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  • Detox – The necessity to good health or fools gold.

    Posted on Thursday, February 1, 2007

    Topic of this week is: Detox – The necessity to good health or fools gold.

    Tammy Wilson is an authority on this matter.

    I met with Tammy to get her insight on the subject.    


    Question Fab40

    Tammy, what are the reasons that we need to detox?

    Answer: Tammy:

    The general principle behind detox diets seems to be that our bodies can't cope with all the toxins that modern life throws at us — pollution, cigarette smoke, pesticides, preservatives, caffeine and alcohol. These toxins are said to cause a myriad of problems from fatigue and headaches to weight gain and lowered immunity. The idea is that by detoxing, you'll lose weight and feel great. The problem is, that maybe people detox to lose weight (hence the many varieties of starvation).

    Question Fab40: Opinion from experts very on this matter, what do the experts say?

    Answer Tammy:

    According to Dr Carey, if we are relatively healthy, our bodies should be able to deal with toxins all on their own — that's what your liver, kidneys and skin are for. "Some detox programmes are really bad for you. It is never good to starve your body and things like colonic irrigation can be very dangerous. Just be careful what you choose and make sure you supplement. The best option is a healthy lifestyle."

    Question Fab40

    What can you recommend to our group of fabulous women on how to aquire Healthy habits?

    Answer Tammy

    While we can't necessarily control the levels of pollution, we can definitely limit some of the toxins that get into our bodies. The most obvious measures are to cut out smoking completely and to cut back on alcohol and caffeine. By *eating organic foods and reducing your intake of 'junk' or processed foods, you'll decrease your intake of preservatives and pesticides. Those well-worn words of wisdom — eat lots of fruit and veggies and drink at least two liters of water a day — have some validity. While you could probably cut back on 'unhealthy' red or fatty meat, it is important to get in all your food groups. Rooibos tea, which is full of antioxidants (but no caffeine) is a good alternative to coffee.

    A healthy lifestyle is not only about what you eat. Exercising regularly will speed up your metabolism and help you to eliminate toxins through sweat. Plenty of sleep and de-stressing exercises such as yoga or meditation will also lead to a healthy happy body (and mind).

    Question Fab40  

    You mentioned that you tried several diets in order to keep yourself lean but gave them up and went on this program that changed your life.

    Answer Tammy

    I've decided to toss those diet tricks aside and make a serious commitment to my health. I plan to eat more fruit, drink water instead of tea and opt for organic food. Spring is all about fresh beginnings, so banish all thoughts of a quick fix from your mind and commit to habits that'll leave you healthy and happy.

    Question Fab40 Thank you for taking the time to talk to us.

    Answer Tammy

    I'm thrilled to share this plan with my sorority sisters that worked so well for me. If anyone has any question, I'm here to help, please feel free to call me or contact me at 858 525-1400through my site at:

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  • How To Respond to Those Never-Ending Invitations

    Posted on Monday, January 22, 2007

    As we get older and wiser, our mailboxes fill with continued invitations to parties, gatherings, premiers, fundraisers and other events we feel obligated to attend. Some of us are willing and able to attend every event and enjoy everyone's company, while others tend to be more reserved and selective.    


    If you're a partygoer with a gregarious personality and full closet of evening outfits, each invitation represents a new opportunity for fun and excitement. However, those less receptive to constant mingling may consider an ongoing stream of invitations as an unwelcome demand on their time.

    If you choose not to attend a particular event, keep in mind that you should always observe proper etiquette when declining an invitation. This will not only spare feelings, but will also make the task of planning for the occasion a lot easier on the hostess.

    The only question is, how do you properly decline? Here's where a little tact and thoughtfulness can go a long way.

    If you get invited to an event and have a previous engagement, honesty is the best policy. An immediate response that you already have another engagement might disappoint the hostess. However, it will allow her to obtain an accurate head count and properly prepare for the party.


