I just need to vent so bear with me.  I have a 4.5 year old boy who refuses to poop in the potty.  He keeps pooping in his underwear and it’s disgusting to clean up.  He only got #1 down about a month ago and he still has accidents from time to time.  I’m wondering if I just should put him back in pullups so I don’t have to deal with the underwear accidents but am afraid he will regress.  I thought Kyle was bad who was not potty trained until after his 4th birthday but once he was potty trained that was it!  He didn’t have any more accidents.  I feel like a failure as a mother. :(