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If you live in Florida, not far from North Miami Beach, I would love to meet you in person. If you haven’t RSVP’d already please message me. This will give me an idea of how many Fabulous Gals are joining me and your other Fab40 sisters so I can make arrangments accordingly.
WHEN: Tuesday February 3rd 7 p.m.
WHERE: Tony Roma’s 18050 Collins Ave. North Miami Beach, FL 33160 305-932-7907
Hope to see you there.
So you turned 40, and before you knew it, another year flew by and you're approaching your next birthday.
As you look in the mirror, you notice that the years are making their statement, loud and clear. The skin no longer appears like you just turned 25, and the pounds are creeping in faster then you can chew. Having this daily enlightenment in front of the mirror can trigger a big depression. However, if you look from the other perspective you can (and should) take a totally different approach.
Yes, as my friend has bluntly pointed out, the years are marching all over my face, and probably yours. My reply to that is, so what?! Haven't we earned every wrinkle?
Every muscle that is a bit loose still holds our facial expressions extremely well. So if the skin sags a little, it's no big deal. When we were younger, it was a painful experience removing zits and getting lectured on the evils of sugar. Now we get to enjoy relaxing facial massages and soothing cleansing masks.
Of course, sugar is still our enemy, and is now accompanied by a host of starches that don't belong in our diets. And alcohol seems to have more of a negative impact on our brains and bodies than it used to, so we should probably leave that behind as well.
On the other hand, an army of plastic sergeants eagerly awaits the opportunity cut into our skin, inject us with rat poison, and lipo fat from places we didn't even know existed. And for the privilege of looking a few years younger, we get to pay for their services like a mortgage amortized over 30 years. Is that a deal or what!
For the disciplined, there are health clubs within walking distance of each other, preaching nutrition, exercise, aerobics and weight lifting. There are hordes of personal trainers standing by, who are more than willing (for a fee) to listen to us bitch and moan the whole hour on the exercise bike or treadmill.
And there are creams, made with exotic ingredients, for every possible situation. There are special inventions to lift your eyes, neck, breast and anything else you might think of. There are even bathing suits guaranteed to make you look 10 pounds lighter.
Today's fashions allow us to wear just about anything, but let's not get carried away and make fools of ourselves. It is not okay for a 40+ woman to wear a short miniskirt and think she looks "hot." Remember—everything in moderation (and I don't care how good your legs look!).
Fabulously40 women today are at their best. Many of us tackle new careers, run marathons and date men 15 years younger. Heck, some of us are even having kids for the first time. Regardless of the circumstances, this is our time to realize that lines on our face do not make us older, they make us stronger!
No longer do we have to buy into preconceived notions about getting older. We can be verbal about our true feelings, we can conquer any challenge, and we know that if we lasted this long, we can do just about anything. We don't have to work harder, just smarter.
We do, however, need to remind ourselves that after 40 it's all about us. This is our time to be "high maintenance." As long as we allow ourselves to be just a bit more self-centered, as long as we stay focused on being positive, and as long as we try to love ourselves more than anyone else does, self-esteem will not be an issue, no matter how many wrinkles keep showing up in the mirror.
Would you be surprised to learn that the number one New Year's resolution is to lose weight? Probably not.
Staying fit definitely belongs high on the list of personal priorities. But in the quest to shed those unwanted pounds, we often overlook other important factors that are essential to our wellbeing. Yes, we all want to look good, and we care about how others perceive us. But we shouldn't let weight and body image issues get in the way of more important resolutions.
Therefore, I propose that we make the rest of 2009 the year to focus on what's really important. Financial freedom should top the list, since it allows us more time to concentrate on our vanity. Especially now, during the time of economic adversity, we need to know where we stand. With that in mind, here are my top priorities, which I make a point to review on an annual basis:
1. Life insurance. If you purchased a policy 10 years ago, it's time to upgrade. Otherwise, the death benefit may not be sufficient to cover expenses and still leave enough for your loved ones if you should pass away.
2. Estate planning. Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily activities, many people decide that estate planning can wait just a little longer. Others can't bring themselves to address that fact that they will not live forever, and simply refuse to complete this essential task. Ladies, let me assure you that you will feel much more confident and less concerned for your loved ones once this chore is out of the way.
3. Saving money. No one likes to feel constrained by a budget. However, most of us need one to manage our money properly. Sit down and figure out all your expenses, then set a goal of saving 10 percent of your income. As you successfully figure out how to do this, increase the percentage every six months.
4. Building wealth. Now that you are saving money, you need to figure out what to do with it. (Shopping is not an option!) Here's where a good financial planner can help. Ask your friends and relatives who they would recommend. Get several names. and interview at least three before making your final choice.
