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As you know, I lost a bunch within a short period of time. I am afraid. I know some will tell me how happy they are of being single, some will say you will get used to it.
But as for me, I feel lonely. I feel scared and I feel hopeless esp. as I am approaching my 50!
Oh, ChinaDoll, my Dear. I’m sorry you feel lost this way before you‘re 50. Life is not over because of age, we don’t have an expiration date. I’m not going to tell you to be happy to be single when it’s not what you want. I feel lonely at times (I’m 62) but I don’t feel scared of being single at this time and I think of it as a transition period. I can’t say I won’t meet someone priceless and fall in love again... tomorrow or next week or next month. ;oD It’s
how I feel today that matters.
The only thing I will tell you is don’t stay home alone, get out with friends and family for yourself, for no reason except that you get to be with others for X amount of time. For me the more I do this for myself, the more ready I become to meet someone.
Lots of Hugs,
Cathie
no...I’ve had Mr Right or as it turned out Mr Right now...time to refocus on my boys and myself.
I do know what you mean. Being in a loveless marriage for so long, I just want to feel loved. In a way I am kind of relieved that I don’t have to deal with someone around everyday but sometimes its damn lonely.
Right now I am doing things for myself. I am going back to school. I am dealing with things around the house on my own. If I do have a serious relationship again it will be on my terms but till then I am trying to be happy, I sleep in the middle of the bed, watch the TV I want to and if I want I can leave my bra in the middle of the room.
Yep, EK is right about nothing happens staying home. Besides that, it’s validating to have people (family and/or friends) that enjoy our company. ;oD I like to get out to be around people just to be around them even if they‘re strangers as well.
Cathie
I think I may have met mine FINALLY. But I agree- NEVER look for him. He will find you so long as you dont wait for him to show up on your doorstep. haha Just live your life and sooner or even a lil later itll happen. :D
I’m kinda of the mind not to just sit and wait for a man to show up. If we singles are out and not checking out the men in our surroundings, we might miss out on a shy but very sweet man we have a lot in common with. I feel our expectations needs a close “look-see” at for determining if we‘re wanting a mate or a fairy tale prince to sweep us off our feet.
Cathie
I do not feel a rush to find Mr. Right. I want to live life to enjoy my life right now, and when it’s time for him to appear he will.
I understand exactly how you feel, however deep in my heart I believe we can attract the love we desire in our lives.
before i married i felt that at 26 years old if i did not find a partner soon i would be too set and rigid in my way. at that point i felt i had grown to like too much who i was and where i was going and that did not include a permanent relationship. i wanted marriage and children but i was not looking for a Mr Right. i am now married have children and i have hindsite.
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