Update to my question on birthday card to X. Well it seemed to go OK. The x moved all their stuff out yesterday. I am a free woman. It was a bit tough to begin with but by the end of the day I was doing just fine. I gave the x the card the night before and it was accepted though I don’t know if it ever left the house. I am not going to check the trash. If the question ever comes up I can say I was friendly about it.  My oldest daughter came back from Denver because of the x’s birthday.  She and I had a great lunch and time together. She went out last night with the x and I got to dog sit. Not the same as taking care of babies but will have to do for now. Thank you ladies for your comments about my question. Hugs