I need advice on how to move forward.My sis and I decided I’d move south to be closer to her. Sis and her husband asked about putting a mother in-law apartment in the basement. Reluctantly I agreed. In the mean time, I was badly injured and so I was unable to pack up my property as planned.(this was a rented home.) I had no car and was unable to work. Sis loaned me the money for a car but wouldn’t allow me to choose it.(she went and bought one.) In the mean time the transmission went out and she loaned me $ to get it fixed. What has happened since is I found out she had me paying double on utilities and told me once I got my insurance settlement she would raise my rent. It was agreed from the start that I’d pay what ever her mortgage rate went up. She will triple her home value and I’m GLAD to help eventhough I won’t see a penny of the money I pay for rent. The problem is we agreed I would pay the increase in her mortgage. There are 2 of them but only 1 of me. Sis thinks I should pay more than we agreed if I get $ from a settlement. I get a tiny amount of pension,WAY under $800 and after paying her close to $400 I have car insurance,gas, pet food, cable,medicine AOL and food. Right now I don’t have enough money for even a bus to go to Pa. for my son’s wedding. The almost 1/2 tank of gas I have is all I can afford. I’m not released to work and have had 3 surgeries with more in the future. Am I a bitch cuz I told sis I wasn’t paying 50%? I had a talk with her and she feels I should pay more cuz I’m home all day. I agreed to pay 40% on electric. I feel terrible that our relationship is now strained. My first thought is to take the $ when I get it and run but that would leave her holding the bag for the extra mortgage payment. There’s alot of other awful things she said to me that hurt but I can deal with that on my own...it’s just the way sis is when her back is against the wall. Thanx for listening. If you say I’m the bitch I’ll accept that. If she’s the bitch,PLEASE give me ideas of what to say to defend my point. thnx, Connie
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