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This may sound silly to some but I am asking it anyway.  Is their a time period when the “fog” like feeling is lifted from grieving.   I found a pair of brown shoes today in my closet that I had bought for my mom and it brought back a flood of feelings today.  First I stood with the shoe in my hand for a minute or two then just felt numb then sad.  The emotions are so much.
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      Anne E wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • I’m sorry to say, but for me it has taken about three years!  At first it would kill me when I when to Hallmark and saw all those cards for Mother’s Day and birthdays, Grandparents day etc, but now I am better.  I can talk about her without crying so give yourself some time. heartheart




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • It’s like the fog thins but it always there in the background at least for me. I lost my dad a little over 15 years now I was carrying mellisa she is 14 and my mom a little over 13 years ago. I always celebrate their birthdays with a birthday cake both are in september the 26 and 27 th so I tell stories and share different memories. Xmas is hard my dad passed the 19th of dec and my mom two days before Easter so I think that’s when the fog is the thickest. But the sharp overwhelming does lessen but that time frame is your own.
      I know it helps to share the memories and keep them alive by the sharing and if you ever want to share I would love to hear your memories and help you along the way if I can.
      It seems painful at first and you find yourself telling a funny memory and your laughing and crying at the same time but it’s not the sad tears. If that males sence.
      I’m here for you and your in my thoughts  

      Hugs
      Cris




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      Mzd3 wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • 4 yrs ago, all in the same year I lost my 2 sister in laws, my mother in law, my ex husband, a cousin and my grandmother. It was an awful year and still hurts , but it is easier. I do dream about them from time to time, and think of them daily.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Hello Brimstone, my dear friend, no one can put a time limit on grieving, everyone grives differently it may take some a while then for some it may time a short time, it depends on the individual. Grief is a hard thing and we all have to go through it at some point in our lives, but it will get better day by day, we just have to take it one day at a time, honey you just lost your mom, so yes it is going to still be new for you when you see things that belonged to her or think of times spent with her. Your griving is normal and let time take it because its OK! Just know that this too shall pass, my mom passed away back in 1999 and I still weep for her we will never got over losing a loved one, but as the days, weeks, months and years go by we will grow stronger in our griving for them, but we will always have memories of them for a lifetime. May God grant you his unmerited peace as you seek to grow stronger. God bless you my friend.heart




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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Neicy said it! Your grief is on your time table. Don’t rush it, hide it or ignore it. Embrace it while you have memo,rise of your mom. heart




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Well said Neicy!!




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      Angelcart wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Ditto to what Neicy said!  I lost my mother at the age of 17 and to this day I still get sad on Mother’s day because most all my friends still have their mothers.  This Sunday we are going to hubby’s mother’s 88th birthday!  I lost my father about 12 years ago and miss him dearly.  It does get better in time but like Neicy said, everyone grieves differently and for different periods of time.  heart




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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Neicy said it for me as well, Brimstone.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie




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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Everyone grieves differently and no, there really is no time limit. Try not to put any pressure on yourself [if you ever do so] to ‘get over it.’
      Honor your feelings and emotions.

      Hugs to you.
      J~




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Thanks ladies you all are the best and the encouragement that I have received has helped me.  I have read every comment twice because I needed to.  Thank you.




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      Marion Licchiello wrote Nov 10, 2011
    • Hugs to you.. hang in there.  I’m going through the same thing.




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      Brimstone1968 wrote Nov 10, 2011
    • Hi Marion, I am still hanging in their, I have now lost my dad a month ago but with some group counselling I am taking baby steps, life is still good.  Praying for you also.  Love.




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      Marion Licchiello wrote Nov 10, 2011
    • Thank you so much... I lost my mom 3.5 years ago and dad in July of this year..




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