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Do you believe spanking is an acceptable form of discipline?

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      StacyAnn Sargent wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • Absolutely NOT!!NEVER!Why would you want to hurt your child for any reason! All a caregiver is  doing is teaching the child you are out of control and that inflicting pain to get control is this answer. It never ever has a place in raising your children. It is not discipline. It is abuse.




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      Marlene McCray wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I certainly agree with Termagsea, I was spanked and certainly do not consider it to be abuse.Frankly, it was done after giving me multitudes of chances to stop doing whatever or just to do what I was told.  Looking back to a certain extent I did deserve it! LOL!! Sometimes, I had time out too; simply go in the corner and just stay there.
      ( I hated that one because I was very fidgety. LOL )
      Spanking is a form of discipline that is used. Culturally speaking my caribbean parents were old school and did not play around when it comes to education. It was their way or the highway period.... the end..... Moreover, respect for adults and seniors are very important as they instill wisdom within the family unit. So, still today grown adults are spanked if you get out of line with your elders.

      Marlene
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      Tuliplady wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I agree 100% with Term on this.  And a spanking is far different from an out of control beating.

      I was spanked as a child, and looking back I’d have to say not as often as I should have been!




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      Frannie1964 wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I totally 100% agree with Termagsea!!heart

      Now a days kids get away with way TOO MUCH! A little swat on their tush Isn’t a bad thing. I also got spanked with a belt, a brush or a hanger on my tush and never felt like my mom was abusing me, I knew everytime I got that belt I did something bad or wrong that I wasn’t suppose to do so I knew the consequences. let me tell you, Everytime I seen that belt hanging in the hallway, I knew not to get into trouble. Of course sometimes I would slip but thats to expected.




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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I try not to, but I don’t see anything wrong with some with your hand.  I was spanked with a belt and I don’t think it was appropriate.  I do believe troublemakers should be punished.




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      Marlene McCray wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • Hi Termagsea,

      You are too funny!! I know some of them as well.... Mmmm Mmmm!!estatic

      -Marlene




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I sure do believe in spanking.  As Tuliplady said a spanking is way different from an out of control beating.  I got spanked when I was little and trust me it came after a million chances to correct what I was doing.  As a child I would push you as far as I allowed you to go.  If some of these kids get a little spanking and not think they are cute with their behaviour things might look a little more promising.  Some of the acts these kids do standing in a corner for 5 minutes will not cut it.




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      Kyah wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I believe in the “3 strike rule.” If a kid goes overboard after 3 warnings, SWAPPP! All that “time out” BS is just that, BS. I see so many undisciplined children who grow up to be uncontrollable teenagers. That would not happen in my house. There’s a great deal of difference between discipline and abuse. Abuse is having bones broken, being beaten black and blue, being scalded, tied to a radiator or starved.

      There’s a woman at work with 4 children and she’s about 30 (In my opinion she has 3 kids too many!). The 3rd one is a girl and she’s an absolute terror. She went to swat this brat and the kid said in a ‘I dare you’ sort of tone, “What are you going to do Mommy, hit me?” The woman is actually scared of this little brat! She brought her in to work one time and she started acting up. Her mother pleaded with her to settle down but she ignored her. I came over and said, “You‘re not home. Cut it out or I’ll turn you upside down.” She looked at me (I must have looked like the big black giant to her) and she saw the look in my eye and could tell I meant business. She eased back to her chair and sat there just as nice. Her mother mouthed ‘thank you’ as I walked away.
      Thank you, Grandma, for instilling in me “the look.” It always works!




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Feb 6, 2011
    • I believe in spanking as a last choice and depending on what they did. Now days kids have no empathy, no respect, or no fear of authority an a healthy fear is way different from in fear.

      I am also talking in general it is not every child but they majority of the generation. They believe they have all the rights as parents ,adults.
      And I believe its because parents are to afraid to disipline now Im not saying BEAT your child but a swat to the bum is called for at timmes.




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      Linda L wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • I agree with the ladies who said Yes.  When children are misbehaving, a spanking with the hand or belt may be a necessary form of discipline.  I didn’t get spanked, but my brother did once in a while for a wrongdoing.  

      It’s only wrong when the child did nothing to deserve it.  Then it’s abuse and CPS should be notified.




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      Angelcart wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • Absolutely I agree.  I was spanked as a child with my father’s belt.  And guess what?  After my spanking I didn’t do it again!!  I’m not saying “beat” your kid but I do strongly believe that that is one of the problems with kids now days.   I also believe schools should be able to paddle kids too.  When I was in school you didn’t behave you were paddled.  No one ever died from that to my knowledge.  I got pops in the 6th grade ONE time.  I learned from that.  I spanked my child as well with my hand only.  I told him at the mall one time he was gonna get a paddle when we got home and he said “you can’t hit me, I’ll call CPS on you“.  Oh boy, that only fueled it for me so I told him “well when we get home I’ll dial the number for you!“.




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      Kmarie wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • I believe all things in moderation including spanking. Spanking is only bad when it uses excessive force, Spanking in moderation with a hand (and not a weapon such as a belt, stick, wet towel) is okay




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      Sandysconnected wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • In this day and age with the most self-absorbed, pampered, spoiled and spanked-free children on the planet, I’d have to go with a big fat, YES! LOL




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      Cathie Beck wrote Feb 9, 2011
    • A big fat, YES! for me too! We are talking spanking, not abuse. I refused to be bullied by a child of mine! I’ve seen the smirks on kids faces while they taunt and harass their parents and they know they’ve got the upper hand because they won’t be spanked. What do they care they’ll be sent to their room “to think about their behavior“.... they’ve got a room full of electronic entertainment, for pete sakes.  

      Cathie




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      Marya1961 wrote Feb 17, 2011
    • I spanked our son once when he was three (with his big diaper on) and to be honest, it was not only horrible for me, but he was much worse after the spanking as he screamed his little heart out..so I learned that disciplining him that way was too much on him...all he ever needed was a stern look from his dad and that worked, we were lucky in that respect.




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