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Supportive parents stand committed to raising their kids with a sense of purpose.Our children need our support from the day they are born. This element of support can be held together by building a strong bond between the parents and their children.
When support comes from loving parents, children feel cherished, energized and motivated to be the kind of persons their parents want them to be. Genuine support entails parenting with passion and interest and making a conscious effort to focus on developing what matters most: Raising children to become responsible, caring, productive and capable human beings.
Here are some simple effective we can support our children
~ By being there unconditionally
Just as loving unconditionally is vital for children's all-round growth, so is our presence. We cannot take that away from our children—-even when they tend to misbehave, fail to follow the home rules or do not perform as well as we want them to. Our unconditional presence in all the stages of child development and in every facet of our children's lives can have an impact to last a lifetime.
~ By creating a sense of security
As parents, we need to provide security in our children's lives. Security is one way of offering support; children who feel secure in their relationship with their parents and the environment which they provide, inevitably feel assured of their parent's suppor
In an ideal home environment, it is the parents who take time and initiative to nurture an environment wherein respect, freedom, caring, sharing—-all come into play; this is the essence of supportive parenting.
~ By demonstrating caring
Our children can be best supported when parents demonstrate the wondrous impact of caring to their children. Children thrive when parents spend quality time with them; they feel important and worthy of their parent's affection and attention. When this message is conveyed through words of praise and approbation, it raises children's self-confidence and boosts their self-esteem.
~ By monitoring discreetly
Parents need to monitor the choices and discreetly guide the actions which our children choose to take. Rather than imposing their decisions on children, they can tactfully lead them on the right path through good communication like family discussions and meaningful conversations wherein children can express their concerns freely. Parents would do well to consistently keep themselves informed of their children's activities, and friends to ensure that these in no way lead their children into dangerous scenarios.
As parents it's vital to take keen interest in every aspect of our children's lives. Letting children know of your behavioral expectations, setting boundaries, instilling values like honesty and compassion, building their competence, are all important elements of good parenting. Modeling positive behavior at all times is the key.
Parenting with Purpose: Five Keys to raising children with values and vision by Robert Reasoner and Marilyn Lane
Communication is an important vital tool in all relationships including that between a parent and child. Children not only need guidance, but also someone with whom they can share their thoughts, feelings and goals. They want to be listened to and appreciated. And who better can your child turn to than his/her own parents?
Effective communication, consistently applied, can have a lasting impact on the minds and hearts of children. It can create a lifetime of strong healthy relationship with your child. Good communication can also significantly help to reinforce positive characteristics in your child—-characteristics which could have a noteworthy imprint on his/her adult life.
Here are four simple ways for improving parent-child communication:
* Manifest interest
Manifesting your interest on a continual basis can open up lines of communication with your child and strengthen your relationship. It’s important for parents to realize that every child has a special interest and talent and no one is better equipped to discover these than the parents themselves.
* Spend time
It is of utmost importance to give your child undivided attention—-without interruptions. This quality time spent with your child could give him/her a sense of self-worth and reinforce self-confidence. By initiating and discussing matters of importance with your child, you will be able to gain better understanding of your child's need. It could also give you an opportunity to recognize your child's unique individuality and talents.
* Listen carefully
Instead of merely spending time in advising, instructing or correcting your child, try listening. The key is to listen carefully and be aware of what your child is trying to convey. Listening more and speaking less can be far more effective than use of long-drawn out barrage of words. Too many words tend to nullify the focal message you wish to be convey.
* Praise openly
The simplest and most beneficial way for you to communicate love and appreciation, would be to openly praise your child to relatives, friends or even strangers. Try it——it sure works wonders for your child’s self-esteem. However, beware of negative communications; change your negative script to a constructive one while showing disapproval of your child’s behavior.
The quality of communication between you and your child matters. It may not always be easy; however, backed with some important basics, like affection, good timing and interested listening, the ground-work can be formed for better understanding between parent and child. Keeping in mind some of the above simple tips, could certainly improve parent-child communication.
