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Are You Ready for the World of Online Dating?

By Online Dating

If you’ve been contemplating online dating but haven’t taken the plunge yet, maybe it’s because you just aren’t sure if you‘re ready for the world of cyber-dating. Lots of people feel this way because it seems so overwhelming. After all, there’s literally a whole world of people out there to meet, which can be intimidating and confusing. If that’s how you feel, you need to think through how you really feel about what you‘re looking for in a date and whether online dating can help you find what you‘re looking for. Since online dating requires you to explain who you are and what you‘re looking for in a profile, you need to understand yourself and what you‘re looking for from the beginning. Sit down and really think about this; if you can honestly say that you think there’s a possibility you could find someone special online, go for it!

Are You Comfortable With Online Dating?

Even if all of your friends are doing it and everyone swears by it, if you feel weird going online to e-mail potential dates or to instant message people you haven't met yet, online dating won't work for you. You have to be open to the possibility that the people you meet online may be future friends or dates, and are just as interesting and terrific as you are. Be sure you are going into this with the proper attitude and an open mind. Remember to be honest about what you're looking for, too. If you want to date casually, be sure to let others know that. It's not fair to waste another person's time and money (remember, they probably paid a membership fee just like you did).

What Are You Looking For?

Young or old? An experienced woman of the world, or a lady who's been relatively sheltered? A man who's successful in business and dedicated to his profession, or an artist who would like to live on the beach? There are so many variables, and online dating gives you the opportunity to finally pick and choose because there are so many members on each website. So go ahead and make a wish list, then use it to help you browse. But be sure to really think about what you really want, because the old saying is true, “Be careful what you wish for, you just might find it!”

Be Clear About What You Want

Most online dating services give you the option to narrow your search by choosing a geographic area (100 miles from you? 500 miles from you?), whether you want to date casually or seriously and several other criteria. This is a good way to focus on what you really want, but try to remain somewhat flexible. Remember, some of the best relationships start out as one thing and end up as the other. On the other hand, do be honest. If you really can't afford to travel across the country to meet someone, don't lead them on for months and keep putting off the inevitable. One of the most important things to consider when searching is how serious you are about a long-term relationship. Some people are simply looking for friendship or someone to hang out with on the weekends. Online dating sites are a great way to meet new friends if you have recently relocated to a new city, for instance. Others may be ready to get married and settle down. Be sure you read others' profiles to get a feel for where the stand on these issues and how they fit with your goals – and be clear about those goals when you e-mail or chat with them.

Now that you have an idea of what you want and how to go about it – get out there and start cyber-dating!

For more start online dating information visit http://www.online-dating-help.com






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      Tami Close wrote Dec 17, 2008
    • Thanks for this information.  I’ll be promoting my program, Girls Gone Wifi, that speaks to having a blast with online dating.  It worked for me and I intend to show women how to have fun while opening up into relationships.  

      Tami



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      Sgc44 wrote Mar 12, 2009
    • Hey Tami

      i would sure like to know how it worked for you.

      you hear things and a few of my friends have taken the path

      cheers



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      Igoplaces wrote Mar 26, 2009
    • My recommendation: Read THE INTELLIGENT WOMAN‘S GUIDE TO ONLINE DATING: And She Lived Happily Ever After. It’s available on Amazon



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      Barbara Http://www.wetutor.com/profiles/156 wrote May 29, 2009
    • Sounds interesting. I have tried it for two years and was engaged but it didn’t work out.  The pro for me is that is hard to meet men here in Vegas that are emotionally intelligent, the con is that people seem to misrepresent themselves in the online dating world.
      H



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      Paula Bertucci wrote Jun 22, 2009
    • I agree with Barbara...it’s so sad that people misrepresent themselves...they do a disservice to others and apparently don’t love themselves very much...because the truth always comes through in the end...then both are disappointed!



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      Mz. Queen wrote Jul 6, 2009
    • So, is it there anything wrong with stating that I’m not interested in interracial dating? I ask because Caucasian men seem to find me interesting but I can’t wrap my mind around the concept.



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      Igoplaces wrote Jul 6, 2009
    • There’s absolutely nothing wrong with saying whatever it is you want - or don’t want. That’s the beauty of writing an honest profile. Life is short. Why waste time? I have lots of tips that speed up the online dating learning curve in my book: THE INTELLIGENT WOMAN‘S GUIDE TO ONLINE DATING: And She Lived Happily Ever After. It’s available on Amazon.



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Aug 2, 2009
    • I met my husband online and I think it has been backwards all along! lol  Getting to know someone by talking on the phone first allows you to REALLY know the person before you meet.
      I suggest AT LEAST 30 days of talking every day before you do meet. Even longer if possible. I waited for 2 1/2 months.
      It drove him crazy and he nearly said “goodbye,” but if it were meant to be I knew he would stick around. lol

      From experience.... it takes a while to hear (AND SENSE) what you may not like about them.  

      Happy Online Dating!!!!!!!   I met my TRUE soul-mate and we have been married over a year and it has been MAGICAL~!!!



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      Mz. Queen wrote Aug 2, 2009
    • I can say that I’m ready now. I just hope they‘re ready for me.



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      Mz. Queen wrote Sep 19, 2009
    • I have met four men online and one out dancing. The last online has been the best. We haven’t met face to face but we have talked on the phone or chatted online everyday since we agreed to give it a serious consideration. I am happy and excited to get to know him better with each day before we actually have a rendezvous.



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      Nomad23 wrote Feb 25, 2010
    • Hummm and where do to one find these men to date with??? I mean how do we meet or come across them?



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      Barbara Http://www.wetutor.com/profiles/156 wrote Feb 25, 2010
    • Another thought too: Don’t introduce men to your kids right away. I always wait until I am fairly sure the person is going to be ok with my kids and is OK himself. There are some nice guys who never want kids. I just went out with one...He said my 17 year old had “one foot out the door.” I crossed him off my list!



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