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Do You Like Changes?

As we go through life, changes are bound to happen.  Big. Little.  Good. Bad. But the question I'm wondering is:  Do you embrace them?  Or do you try your best to run in the other direction?

Of course, this probably depends on what the changes are and if you have brought them about.  It's one thing to change where you work-IF you're the one who initiated the change.  It's a whole other feeling if it's because you've been down-sized out of a position that you felt was your dream job.

Case in point:  My husband loved being a corporate trainer for a company that he had been with for almost a decade.  Then the owners retired and he was one of the few in the main office that still had a job (of sorts) when they retired and the main corporation bought them out.

He was given a choice of two positions, both of them not exactly what he wanted to do.  However the third option was, "goodbye and don't let the door hit you on the way out."

So I'd say he has neither embraced nor made a U-turn.  

I wasn't given a choice when my "day job" ended; just found myself without a job.  In a way, I did embrace the change.  I missed what I was doing, but decided it was the push I had been side-stepping to really try and write full time.  My reasoning?  "If not now, when?"

It hasn't worked out the way I planned financially, but I do love what I'm doing.  Every day is something new and different and it fulfills my love of learning and meeting interesting people.

Now in a totally different realm of change, we love to watch House Hunters International and we find ourselves looking at some of these people and can't help but think:  what the heck are they thinking?

My example on this?  The other night a young couple who had just graduated college and had never lived together decided to move to San Juan, Puerto Rico.

Why?  They just wanted too.  No job, no money, no plan-just thought it would be cool.

Really?  They rented a place and adopted a dog.  Still no job.   Now some of you may be saying, "Good for them.  They're young and this will be a fantastic learning experience."  While others may be saying, "Are they crazy?  It's an island with only so many jobs!  What are they going to do for money?  And they adopted a dog?  How irresponsible is this?"

Since I'm more on the later part of the feeling, I'm also wondering, "Who's paying their way and for how long?"

If they were independently wealthy and wanted to do this-great. But I have to wonder what both sets of parents said and agreed to on this whole experience?

So here it is I'd love for you all to think over how changes affect you and whomever you reside with and let me know-how do you handle major changes in your life?

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jun 1, 2012
    • Without sounding “preachy” I’d say that first and foremost, I think my faith gets me through everything that comes my way. I try and take whatever lesson I need to learn from the changes in life, good and bad, and use those lessons to propel me on to, whatever. If the lesson is not a pleasant one then my hope is by taking action on the lesson learned I won’t have repeat the unpleasant situation again. I also do my best to keep my mind and heart open to hearing any subtle messages on the direction I need to go. I try and stay out of my own way. I trust my gut more than my head. And if something starts to not feel right I make an adjustment.

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      Carine Nadel wrote Jun 1, 2012
    • sounds like a plan that works beautifully Cynthia.  I do tend to “get in my own way” sometimes.

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      Tuliplady wrote Jun 1, 2012
    • Cynthia pretty much summed up my reactions to change as well.

      Last fall, when I found myself out of a job, I was optomistic that there was something better around the corner, even though I loved my job. It was a big scary change!  

      Winter set in and I was still unemployed, the sense of adventure was gone.  Desperation set in, and I took a job that I never ever would have considered if I hadn’t been desperate.  And it’s all working out so well.  I’m getting in shape physically.  The stress is gone.  And the schedule was tailor made for me, so I still have time to paint and do handyman work.

      Now some changes, like the abreviations, bad spelling, and bad grammar that come with texting and the internet, I’m fighting with everything I’ve got.  :)

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