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I’m a mess today.  I caught my 14 year old daughter in a big lie yesterday.  She knows she’s not allowed at a boy’s house without at least 1 other friend with her.  Yesterday she said her friend was with her but it just didn’t seem right to me.  I texted her friends mom and found out my suspicions were right - her friend was NOT with her.  What do you do when you catch your kid in a lie like that?  I am at a total loss as to what to do from here.




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Jan 26, 2011
    • I know this is hurting.  You have to decide what is one of her favourite things you know she loves and thinks she cannot do without like probably her cell phone, computer, a sport etc.  You can probably ground her from one of those things as a consequence.  Yet on the other hand you can approach it by having that one on one talk with her when you are not so mad.  Let her know her trust level with you is at 0.  On a scale of 1-10, 10 being good.  Let her know she has to gain your trust level in her again.  I drew a chart once and stuck it in the hall way and when I determined that a trust level went up I put a smile next to it.  You have to determine the trust level, her bringing things to your attention so you can notice is not your level.  Trust will be built back overtime.  

      I know it could be so hard because it put questions in your mind as to whatelse has gone on and you did not catch.  Their is a saying that you cannot worry over spilt milk, what you donot know will not hurt you.  I feel your pain and will pray as the days go by and you have that talk you will feel much better.  Good luck.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 26, 2011
    • Kids will be kids and do things they think we as their parents haven’t done in our adolecence, to begin with I would speak to the boys parents informing them of the incident in case they were unaware, then I’d let them know I’m not for her coming to their home without them being there. Like Annie said take all things away from her ground her for a few weeks because one lie will turn to many if you don’t deal with it now, she needs to know you mean business with her, you can’t allow her to over rule you, you‘re the parent and I’d have a chat with her dad as well about it if he is in the picture and is a part of her life.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jan 26, 2011
    • Yep, I’m with Neicy on this.  

      Cathie




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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 26, 2011
    • I“m with Annie, you take everything away from her.    Let her know she’s broken your trust in her and she’s going to have to earn it back.




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      Tammy1972 wrote Jan 26, 2011
    • I agree Tuliplady




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jan 27, 2011
    • This is good news, Mamapan, and I’m really happy to hear it!  

      Cathie




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      UK Girl wrote Jan 30, 2011
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