5. Retirement. Watch your pension, 410K and IRA plans like a hawk! Yes, I know the market is down, and what you see might be very depressing, however you need to know your options. Start by having your financial planner explain your investment. Then review the investment with your planner every six months, and keep an eye on it quarterly. You don't have to be a financial genius to understand your investment. But you must pay attention to your money if you want it to work for you.
6.Education. Evaluate your job to determine what you can do to educate yourself and move forward in your career. Knowledge is power, and persistence is the key.
7.Reduce stress. Find out what makes you happy and calm. A yoga class? An evening with friends? A jog in the park or a walk with a dog? Reducing stress doesn't have to be stressful. Identify what works for you and make it part of your daily routine.
8.Taking a trip. Start planning ahead of time. Choosing a destination and booking far in advance can save you hundreds of dollars and give you something to look forward to.
9.Stop the habit. If you're still puffing on that cigarette, the time has come to give it up. Yes, it's a lot easier said than done, but support groups, nicotine patches and other tools can help you pull through. If I can do it, anyone can do it!
10.Volunteering. Find out how you can make a difference in someone's life, and take your children along on the ride. Let's teach our kids that volunteers make the world a better place.
These 10 tips can serve as an outline for your New Years resolutions. Once you've settled on your top priorities, write down your goals, review them on a daily basis, and take appropriate action. This will greatly improve your chances of achieving your goals.
May all of your goals and dreams come true in 2009!
Raising four kids very close in age was never easy. Paying for three colleges at the same time was suffocating yet very rewarding. Many of our friends asked the same question "How do you manage?" and the answer was always the same, "One child at a time"
Listening to last nights evening news and hearing about a California mother giving birth to octuplets, something that has only been done once before, I couldn't help but ask the same question. "How are they going to manage?" Except this is way different.....
Six girls, and two boys each weighing between 1.8 and 3.4 pounds were delivered by a caesarean section in just five minutes by a team of nurses and 46 doctors. According to the last news report all babies are breathing on their own and doing just fine.
The identity of the couple has not been disclosed, but Dr. Mandhir Gupta, a neo-natologist who cared for the infants said: "She's a very strong woman, so she probably will be able to handle all eight babies".
I'm sure that I speak on behalf of all Fab40 members in wishing this special family lots of strength, health, HELP and prosperity. God knows they'll need it.
Reading this articlemade me think of all the guy friends I have, and how much I love them. In High School girls were mean, and bonding with guys was so much easier. Then I grew up and started dating.
Several of the guys that I dated are still my very close friends. There is this bond that formed early on, and even though our dating didn't work out, our friendship continued to flourish.
I have several single friends of both genders, and between their dates they keep me entertained and horrified at the same time. I think if I had the time I would have enough material to write a whole book on the subject.
At my recent get together with my group of married girlfriends who all happen to be women over 40 the subject of dating in the 21 century came up for discussion.
They have been married for so long that memories of being stood up, cheated on, boring blind dates, and abusive boyfriends were buried so deep in their past that the only thing they could remember about their dating experience was how they were courted and showered with flowers.
While sharing stories with them about my single friends, they were shocked how dating has changed in the last two decades.
We live in a fast paced world, it's all about how much you can achieve in the shortest period of time, and why should dating be any different?
You reach a certain age and you are no longer willing to waste an entire evening on a boring guy who's got nothing interesting to say.
Who's got the time to go on fifty dates to find your Mr. Right?
Most of us have careers, children, and a very slow metabolism, not to mention a short fuse. Finally, we know what we want and we don't need to spend an entire evening figuring out if the guy sitting across the table who needs a major make over is "the one".
We no longer wonder what kind of a man we need; we just need an assortment of them to pick the right one out.
Many are opting to date on line, some are continuing to rely on their friends to set them up, and of course there are still aunts, god bless them, such as aunt Betsy who can still set you up on a date that you will have nightmares about for the next twenty years and will be reminded of at every family gathering.
Whether you opt to date on line or off line, or ask aunt Betsy to come to your rescue, remind yourself that you are all grown up. You don't need to compete with 30 something's, you don’t need to have a relationship on a text message. Refuse to date their way, date like a grown up, after all you are in a league of your own. Instead of looking on dating sites look within your social networks, look among your colleagues, and don't over look long distance relationships.
Believe it or not, there are people that reconnect on Facebook, date on Skype, and end up getting married living happily ever after.
Just do yourself a favor, refuse to date anyone who is not grown up. Be quick enough to hit the delete button and move to your next target.