I am going to be 40,tis July 16th.I cant believe that Im ‘40‘but somehow at this age that would get most of them worried,Im somehow more at peace , relaxed & happy.

Within the age of 1 to 10,  I was deeply disturbed with my parents divorce & being sexually molested by an uncle.In Asia, this issue is more of a taboo and very seldom discussed and acknowledged openly.Generally , all men who comes in contact with us are ‘uncles ’ as in a mature adult and we as kids are encouraged to treat them with respect and not question their actions.

Within the age of 11 to 20, I was catching up with school and hands-on education . I also got involved with boys and got into major arguments with my stepmother.

Within the age of 21 to mid 30’s, I was busy working in an office environment.Later, I got married into a complicated big family and endured a lot of heartaches.I was blessed with two beautiful girls.My life took a turn from being an office diva into a simple life of mommy and wife.By now,I established a good circle of friends who stood by me thru thick n thin.

Towards the age of 35, my lil girls were more independent. We discuss stuffs more openly.They are even able to advice me on things and i gladly reach out to them for suggestions.

My husband is more open-minded and we understand each other better though we may have our differences.Though i caught him once on the path of being unfaithful to our marriage,being an Asian men who seldom ever admit their follies,he has quickly changed his ways.I noticed a drastic change to his ‘working hours‘and he is spending more time with us now.I am learning to just forgive and move..

Well..I am so relaxed now, so problem free , tensionless and absolutely 100% sure of doing anything i set my mind to.I am a capable , intelligent and a strong woman and if i knew that i would be al these at age 40,I would have gladly been 40 ages ago....