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What do you make of a friend who calls and pours her heart out about her terrible marriage.She unknowingly tires you out for days with some real tough and unfair stories. Then two days later she calls with glowing stories of a wonderful caring husband who was pressured by the world and hence his actions.This is my first experience with such a situation and I am unsure about my conclusion, so I am just courting the opinion of others.




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      Carine Nadel wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • Ask yourself-does this person reciprocate on listening to your problems?  Does she even let you get a word in OR is she just using you to listen to herself?

      You‘re being a wonderful person to support her, however, if it leaves you worn out for days-then this is a rather toxic relationship.

      IMHO




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      Mztracy wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • We must know the same person!! I detached and moved on from her. She was toxic to me.




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      Sandysconnected wrote Feb 7, 2011
    • She sounds like she just needs some attention. She vents because its dramatic, then feels bad a few days later. Give it time, the cycle repeats. Exhausting.  

      Its good to listen, but on the other hand, you can just confront her and keep telling her to do something or shut up. ;)




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      Cathie Beck wrote Feb 8, 2011
    • Hi,  

      I’m thinking if this is repeated often that the relationship with your friend is not all that healthy for You. It’s the up and down swings she goes through. Me, I’m going through a divorce and you won’t hear me say anything good about him, just myself! ;oD   Wishing you all the best.  

      Cathie




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      UK Girl wrote Feb 8, 2011
    • Toxic ..........dump
      Bet she wouldn’t listen to you - try her out and see if she doesn’t then dump she will find someone new to dump on

      True friends don’t do this honey




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      Anne E wrote Feb 8, 2011
    • Good advice from Vicki- is she there for you?  If it’s all a one-way street, that’s no good.




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