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  • Things parents can do to make their children feel extra special

    Posted on Tuesday, January 17, 2012

    Parents hold a special place in their children's hearts. This special bond which parents have with their children has the potential to last a lifetime. It is the parents who can light up their children's lives and make them feel extra special throughout their development years- - -right from infancy to adolescence and beyond!

    Let us look into three broad-based valuable things parents can do to make their children feel extra special:

    1-Shower them with love on a continual basis

    Parents, irrespective of their race, religion, culture or socio/economic status irrevocably love their children; but not all parents feel it necessary to demonstrate love to their children on a continual basis. Some parents may be of the opinion that being providers and caregivers to their children is in itself a sufficient proof that they love them. However, child psychologists have repeatedly emphasized that children whose parents shower love on their children on a continual basis, blossom as responsible, caring and successful adults.

    Parents need to express their love verbally with, "I love you" on a daily basis; they also need to show their affection by hugs 'n kisses and pats on the back as often as possible. A little note tucked in a child's pocket expressing, "You are important to me" or "you are the light of my life," can raise the child's self-esteem and make him/her feel extra special. Most importantly, not forgetting to celebrate each of the children's milestones like Birthdays and Graduations with friends and family is another sure-fire way to make them feel extra special.

    2-Spend quality time with them

    Children are very perceptive. They know and understand how busy their parents are - especially when both parents are working. They do realize that their parents have umpteen tasks to perform while at home. But despite the time constraints, when parents take time to chat with their children about their day at school, about their friends, about what they'd like to do over the week-ends or where they'd like to go on family vacations, it makes children feel very important. It builds their self-confidence and makes them feel extra nice and special.

    Besides, parents who make sincere effort to spend time with their children either by reading stories, playing games or taking them to places of children's interest like the zoo, a fun-fair, aquarium or to a movie, can make children feel specially wanted, loved and cared for. All these special moments of togetherness, make children feel extra special and cherished.

    3-Respect and accept their uniqueness

    Each child born on this earth is unique -  even children born in the same family. It is important that parents recognize this vital factor while parenting multiple kids. Parents need to respect and accept each child's distinct identity. Comparisons, either by physical, emotional or intellectual attributes need to be avoided at all costs. Discerning parents learn to acknowledge and respect each child's positive attributes while simultaneously underplaying their child's limitations or weaknesses. Making one child in the family inferior to the other creates feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem in that child- - -causing him/her psychological long-term damage.

    Parents who are sensitive to their children's emotional needs and are continuously supportive to their children, can help them overcome their limitations and meet with success. These children when constantly encouraged and praised by their parents can become proficient in overcoming the challenges and mastering important life skills. Repeated successes resulting from this brand of parental understanding can indeed make any child feel extra special.

    -Conclusion

    Parents, who are committed in making a positive difference in their children's lives, constantly remind their children how important they are; they are keen to let their children know in many different ways the significant role they play in their lives. These are the parents who continue to make their children feel extra special- - -right into their adult years.

    In every home, parenting styles may differ. However when the above basics are deftly integrated into the family lifestyle, it can go a long way in making children feel extra special no matter what parenting style their parents may adopt.


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