A smart parent today would gladly and tactfully encourage the child to share his/her thoughts and feelings and offer as much help and support. You can be a smart parent too! Are you willing to give it your best shot?
Most parents would like nothing better than to have good values instilled in their children. Although certain values may slightly differ depending on family, culture or race, the basic good values like respect, honesty, compassion and kindness—- are all fundamentals that form the core element of good character.
Here are five ways parents can pass on good values to their children:
One ~ through active communication
Children need your time, attention and guidance every step of the way. You can do so through active communication with them. Parents who interact with their children on a daily basis can be most successful in passing on their concept of what is right or wrong to their children.
Two ~ through good example
Parents can yield the greatest influence on their children; they can be the best role model for them. Children are continuously watching their parents; hence it is vital that parents make sure to practice the values which they wish to pass on to their children. This means they themselves need to be honest, respectful, courteous and compassionate in their interactions with others.
Three ~ through creating a sense of security
Children thrive when they feel secure in the environment they live in. Parents therefore need to make their homes a safe and happy place for their children- - - a place where there is mutual love and respect, where there is a spirit of sharing and giving and wherein all children are treated fairly.
Four ~ through acknowledgement
Good values can be learnt and easily passed on when parents are quick to acknowledge their children's good behavior. When children are found to be obeying the ground rules and acting responsibly, parents need to demonstrate their approval and praise their children's efforts. Doing so, could serve as positive reinforcement and promote further good behavior in children.
Five ~ through building competence
To pass on good values to children, parents need to tap their potential and build their competence. When parents encourage their children's drive towards independence, they simultaneously empower their children's feelings of self-worth and build their children's competence.
It is the parent's privilege and pride to instill and pass on good values to their children. These qualities and values imparted to children are of great importance—-perhaps, more than all the academic pursuits and achievements. These valuable human traits can be your children's most highly prized possessions—-having a significant impact that lasts a lifetime.
The bond between the parent and child is special and unique. When this relationship is based on the strong foundation of trust, it blossoms and lasts a lifetime. How you relate to your child and the messages that you convey through your inter-actions, will be instrumental in building a trusting relationship.
Here is what you need to know how to build a trusting relationship:
* Communication is vital
It is through effective communication that relationships blossom; this is so especially between the parent and child. Taking time and communicating effectively either by words or actions, to children is of prime importance. It conveys a sense of understanding between the parent and the child. Once your child has no fear of being judged, criticized or denied parental love, he/she will be able to make independent decisions—-fan important factor in child development.
* Power of unconditional love
Unconditional love from parents can equip children with a positive sense of identity; build their self-confidence and strengthen their sense of belonging. While tolerance of continual wrong-doing is not recommended, it would be in your child’s best interest, to exercise caution and practice subtle restraint—- rather than resort to direct confrontation.
* Need for setting a good example
Setting a good example to your child is the key factor. How you deal with each specific situation can have a direct bearing on how your child feels about himself. There are a myriad ways you can influence your child—-the most significant being, mutual respect and trust. It is your interaction with others in general and your child in particular, your beliefs, your values, your coping mechanism and outlook on life, which can create a positive impact on your child’s life.
The importance of a trusting relationship between the parent and child cannot be overemphasized. Parental love that remains constant, can work wonders for your child. Parents, who make this a pivotal force in dealing with their child, can enjoy a lifetime of fulfilling relationship.
Good education aims at nurturing the mind, fostering individuality and developing the personality of your child. Basic education begins in the home, long before formal education takes place in schools and colleges. Teaching by example and encouraging the growing child’s natural interest in learning, is the key.
Here is what good education can do for your child :
Develops the mind
Development of the mind is the basis of a child’s intellectual growth. It enables the child to think out solutions to problems independently- - - to freely allow the child to develop his/her potential. Variety of teaching methods sparks the child’s interest, and enhances the educational process making learning meaningful.
