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Today, grandparents are a boon to families and societies and more especially to their grandchildren. They have so much to offer to their grandchildren-especially to those in their impressionable teens years.
Most teens welcome the unconditional love, stability, wisdom and understanding that is generously forthcoming from their grandparents. Teens are known to bond easily with their grandparents and are oft referred to as their natural allies
Loving them and letting them know how much their presence means to you, will give them an added incentive to live longer. Bear in mind that having to face loneliness in the advancing years, your grandparents may have developed greater sensitivity and need for companionship. They may not say so openly; but now is the time they need your love, attention and tender loving care.
~ Spend Time
Grandparents have led actively busy lives having raised a family. This is the period in their lives when they dread isolation from family members. They would like nothing better than to spend some time with those they hold most dear to their hearts. Positive interactions could make the time spent together mutually valuable and memorable. Teens who spend as much time as possible with their grandparents, significantly contribute to their longevity.
~ Stay involved
It would be prudent on your part as teens to involve and keep your grandparents updated on your activities, interests and pursuits in all aspects of your daily life. Indeed, these valuable communications help to make grandparents feel “productive” and helpful. It could go a long way in making grandparents feel that life is worth living after all.
As young adults, teens will naturally have concerns for their grandparent’s health and well-being. Checking on them at regular intervals and ensuring that grandparents are regularly having nourishing meals, prevents the onslaught of old age. Helping the aging grandparents in shopping for groceries or cooking, can help grandparents cope with their change in circumstances.
Grandparents thrive when they get an extra boost of encouragement from their grandchildren. Teens can encourage their grandparents to exercise daily in order to keep fit. What better way can you do this than accompanying them if possible on regular walks? Walking is the easiest and the most suitable exercise for elderly. Encouraging grandparents in this manner, can help grandparents to live longer.
Teens who insist that their grandparents get sufficient rest and sleep, contribute to their grandparents longevity. Following a regular sleep pattern is the key. Older adults who have a weaker constitution, may require frequent short naps during the day.Teens can caution their grandparents that too little sleep could affect their ability to think clearly and may lead to impairment of memory.
Today’s teenagers understand their responsibility—-especially when their parents teach them right. Most teens do demonstrate a sense of deep commitment to their grandparents and savor each precious moment of times spent together.In doing so, they significantly contribute to their grandparents leading longer, richer lives.
Today's Grandparents are a dynamic lot. They are younger, smarter, healthier and more actively involved in all aspects of living. Grandparents have experience to share, wisdom to impart and tolerance to teach. They are a boon to the family, community and more especially to their grandchildren,especially in the child's impressionable years---namely the early development period.
As I now recall, my eldest grandchild who is now eleven, has been a privileged recipient of our tender loving care. Going down memory lane, in retrospect of the many past events which generated hours of joyous inter-action, I can proudly say that she has turned out to be the epitome of success. Our role as active participants in the early years of her development has remarkably enhanced her personal growth.
Alas! How true it is that children cannot simply be raised in a vacuum or in isolation! In the current competitive times, managing careers and managing the increasing complexities of running a household, leave parents with little time or inclination. Under these circumstances, grandparents can step in and pool in their resources for attaining the common goal of ensuring the well-being, success and happiness of their grandchildren.
As a grandma to four adorable kids, I’d like to share some insights gained from my own experiences, some significant aspects that enumerates the role grandparents can play in the child’s early development process:
Grandparents as Nurturers
If parents are providers,grandparents are in a sense, nurturers. Grandparents, who are patient, able and willing to spend time with their grandchildren, create some of the fondest and most cherished memories. Love is the magic potion on which all children thrive. Unconditional love from doting grandparents, provide stability, gentle guidance and encouragement.
Firing the child’s imagination, can inspire them to the next level of achievement. By inspiring simple acts of love and care, grandparents can teach children the merits of simple living and high thinking.
Grandparents as Mentors
As grandparents are children’s natural allies, they can be perfect mentors. They have a reservoir of genuine interest and patience to teach some of the important life skills—-especially in the formative years of the child’s development.
Teaching kids to admire and be grateful for a host of little ordinary, everyday things in life like companionship and beauty of the world around, help to build a special bond. Simple pleasures like picnics in the park, visit to the zoo, splish-splashing in the nearby pond could leave an impressionable, positive imprint in your children’s budding lives.
Grandparents as Teachers
Grandparents by their own example can be instrumental in teaching and instilling values like honesty, compassion and trust and anchor a sense of security, continuity and permanency.
One of the best gift grandparents can give, is to introduce to children the joys of reading; this is the best gift to bestow in the early years of child development. This special gift that incorporated learning and writing,can continue to bear fruit in the later years.