    Suppose you have no idea why you were invited to an event or you dislike the hostess, but you have no other plans. In this situation, the best reply would be something like, "We're very sorry. Unfortunately we're busy that evening". This excuse gives you a choice to accept another invitation that might be forthcoming from another source, and will have the hostess wondering whether or not to invite you again for the next event

    If it's a personal matter, such as not being able to attend due to financial reasons, simply state, “Regrets due to personal commitments“. If the invitation was extended by a close friend, they will more than likely get the hint. If they are well mannered, they will not ask additional questions.

    For special occasions that usually entail a gift (such as a wedding), you may want to consider including a small present or card when sending your regrets. This shows that you truly are sorry you can't attend. However, if you have no idea why you were invited, a short, polite decline without a gift will be sufficient, and might not get you invited next time.

    Keep in mind, that it is never too late to respond to an invitation, especially if you are declining. It is better to call the hostess and explain the reason behind your lack of promptness than not to call at all or send a response.

    Mail does get lost and life does get in the way, but people generally understand those things. Not replying at all shows a lack of consideration and manners on your part, and is usually seen as a snub of the worst kind.

    So don't let an avalanche of invitations cause you unwanted stress. Reply promptly, use a little tact, and you can decline an invitation with courtesy and the right amount of social grace.

    All the best,


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  • Make Every Day A Grandparents Day

    Posted on Wednesday, January 10, 2007

    If you were lucky enough to have a grandparent growing up, you know that the special bond that develops within the relationship can make a big difference in the life of a child.

    Grandparents are valuable and irreplaceable when it comes to teaching children, telling them stories of their past, and most of all spoiling them to a point where the parents sometimes get angry.

    Luckily, I’ve been on both sides of the fence. I grew up with two sets of grandparents, and the sudden death of one of my grandfathers when I was 26 was a traumatic experience for me. My grandfather was my advisor and a close friend, and the unconditional love and support he provided to all of us was indispensable. He taught us so many important lessons that now, 15 years later, not a day goes by that I don’t think of him.

    Why do I write about grandparents in a Fabulously40 blog in January?

    Because our grandparents play a huge role in our lives and the lives of our children, and we should make it a point to reciprocate when they become older and need us more than we need them. However, I have learned that a few ground rules need to be followed in order to smoothly transition our roles as we get older and they need us more and more.

    Stay in Touch

    My parents instilled in me (and I instilled in my children) the following rule: as soon as you are old enough to speak, you will pick up the phone and call your grandparents. This turned out top be a simple task that my kids eagerly adapted to. Once a week we would all gather around the phone and make calls to each grandparent to find our how they were doing and to say “I love you,” even if they we had just seen them the day before. This simple task embedded in my young children’s brains set up a pattern for future.

    Today, when my two living grandparents are in their late ‘80s and ‘90s, I don’t have to remind my children to call. They know that I call my grandma and grandpa every day (it only takes two minutes and makes their day), so they have no excuse not to call. My children developed their own system, synchronizing the calls between the four of them, so that their grandparents and great-grandparents receive a call at least once a day from one or two of them.

    I hate to sound like an old AT&T commercial, but in today’s world, we are literally only a phone call away. Add to that the convenience of email and text messaging and there really is no excuse for not staying in touch on a regular basis.

    It’s Never Too Late

    I have a relative who, in my opinion, did not do a great job of bringing up her kids. She was too liberal and permissive, and allowed her children to do whatever they wanted. You can probably guess how they turned out.

    Worse, her children were taught to take but not to give. They would always show up to collect their birthday gifts and Chanukah money, but never bothered to call throughout the year. This went on for many years. I frequently voiced my frustrations and disapproval to their mother, even getting in arguments with her about it, but to no avail. Finally, I decided to try something different.

    This year I spoke directly to her “kids.” I met with them and asked why they never take the time to call, visit or send a card. Their united response was: “No one ever told us we have to. Mom rarely calls or visits, so why should we?”

