very different position then the average person and have advantages we do not .

       People say it does not make a marriage easier if you have money I disagree, money is one of the biggest reasons for divorce .

       Also we feel  like we know these people because we read and see things about them all the time the truth is we dont know them and we should not feel like we do . Everything you see and hear is planned .
      I am an optimist and hope that what they say they mean, time will tell .
      Cheers~




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • Never say never, cuz one day it may come back to bite you in the butt! Sometimes these kinds of statements come out right before a divorce. I don’t think that’s the case with these couples, but it sure has happened many other times.




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • Hey if counseling works and they keep it together...that is gr8 for them. Especially when in a high profile marriage.

      But, shat happens sometimes. It would be nice if it could always be worked out, but that means 2 wanting participants...a definately NO abuse!!

      In a perfect world...




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      Dani1 wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • I believe they are saying they are committed to each other for life and are using their relationships as vehicles for self-development. There is a baseline of psychological health in the relationships that is being built on as they go through the years. Come on, the reality is that even in love we choose to be in love and we choose who we love. They choose to love each other for life.




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      Peejay64 wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • i agree with Cindylou, never say never.  But...in my humble opinion, divorce is acceptable if there is abuse (which can be broadly defined) and adultery. If someone chooses to forgive and stick it out, good for her.  But I am not one who forgives or forgets easily.




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      Dani1 wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • Saying never is their commitment to each other and their children.




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 21, 2008
    • Cindylou/Peejay, I agree, NEVER say NEVER, and my take on that is because, nothing in this life is guarantee, except death of course.  I do understand they concept but many times we have to watch what we are saying.  Words are powerful and can either do good or harm.

      I wish them both, Will & Courtney” all the best in their efforts to keep their marriages afloat, because all of women here at FAB40 surely knows that a marriage/relationship needs a lot of work, as as Mztracy pointed, both parties must be willing participants.




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      Anne E wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • Ridiculous statements!  I didn’t “believe” in divorce until I was trapped in a terrible marriage.  There are a lot of scenarios where divorce is a woman’s best option.  I think comments like Courteney Cox’s just serve to make divorced people feel like maybe they weren’t comitted enough.




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      Angela Watson wrote May 1, 2009
    • I agree to that. I have been married for 12 years and always was against divorce but now I find myself thinking about it.




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