Many a times, our children make us angry and upset. They may make silly mistakes, do mischievous and thoughtless things, act lazy, and infuriate us. When we adults lose self-control and react without thinking, we shout or strike our children.
This accomplishes nothing worthwhile; and rightly so—-as we are only exhibiting to our kids the very same behavior we want to discourage in our children. So, how can we parents ensure that our kids will meet our expectations and always do the right thing?
Behavioral psychologists advocate that creative discipline really works. They have studied the parenting styles of happy, well-adjusted children whose parents have maintained peace and harmony in their household. A number of techniques have been identified with effective practical solutions.
Here are SEVEN proven creative ways to discipline your child:
1-Change the environment
Making some simple changes in the environment, works wonders! Mishaps do happen; on such occasions, practical solutions will do the trick. One example: Instead of “I’ve told you time and again not to eat sweets before dinner,” try hiding the sweets some place where your child will not be able to locate.
2-Rehearse the problem
By role-playing situations with children, we can teach them what to do or what not to do. Example you can tell your child: “You be the art teacher and I will be you.” By rehearsing this out, your child learns that the situation could have been handled differently, while you learn that it isn’t easy being a kid.
3-Teach to breathe easy
Children can be taught to calm down by taking a few deep breaths. Siblings do fight and it’s hard to figure out who’s to blame. Instead of trying to figure out this dilemma, it’s best to help children by trying out simple breathing exercise together; this calms both sides considerably.
4-Teach to take charge
Children can be taught self- management’ skills—-important requisites to achieving goals. It teaches them increased productivity and better organization. It is worthwhile to remind children what they are supposed to do instead of constantly nagging them about what’s to be done.
Gentle persuasion with children is far more effective than rough handling. Mental health professionals advocate the use of manual guidance to help change the child’s unwanted behavior. For example, if you see your child grabbing food from a plate, it’s best to move his hand back gently by saying “Good, I like to see your hands where they should be.” Gentleness is the key to avoiding any aggressive consequences in the child’s behavior.
6-Give timely signals
Clear indications of what your expectations are from your children helps. Teach your children discrimination training. This means it’s O.K. for them to burst into your room when the door is ajar; but not O.K. for them to barge in before knocking when the door is closed. The challenge is to let children know when certain types of behavior are O.K. for their parents.
7-Make a behavioral contract
Another successful technique is the “behavioral contract.” This entails a pact between the child and parents to identify the Problem, Target behavior and Deal. For example, if you want your child’s room to be clean which is usually messy, the child needs to adopt Target behavior to have the room cleaned once a week. Under Deal, you could specify what your child is expected to do: clean room every Saturday. Then you can add what you as a parent would do in return. For example: Mum promises not to nag throughout the week and offer a choice of dessert for that day. In this way, a deal is struck and your child will not only be excited to sign the contract, but also honor it with the best of intentions.
It’s wise for parents to remember that they would do well to model the behavior they expect and want from their children.
If you watch television instead of finishing the household work, your child will most likely put off completing the home-work.
If you yell to get your way, it is most likely your children will do the same.
Finally one of the best ways to be a better parent is to learn better ways to handle stress. By doing so, you will be better equipped to handle your children effectively.
Children thrive when there is a large dose of positivity in their lives.
Parents, who take time to teach children to be positive in every aspect, can enable them to gain confidence and meet with success in all of life’s endeavors. Children, who are generally positively inclined, are almost always confident and successful children. But what can parents do to raise the level of confidence in their children?
Good mental and physical health is the primary basic tool for raising confident children. Most of us parents are aware that children should have plenty of good food, sleep, exercise and fresh air to grow healthy and strong. However, at times, factors that can contribute to our children's mental health are oft overlooked. So what are the important basics which parents need to follow?
Let your child know that you love him/her as many times as you can. Every child needs to feel loved by his/her parents. Love is the magic potion, an elixir to life. It conveys to the child that his parents want and enjoy his company; they care for him and are concerned for his well-being. The child is thus confidently aware that he matters to them the most.
All children crave for their parents approval and acceptance. A child needs to believe that his parents like him at all times and are capable of giving him/her unconditional love. Children's confidence gets a big boost when they are accepted by their parents, even though they may not always approve of their behavior.
Every child secretly harbors a need to be assured that his/her home are a good safe place to live in. He/she feels secure in the knowledge that his parents will be there on hand whenever he/she needs them. At each new juncture in their lives like when there is a change of environment like attending a new school, children need added assurance that their place will always be with their parents.
