If you are not an online dating attemptee, you would certainly be surprised at how many people are!!
From one look at the hourly attendance, which can number in 6 digits, it would tend to make people think there are a whole lot of available people looking for someone.
And you might think, why is it so hard for people to find someone to date?
Having only been “shopping” at the woman looking for man sites, I can only say, it is real interesting reading for anyone that wants to be entertained!
Personally, I figured, how hard could this be? You make your own profile, add a very flattering,current photo and wa-la you are in the game.
Then it would be my job to sit back and see if anyone “hit” on my particuler profile. If they did, they would commanly leave you a message in the form of,“I read your profile, and would like to chat if you are interested“.
Little did I know or expect that it would be quite comman to recieve the vulgar comments, you know the ones, straight to the point of what they would like to do to you, and believe me, it didnt involve meeting for coffee!!!
So then it occurs to me that, do these guys know why they will wait a long,long time to find someone?? Their approach is all wrong and for some reason, I can magically hear them saying, ” I had no luck on the FIND LOVE EASY ,ETC...dating site. I just dont know why!”
And you know what your mama used to tell you, it if sounds too good to be true, it probably damn well is. if you take nothing else from this blog........BELIEVE THAT!!!
You can sign up for all types of relationships. They range from, friends, talk/email, long term,dating, and my personal favorite,ACTIVITY PARTNER. Some of the men have described this as someone to go to movies with, out to eat, but then that could come under the friends section as well. I dont know about you, but I am thinking some hanky panky is expected, since some of these charmers are MARRIED!!!’
I wont say that my entire experience has been negative, there have been a few guys I met that were gentleman, and will be my friends for a long time.
What I wish to share with you today is my experience on two separate occassions, that were nearly carbon copies of each other, and not in a good way.
As soon as initial contact was made, conversations started in the form of cell phone texting, calls, messaging online, emails. This is not uncomman. What is uncomman is the frequency of the contacts, and the tone of the calls.
The man would become super attatched immediately, and would tell you if you were his, he could do many wonderful things for you, make your life better, and in affect, be your knight in shining armor. This would intensify over the course of time. They would become upset with you if an email or text was not immediately responded to.
You must also realise, in each of these cases, I had never face to face met the guy. Always seemed to be a reason why we couldnt meet,such as time, job, etc...
In essence, it did not FEEL right. They were way to overpowering and controlling. At some point when one of the guys decided it wasnt going to work, he said he would not text me or call again, and I wished him well. Only to find out the texting continued because he wasnt done talking AT me. This resulted in my blocking him on my cell phone.
So anyone thinking about dating online, be aware that its not an easy thing to do.
Will I stop LOOKING online, probably not. But I am a whole lot smarter to the issues there. Good luck to all!

I seem to running into alot of folks lately who say they are lonely. Upon further questioning, I must say that the people I am talking to are older women, who are either divorced or single, or widowed.

The same comman request comes up all the time. They want someone to go out to dinner with, to a movie or to another social function. Having said this, they also said that romance was not at the top of their list, but companionship was.  

I am pretty sure that I could be correct in saying there are probably tons of guys out there with the same request. I am wondering what all of you think about this. How can we encourage these people to step up and take a chance an invite someone to a “no strings” nite out?

We are not meant to make this journey through life alone, and I believe that. Does anyone have any ideas about how we can fix what seems to be a very simple problem?

With the year 2009 quickly making its way to us, I have a few wishes for all of you.
I wish that you can welcome the new year with a bit of hopefulness, despite the economy and the daily bad news we recieve.
I wish that you wont be concerned that you are getting one year older. Lets celabrate the fact we are still fortunate enough to even BE here. Remember the saying you are only as old as you feel.
I wish you meet nothing but positive folks in your world and that you become one if you already are not.
I wish you will rethink allowing toxic people into your space. Be aware of how they make you feel.
I wish that if you have something to say, you will be free enough to say it. Isnt it nice to hear people speak the truth instead of beiong mealy-mouthed.
I wish that when you are able to do so, you will help someone out. It may be in the smallest way, as even a compliment. We have many folks around us that we have the power of lifting them up and it will take nothing but time to do so.
I wish we will all try to not judge someone until we have walked a mile in their shoes. Be aware we are all carrying some burdens.
My wish for everyone on this site is to welcome this New Year with hope and a willingness to endure whatever it is that you are going through.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Hello all and I am wondering if anyone else had the problem I had. Being on my own and trying to pay the bills and virtually just survive, I found I needed more help with household finances. I had chewed this up one side and down the other as to how I would approach my adult children without them blowing a gasket.

It became a monster that would take over all my thoughts as to HOW I would approach them, etc.... The issue seemed to go from needing help to worrying more about their response. I was putting more time to their reaction than the issue at hand. They are both gainfully employed and had alot , well lets just say everything provided for them. They each payed alittle but it really hardly made a dent.

I asked my friends about it, and they said I had every right to ask for help since I was trying to do it all. I knew they were right but still waivered in doing it.I knew that if my friends had this problem I would also give them the same answers they were giving me. But it felt so hard to get this conversation started.

Finally I found my nerve and opened the whole thing up for discussion. While we had a few MOMENTS in the conversation, I held my ground and stuck with it. I was worthy of help and knew it. We came to an amicable agreement and I know I did the right thing.  

If you need some push in doing this, give me a shout, maybe I can help!

Do you have friends that you love to be with and share your life with? Do they make you feel good, are they supportive, compassionate,are they worthy?

What do I mean by worthy? I mean do these folks enhance your life? Do they bring joy and fun to you? Do you even know what the cost is to be their friend?

To be worthy, there should be no personal costs in my opinion. If you have to run interference all the time for them, and take care of their issues without ever reaping anything, then I believe the cost is too high. But then again, maybe you don’t think the cost IS too great. I always ask myself what people are bringing to the table.

There are people that you may just not be able to befriend. If your gut tells you that you are not happy being around them, but do it anyway, you are not being true to yourself.

Some people are toxic. This seems to put a darkness over your relationship and sometimes the only thing you can do is decide that the friendship is costing you too much and back away.

This is not a sign of weakness, in my book it is quite the opposite. Have friends that have earned the right to have a place in your life.

Okay so which is it? Do you dye your hair or do you want to let it be naturally gray?  

Being 51, I was originally, many moons ago, a copper penny redhead. As the years passed, the color faded big time to where it was naturally nearly white. I got so many compliments on this “shade“, as folks believed it was dyed. Truthfully it did nothing for me but make me feel older than I was.

It took me a long time to decide to change it to something trendy and fun. But when I did, I never looked back!I looked and felt at least 10 years younger and wondered why it had taken me so long to do it.  

The only downside I can see is the cost. But, for how it makes me feel, it’s a trade off.

So have you allowed your hair to remain gray or did you dye before and now have decided to go natural?For what reasons did you make that decision? How have folks responded to your gray decision?