Here is my problem.  My dad died almost 8 years ago and we were very close.  I have never been close with my mother...in fact we’ve always had a strained relationship..but ever since my dad’s death she has wanted to act like we are best friends.  I know that she is getting older and probably needs my support but I am having a hard time getting over the way she treated me while I was growing up.  Some days I can’t even bring myself to answer the phone when she calls. Any suggestions on how I get over this without having to seek out therapy?