All children like to feel protected by their parents. They need to feel that their parents will protect them from any harm and will always keep him safe. Hence parents of younger kids, need to help their child while encountering strangers or unknown situations.
Every child needs to know that his parents have full trust in his/her capabilities to do independently. He/she also needs to know that his parents will encourage him to grow and develop in his own way.
Every child has the need although he may not directly say so, to be instilled with a set of moral standards. Strong beliefs in human values like kindness, courage, honesty and fair play ingrained in childhood, will stand the test of time as he/she grows to face adulthood.
Children need to have warm guidance from someone whom they respect, love and look up to. However, they ultimately also need firm guidance in learning how to behave towards others, especially elders. Perhaps, the best way parents can teach this to their children is by their own good example.
Parents would be wise to set limits for their child’s behavior. Children need to know what they are permitted to do; they need to understand that it’s O.K. to feel jealous or angry. However, children should be made aware that under no circumstances, they will be allowed to hurt themselves or others.
Now that your children will soon be back to school, it would be beneficial that your child is aware of the role teachers play in his/her life. Do take time to acquaint your child with insights—- why do teachers teach and how they could impact his/her life. This will help your child not only to be more appreciative of his teachers, but also make him/her a better student. Read on:
A teacher plays a dynamic role in the wondrous process of molding the minds and hearts of children. Most teachers are aware of their valuable contribution in shaping destinies of the future generation--- the citizens of tomorrow.
We teachers know we make a difference and experience the highest satisfaction at the end of the day. We feel fulfilled, of having done our bit to make this world a better place. To my mind, that’s the primary reason why we teachers want to teach.But what really keeps the teacher ticking?
For me, the desire to teach springs from an innate desire to make a positive impact on young growing minds._Teaching has given me a splendid opportunity to challenge young minds, impart life skill lessons and create a sound moral and civic sense in my pupils._
Working at two of the finest schools, St. Mary’s High and St. Xavier’s High for over three decades, gave me an opportunity to be closely connected to a vast array of children from all walks of life. It helped me not only in better understanding of the mental and emotional needs of children, but more so,enhanced my ability to handle each child as a separate and unique entity.
I soon realized that the art of teaching was largely "an art of discovery." Discovering new ways to fit the changing needs of the budding child became an exhilarating experience! Teaching in ways children would want to learn; mastering the insight to delve deep into the inner world of children, made learning an invigorating process both for me as a teacher and my pupils.There was never a dull moment!
I had been bestowed the unique power to tap the potential of each child and bring out the best in him. And I was grateful. I was proud being a teacher. My vision had become a reality. My goal realized and my task accomplished. What more could I want?
What an apt way to sum up why we teachers do what we do. We teachers touch the future while instructing our future generation. This is why we teachers want to teach.
A child’s first day at school is perhaps one of the most important milestones in his life. This is an exciting new beginning both for the child and his parents.
School-life is the child’s first introduction to life in a community. It is here, at school, where he will learn significant lessons outside his home.
It is natural for the child and his parents to be a little anxious and apprehensive when the first day of school approaches.
However, if your child has been accustomed to spending sometime away from you and from his home environment, it will make the transition easier. If all the preparation for this day goes reasonably well, your child will emerge confident in having a rewarding and fulfilling experience on his first day at school.
But how can you as a parent ensure that your child is ready for this important day? What does good preparation entail?
Look out for the signs of readiness. Your child will have a better chance of success—-especially on his first day, if he/she shows individual readiness and has been prepared in the following basics:h3.
1. His basic need for independence has been encouraged and not thwarted.
2. He has been given opportunities to interact with playmates of his age outside the family and home.
3. He has learned that discipline is a positive force that sets comfortable limits for him.
4. He has developed basic communication skills by which he is freely able to express his changing moods and emotions.
5. He/she has already begun complex learning .He has learned to be a self-starter, using his body and feelings and powerful techniques of imitation.
6. His/her sense of curiosity has grown which will be a valuable aid to learning in the school years.
7. He feels comfortable knowing the limits of his behavior. When discipline is appropriately used, he will be better equipped to accept the demands of school.
8. He has learned the importance of mutual trust and respect in his relationships.
9. He is potty-trained.
10. He shows interest in inter-acting with other kids.
Parents, who closely monitor their child’s behavior and activities keeping the above factors in mind, can learn a great deal of their child’s readiness and success at school.
Learning is a life-long process—- of acquiring experience and knowledge in all areas of development,- physical, emotional and intellectual. Parental acceptance of this outlook will encourage their child to feel and act in a positive manner making their child’s first day at school a joyous and enriching experience.
Parents: Make it a point to enjoy this experience along with your child.