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For those who are single does it ever bother you when friends that are in relationships get flowers all the time or talk about their great weekends with their significant others? Sometimes for me it’s a painful reminder that I am alone and feel like I will never find that special someone to love. Most of the time I feel genuinely happy to hear their stories but today is just not one of those days and I’m on the verge of tears. I don’t want to feel this way and normally I am strong and hold it together pretty well but lately I’ve been a mess. Any advice?

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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • I don’t want anyone thinking I am some blubbering jealous person...these are just some feelings I have from time to time and I don’t know why I have them or how to deal with them. I don’t know if these feelings are a result of my recent breakup of my relationship. I want to always be happy for my friends and I always play the part but deep down they don’t know I really feel like this because I never say anything about it...I always put on a smile for them.




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      Joy Pachowicz wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Ang68

      If you feel uneasy that you have no one then maybe you  

      need to find someone to fill that emptiness.

      Perhaps through some group or other you can join?

      No one can tell you what to do..but if I was feeling that

      way I would try to find someone. I would mabye

      try onlne dating sites. .  

      If you don’t look for someone, you wont find who it is

      you need in your life.

      Some people find their partner through church groups.

      Others through the internet. but for sure you need

      to get out and find someone if you are wishing you  

      could have the same as your friends..  

      Just my opinion but .. am single and don’t have  

      those feelings.

      Joy




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • This feeling shall pass...it’s good you don’t feel the same way...I’m sure in time I will not be an emotional mess as I am now. I understand what you are saying but I don’t want to go on the prowl looking for a man because that is what has gotten me into trouble in the past. I always seem to find a man but he’s always been the wrong kind of man. I have yet to find anyone decent in all these years. After my breakup a few months ago from my ex I have been determined to not fall back into that same pattern. Yes I have tried the online dating thing all with no luck and haven’t found anyone at church either but I don’t go for that reason. Thank you for your suggestions.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Hey Joy, could you Please single space your responses? Double spaced makes it harder to read, which also makes me want to skip it. Thanks.

      Cathie




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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Heya Ang68,  

      Call me crazy, but as a single woman right now I Love to see other women have a great life with a mate that includes flowers, endearments used, date nights, Sunday morning brunch,
      movie nights, and all the no frills times together.  

      Maybe you are mourning still? I can relate to that because I actually did it while still with my now hopefully soon X. And for me the women having what I’d like in a relationship is what makes me look forward to having it myself. It also give me insight to myself and I’m feeling stronger by witnessing the reality of love.  

      I hope this is comforting and gives you some hope too.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Thank you Cathie...that is very helpful and comforting! That is what I needed to read...I like feedback from others who have experienced similar feelings. Yes, I think perhaps I am still grieving and I am praying when things won’t hurt as much. I want to always be happy for my girls. You are right, it is good to see the love of others and learn from it and know that is what I want for myself. Thank you so much Cathie! happy




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      Joy Pachowicz wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • I have a very bad stigmatism..hard for me to read single

      @cbeck ..if it’s ok to write big then I can do single?




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      Angelcart wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Ang, I agree with Cathie.  Sounds to me as if your still mourning which is PERFECTLY normal!  We all feel that way at times.......even in relationships!  And I feel it’s smart for you to not be on the prowl.  You know the old cliche‘....When you least expect it, expect it.  You’ll meet someone when your not looking.  That’s how I met my husband.  I went to meet a friend and he was late so long story short, my husband starting talking to me and the rest is history.  (Trust me, if I would of been on the prowl I wouldn’t of been wearing what I had on!  LOL).  

      PS - my gf went on several dating sites and all she met were guy’s who wanted to sleep with her.  She finally gave up on that which I was glad she did.




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Ditto Cathie and hugs for you Ang!! heartheart




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • Thank you Angel...great advice! I’d rather it just happen when I least expect it. And thanks for the hugs Tracy...I need it. happy

      Thanks Eva...who is Diane...not me...lol! And I wish I did have an upcoming class reunion to go to...would be fun!




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      Kyah wrote Mar 14, 2011
    • I’m not a flowers sort of person unless it’s my birthday, I’ll tolerate them then. I like hearing what some women did on the weekend with their male friends, gives me ideas for what I want to do with mine.

      I’ve been alone for decades, and at this point in my life, I’m sort of comfortable with my independence. It’s my choice if I want to hang out with my friends, hang out with the man I like to spend time with, or do my own thing.

      I met this man on the bus I take in the morning and for almost a year we have hung out on some weekends; ate, drank, shopped and have great times together. No pressure, just friends enjoying each other’s company. That’s the best place to start - as friends. Just be yourself, take yourself out on the weekends to places you like to go, museums, exhibits, whatever. You may find someone who has similar interests and the ball gets rolling!




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 15, 2011
    • No harm done Eva...it’s all good...thanx again!

      Kyah great advice...I definitely need to get out more...it will make me feel so much better...and good thing spring is here...thank you! happy




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Mar 16, 2011
    • Hi angel , as a married person I’m gonna respond to my friend. Just don’t laugh.
      Sometimes I get bothered by my best friends NEW love. She gets flowers all the time! Lol
      But for you dear heart there is a man out there waiting for you and will load you with love, kindness, and flowers.
      I know it’s hard now but think of what you have gained. Yourself. And my friend that’s priceless in it’s own.
      Much love,
      Cris




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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 16, 2011
    • Joy, I have no idea about being able to increase the font size. You will have to just try it on your computer. Good luck!  

      Cathie




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Cris you always know what to say...thank you my friend.happyheart




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      Linda L wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Hi Ang,

      I have the same feelings as you do.  Wherever I go it seems that there are couples and it can be a painful reminder that I’m alone and that special someone doesn’t exist for me.  It’s been over 12 years since my breakup...  

      I’m sorry I don’t have a good answer for you.  I just wanted to tell you that alot of people are going thru the same thing.

      Take care.  Good things will come your way.




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