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So what are your thoughts on someone (not me) meeting a guy online then getting engaged 3 months later and married 10 months later? Do you think that is enough time to get to know someone enough to marry them or does it really matter?

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      Mzd3 wrote Mar 2, 2011
    • Sounds way too fast to me...




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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 2, 2011
    • I think that people are always changing so you always have to get to know them over and over. However your basic values don’t usually change. So if you get to know those soon enough then I guess marriage is ok. However i think there should be laws making it harder to get married so  it would help eliminate repeated marriages and divorce.

      Now keep in mind that I am divorced and remarried and I am not picking on anyone. I just think we need to wait till the initial love gush has passed before making a commitment like marriage.




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      Anne E wrote Mar 2, 2011
    • It sounds awfully fast but my parents married 5 months after they met and were married for 54 years.  I guess it depends on whether you know what you want and it you know if you’ve found it. Also at 25, my parents were “Old” (mature) to get married when they did-early 50’s.




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      Sandysconnected wrote Mar 2, 2011
    • I’d probably want to pass judgment...but marriages are of many varieties these days, and the least likely ones to last sometimes last forever, and the ones considered most likely to make it to a Golden Anniversary dissolve in months instead. You just never know.




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Mar 2, 2011
    • I think it depends on the couple and the relationship they have. I knew my first husband for 3 years before we got married and we divorced after 5 years. I met my current husband and we were engaged 2 months after we met and married 6 months after we met. We‘re heading toward 25 years of marriage.happy I believe you just know when it’s right.




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Mar 2, 2011
    • heart I think what throws most people off is that they met online. It still has a not dependable tag on it. But, I think it depends on the couple. What works for some doesn’t for others. But with that said my gut says to soon. I’ve been married twice the first was horrible and that’s because it was fast. My second we were fast in the aspect that we knew we were going to get married but because I was marriage shy we lived together first and that worked out great for us. Also the day I through my first husband out was the same day I met my current husband. Weird. So I wish them all the best.




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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 3, 2011
    • There is no right timing for love.  

      I know a couple that got engaged after two weeks and married after two months.  They‘re going on 40 yrs together.

      I know another couple who have dated for 25 yrs and still are not ready to marry.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 3, 2011
    • I agree, Tulip. ;oD  

      Cathie




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Mar 3, 2011
    • So what I am getting here is that it really just depends on the people. I think its amazing that couples like Annie and Anne’s parents can get married after such short engagements and have their marriage last for 40-50 years...wow! And then there are others that are together for many years and can’t seem to get down the aisle. I do think it all has to do with the chemistry of the couple and how they mesh with each other. And in my opinion, everyone takes a chance on being with someone. I don’t think you ever really know someone completely but we go with our gut instincts in the beginning and hope it will all pay off down the road. Thanks for your input ladies. happy




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      Brendastarr wrote Mar 3, 2011
    • My friend got engaged to a guy she met online in about that time and married in the same year!  I thought she was crazy but so far, they’ve made it work. It’s been at least 4 years.  I can also sympathize with those who want to have kids because Mother Nature is not flexible on that. Three months is a bit short otherwise - not all the skeletons come out that quick - but who knows, love is strange!




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      UK Girl wrote Mar 3, 2011
    • Think it depends on the person but does seem awfully quick hope they make a go of it




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      Kmarie wrote Mar 4, 2011
    • I rhink that it depends on the individuals invovled. I know couples for which it has worked, one couple has been married over 50 years, and I know couple that it has not worked for, one stayed married for two months.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 4, 2011
    • I knew the X for 12 years as a friend, lived with him for 1 1/2 years before we married, and expected to be married till death do we part. He had a male mid life crisis and that was an unplanned thing. I think now that we (women) should be as adventurous in love as men are in life. We can’t plan out a fairy tale life, but if we don’t take any risks we may miss out on a best time of our life experience.  

      Cathie




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      Marya1961 wrote Mar 4, 2011
    • Hub and I met in CA, dated over the phone for two months with a few visits by plane, then I moved here  by the third month, we were engaged at the end of the year and we are still together after 26 years..yes, definitely depends on the people.happy




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 4, 2011
    • Yup, like many said... Really depends on the people involved.
      There are those with long engagements/courtships that end up in divorce.




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      Diane17 wrote Mar 4, 2011
    • I agree..it depends on the people involved in the relationship.  

      I have a friend who really didn’t date much before she met her hubby online.  I can’t remember exactly how long they dated but it was a long-distance relationship.  They’ve been married since 2002 and now have five kids.




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      Cristina Corral wrote Mar 6, 2011
    • i think it also depends on the people involved.  I thinks it’s fascinating to hear stories about someone meeting and getting married quickly and then to have it last for 40+ years!  WOW  You just never know, but i think it’s ok for someone to move forward if they feel good about it.




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