how do you know when enough is really enough and you‘re not just “quitting” or “giving up“??  Seriously contemplating ending my marraige tho’ it is the LAST thing I want to do or ever dreamed I’d be thinking about........anyone with wisom on how to “get through” an affair?  I feel like I am the only one trying to work on it....Help.  Oh——and thank you everyone: for letting me vent and those who respond.  I greatly appreciate any and all advice.  will be on here in a bit to check things out but have to get off of here for now....thanks again!! And GOD BLESS!!