So... what is it about the 2nd time around that has people crazy.  In our fabulous 40’s and beginning life again, could prove to be challenging.  Suddenly we know what we want and what we will not tolerate in a partner.  Kids are growing and challenging me from the time they wake up.   I have to bite my tongue every time my 17 year old son decides he wants to question our religion and asks why do we have to go to church.  My 12 year old, also a boy, just moves to the beat of his own heart.  Still hugging and wanting to be close to his mom, but with girls calling all the time, well that closeness is going quick.    

With all the challenges and surprises that children have in store for us 40 year olds, how does one find time to invest in a relationship and keep it going.  Working full time and running both kids to and from sports, cleaning, laundry, bills, a dog that needs a bath and lets not forget the family... the aging parents, the bickering siblings and then a man in your life who wants all your attention, or at least 80% of it!!!!  Is it possible and what about time for me... how do I recharge myself to be able to keep on giving to all the wonderful, albeit demanding people in my life.  Oh and lets not forget the upcoming election...OMG... what to do.   Does it get any easier. Sometimes I think its just better to do it all on my own and just wait a few more years until my kids are settled and my dog is bathed (not that I’ll wait that long!), but Im exhausted.   A very dear male friend of mine told me once that beginning a relationship is not possible with kids.  There are too many responsibilities in parenthood that keep a person from giving what they need to a new relationship.  I wonder how that would be different if I was still married to their dad - would the demands be the same?  

Suggestions, comments.... please bring them on.   Amitymom.