    I promptly gave them a no-nonsense lecture about the importance of staying in touch with family, and to my surprise, it had an impact on them. After our little chat, my niece and nephew began calling their grandma regularly. When they skipped a week, I got right back in their face reminding them of their duty.

    The moral of the story is that it’s never too late to steer your loved ones in the right direction. In fact, it is our duty to teach our children, nieces, and nephews and guide them in the right direction.

    I realize that for some people it’s easier to say nothing and simply avoid the situation. But I also know that what we teach our kids today will reflect in their character the rest of their lives. What they learn from us now will make them better people, and for that I’m willing to be the “wicked mom, aunt or friend.” I’m also more than willing to remind you that kids need to be taught and disciplined.

    So please don’t wait for Grandparents Day to call, visit or send a card. And teach your children to do the same. After all, every day should be Grandparents Day.

    All the best,


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  • Meaningful New Year’s Resolutions

    Posted on Tuesday, January 2, 2007

    Would you be surprised to learn that the number one New Year's resolution is to lose weight? Probably not.

    Staying fit definitely belongs high on the list of personal priorities. But in the quest to shed those unwanted pounds, we often overlook other important factors that are essential to our wellbeing. Yes, we all want to look good, and we care about how others perceive us. But we shouldn't let weight and body image issues get in the way of more important resolutions.

    Therefore, I propose that we make 2007 the year to focus on what's really important. Financial freedom should top the list, since it allows us more time to concentrate on our vanity. With that in mind, here are my top priorities, which I make a point to review on an annual basis:      


    1. Life insurance. If you purchased a policy 10 years ago, it's time to upgrade. Otherwise, the death benefit may not be sufficient to cover expenses and still leave enough for your loved ones if you should pass away.

    2. Estate planning. Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily activities, many people decide that estate planning can wait just a little longer. Others can't bring themselves to address that fact that they will not live forever, and simply refuse to complete this essential task. Ladies, let me assure you that you will feel much more confident and less concerned for your loved ones once this chore is out of the way.

    3. Saving money. No one likes to feel constrained by a budget. However, most of us need one to manage our money properly. Sit down and figure out all your expenses, then set a goal of saving 10 percent of your income. As you successfully figure out how to do this, increase the percentage every six months.

    4. Building wealth. Now that you are saving money, you need to figure out what to do with it. (Shopping is not an option!) Here's where a good financial planner can help. Ask your friends and relatives who they would recommend. Get several names. and interview at least three before making your final choice.

    5.Retirement. Watch your pension, 410K and IRA plans like a hawk! Otherwise, the money may not grow at the right speed. Start by having your financial planner explain your investment. Then review the investment with your planner every six months, and keep an eye on it quarterly. You don't have to be a financial genius to understand your investment. But you must pay attention to your money if you want it to work for you.

    6.Education. Evaluate your job to determine what you can do to educate yourself and move forward in your career. Knowledge is power, and persistence is the key.

    7.Reduce stress. Find out what makes you happy and calm. A yoga class? An evening with friends? A jog in the park or a walk with a dog? Reducing stress doesn't have to be stressful. Identify what works for you and make it part of your daily routine.

    8.Taking a trip. Start planning ahead of time. Choosing a destination and booking far in advance can save you hundreds of dollars and give you something to look forward to.

    9.Stop the habit. If you're still puffing on that cigarette, the time has come to give it up. Yes, it's a lot easier said than done, but support groups, nicotine patches and other tools can help you pull through. If I can do it, anyone can do it!

    10.Volunteering. Find out how you can make a difference in someone's life, and take your children along on the ride. Let's teach our kids that volunteers make the world a better place.

    These 10 tips can serve as an outline for your New Years resolutions. Once you've settled on your top priorities, write down your goals, review them on a daily basis, and take appropriate action. This will greatly improve your chances of achieving your goals.

    May all of your goals and dreams come true in 2007!

    Cheers, Yana

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