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How do you deal with a person who does her best to spread terminal unhappiness everywhere she goes?

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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 9, 2011
    • Ideally I’d have nothing to do with this woman ever again.  But life is never that simple.  We live in a small community and go to the same small church, so I and other postive people have to deal with her.   How do you neutralize malignant negativity?




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      Mztracy wrote Jan 9, 2011
    • Smile, and do your best to keep the situation light so she cannot bring on the negativity. If she does, simply interrupt and say, look at the time I forgot i have a previous engagement and need to fly. Talk soon...

      Or, when you see her, RUN the other way!




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      Lazylola wrote Jan 9, 2011
    • What Tracy said.estatic




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Jan 9, 2011
    • I know someone like that and we live in a small town. I pretty much do what Tracy said.happy




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      Linda L wrote Jan 9, 2011
    • Sad to say that my mom is that sort of person.  She blames her unhappiness on everyone.  When she brings on the negativity, it’s frustrating and I have to change the subject to better things.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • You DON‘T! I have zero tolerance for people like that!




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      UK Girl wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • You either just blank her or make her drinks with crushed up happy pills in - after two weeks she will either have become mrs smiley or be in bed asleep ......... as if life was that simple  

      Ignore ignore ..........




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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • Thanks for the advice.  I’ve been trying to the other way any time I see her and will continue to do so.  A couple other gals and I tried offering her friendship in hopes that would brighten her life.  We were pretty much kicked in the face, so now I just avoid her when possible.  I’m just smarting from a very public verbal attack at a meeting yesterday. :(




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • Have as little to do with her as possible and on the chance where you have to be around her just kill her with kindness and try your best to ignore her negativity.  People like that love to get reactions out of people.




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      UK Girl wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • Tulip your a lovely person and have you thought she could just be mean - just 100% mean so no matter how you are she will be mean - so avoid and be with nice folk ....
      I saw this today and maybe it’s apt for you  

      Never argue with idiots. They just drag you down to their level and then beat you with their experience.




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      UK Girl wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • you can all borrow it as I have I shall be using this with wild abandon as I keep bumping into idiots at the moment




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      Carine Nadel wrote Jan 10, 2011
    • oh, so you’ve met my MIL?  we try to see her as little as possible.  we have to do her shopping for her-so we find out when she’ll be out and deliver it then.  

      she is lonely and miserable, but she’s always been that way.  at first I used to say “how sad, she could have her grandkids and great-gks around her, I’d invite her for dinner once a month and she’d have a full life”

      Now I just say-“you did this, now you have to live w/ it”
      This sounds hard, but she’s toxic and has made my dh gray and frustrated-his sister barely does a thing.  won’t even take her up to her house except once a year for 2 days at T-giving, b/c “she makes my husband and son into basket cases”

      What?  has she not noticed that the reason she has to have her then is b/c she’s alienated our daughter and we chose her and our grandkids????




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      Marya1961 wrote Jan 12, 2011
    • I agree with Vicki, some people are just plain MEAN..oh boy, if you had a few hours, Tulip, I could tell you some hair raising stories..maybe I will blog at some point..like Tracy said, smile and if it gets too stifling, get out ASAP.




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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 12, 2011
    • You know, I think you all might be right about this woman being just plain ugly mean.  If anyone dares to disagree with her, she just tries to shred them and she disagrees with almost everyone.  I’ve noticed her college age son comes home as little as humanly possible.  hmmmm.....




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