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Positive parenting, which is a powerful approach to parenting, can make a significant positive difference in all aspects of child development- - - intellectual, emotional and social. This skill primarily entails careful listening and understanding of children and lovingly raising them to become happy, responsible and capable human beings.
Here are some suggestions on how positive parenting can be practiced:
~ Be a good role model
Model good behavior to your children; let them learn to be polite, respectful and kind towards each other and most especially to the elders in the family. It is your good example that can be the most effective component of positive parenting.
Have clear expectations and establish your authority as a parent. Be a good role model and teach by example. Be consistent in what you say and in your actions. Stick by your words and follow these up with consistent actions.
~ Set practical rules
Clear, practical rules regarding safety, health, behavior and privileges help children to feel secure in their environment. Letting children know the importance of following the rules, can lay a solid foundation for positive parenting. Children need to understand that the rules are for their good and following them, could dissuade dangerous behavior.
When rules are enforced consistently, children realize that they have no options but to obey. Since the same rules are meant for everyone in the family, it would be only fair for all the members of the family to adhere to them and incorporating these as a way of life.
~ Establish a routine
Routines promote positivity.When parents have a set routine, it makes it easier for children to collaborate and work together in accomplishing the task in hand. This aspect of positive parenting enables children to move on to the next established activity without reprisal, force or constant admonishments on the part of parents.
Pressurizing children to do something against their will or conform to what you want them to do, may not always be fruitful.Instead, help them to make the right choices. This can make them feel confident about themselves motivating them to perform better.
~ Reinforce good behavior
Openly acknowledging and appreciating children when they do the right thing, reinforces good behavior in children. For example, when your daughter cleans up her room, let her know how nice it looks.
Appreciating your children’s efforts, could go a long way in reinforcing good behavior. Doing so repeatedly over a period of time, would be far more effective than repeated reminders or nagging.
Raising children to be caring, compassionate, responsible and productive adults has never been easy. It takes dedication and hard work. Above all, it is the parents who have the right attitude and a well-formulated plan, are the ones who can successfully adhere to the concept of positive parenting.It is these set of parents who are capable of enjoying cherished moments in time with their children.
Practical Wisdom for Parents by Nancy Shulman and Ellen Birnbaum