Good education can help to develop character; this includes development of behavior and social skills. Character-building can be reinforced in the home where basic values like honesty, kindness and empathy can be taught and instilled right from the early stage of child’s development. Later, these can be reinforced and incorporated in schools.
Develops moral consciousness
Development of moral consciousness is an important part of good education. Children need to be morally conscious about the good and bad behavior options they are bound to encounter from time to time in their homes and outside the homes. They need to be morally responsible for their behavior and understand that rights also entail responsibilities.
Develops time management skills
Imbibing time-managements skills is a vital element of good education. Teaching children the value of time reaps rich benefits in the future. For example, children need to be punctual in submitting their homework assignments on time. Such a training helps in fostering a sense of responsibility in children which will be crucial to their success in later years.
Develops team spirit
Another important element of good education is the development of team spirit. Introducing reading as a shared family activity, sharing books, ideas and daily experiences teaches children to shift their focus from the element of "me" to "us" and builds up team spirit. It becomes all the more beneficial at school when children have to share the learning tools as well as their teacher's attention.
Develops the right perspective
Good education need not be purely theoretical. It can develop the right perspective to living a fuller life is equally important. Learning important life skills like doing chores in the house, gardening, cooking, and sewing are all an integral part of good education.
Parents and educators would do well to put all the above elements of good education into practice right there in their homes and schools, thus yielding a significant impact on their children's adult lives.
Teaching children a vast array of life skills can equip them to face the challenges of the real world. Let your children clearly understand your expectations; these need to be age-appropriate matching with your child’s gender, temperament and latent abilities.
Here are six vital life skills parents should teach their children:
It is critical that parents make each of their children feel a sense of pride in who he/she is. Self-awareness can be created by parents when each child is respected as a separate entity. Encourage your child to blossom naturally in accordance to his/her choice and not be manipulated by any external pressures.
2 ~ Responsibility
Children need to learn to take full responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, attitude, actions and behavior. Their drive towards independence should not be thwarted.
Begin by letting children learn to take care of themselves and their things; let them be responsible for keeping their toys, books, clothes and room in order.
3 ~ Practical life-skills
Self-care is of great importance. Children need to learn from early on, how to take care of themselves, how to maintain personal hygiene and take good care of their belongings. Let your home be a practical learning center for children to participate in all family activities including all household chores. Children can be trained to do cleaning, mopping, dusting, laundry, preparation of breakfast and setting the family table for meals.
4 ~ Inter-personal skills
Children need to learn how to communicate and express their thoughts and feelings effectively without any qualms. Parents can help by initiating conversations and discussions and drawing children out from their shells. Careful listening on the part of the parents can help child to develop assertiveness; it could make children feel important—-knowing their parents are truly interested and their opinions are respected.
5 ~ Decision-making skills
Children need to learn how to make good decisions by carefully weighing the pros and cons relevant to the choices they have. Parents can teach children by involving them in making family decisions like going on vacations, choice of gifts for family members and places to visit. When children's opinions are heard and views taken into consideration, it could trigger confidence in them to make other decisions pertaining to their own lives like career or work choice in the future.
6 ~ Management skills
Managing all aspects of one's life is an essential skill for children to learn. Children should be taught from early stages of development, the importance of time-management. Parents can help by encouraging their children to get up and be ready for school on time, complete and submit their homework on time and also do their assigned chores on time without nagging or constant reminders.
Finally, as parents we need to be persistent and consistent in teaching all the above life skills to our children. We need to set a good example to our children by practicing what we teach them. We need to set higher goals and standards of behavior for our children so that they can confidently make a place for themselves in today's competitive world. With your help and support, your children can grow up to be fine men and women having imbibed the life-skills that their parents devotedly taught them.
Parenting with Purpose by Robert Reasoner and Marilyn Lane
Life Skills for Kids: Equipping your child for the real world by Christine Field