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Many people say how hard it is to compete with all the fit, good looking singles out there in the dating market, but how many of them really make the effort to get in shape?  It is very easy to make excuses of being too busy to make it to the gym due to family or work related issues. Is it really just that people are too lazy to fit an exercise regimen in their lives because they would rather do anything else but workout? We all appreciate a date with someone who takes pride in their health and fitness management so maybe it’s time we did that for ourselves too.

Sunbathing,jogging,golfing in the summer can be intimidating for individuals trying to get in shape. Just putting on a pair of shorts can be difficult for many women. Hanging around a beach is a reminder of just how many hard bodies there are. Coastal cities everywhere will have this same competition, because where there are beaches, there are bikini's and 6 pack Abs. It makes everyone more aware of their appearance and in many cases,brings out those body image insecurities. Women check out other women more than men do. "What do men see in her?" "she has cellulite" or "she looks good because she paid for it!" No woman wants to admit that they want to see a little flaw in even the most beautiful women. It is a sad, but comforting to many women who need the affirmation that they are not the only ones with imperfections.  

Here is the clincher though ladies ~ Contrary to what most women think, men are not as critical about a woman carrying a few extra pounds. Men just want a woman to make an effort to keep fit, she doesn't have to be running a marathon or hiking up Mt Everest. They want a woman who takes care of herself but is not obsessed with her body and is spending 4 hours a day at a gym. There has to be moderation and life has to have diversity. If you want a partner that looks good and takes care of them self, then it needs to be reciprocated. The person that is always making the effort, will ultimately lose interest in the partner who isn't.  

Walking an hour a day or joining a gym will not only help you meet new people and potential dates, but will lift your spirit and self esteem. Getting started is difficult especially for those that are overweight. Start out at home with a beginner fitness Ipad App or invest in a treadmill, stationary bike or elliptical. There is plenty of inexpensive used equipment listed on Craigslist & consignment stores in your city.

It is also important to incorporate strength training into your fitness routine especially after 40. Muscle atrophies as we get older but has the wonderful ability to stay pumped up if used regularly. It gives the body a toned uplifted look that fights skin, breast & butt sagging. Weights can be bought at many stores and are reasonably priced. I suggest purchasing 3 different sets of 5lbs,10lbs & 15 lbs. There are numerous online videos to show you how to use them for all parts of the body! I promise you, it will make a big difference to your appearance if used regularly & properly.

Mark the calendar for exercise times like an appointment booking and follow through with it. Set the equipment next to the TV and do it during your favorite show or the news hour after or before work. This way you can save purchasing that intimidating gym membership until you feel ready to be comfortable going there. In the meantime use that money to have a permanent piece of equipment at home. That way there is no excuse and you have to walk by it every day as a reminder. If condo living has space restrictions, there are machines that fold up under your bed when not in use.  

Everyone should be doing some form of cardiovascular workout and strength training. It is an investment in your health that should be a daily priority. Not caring about yourself is the sure way to put out to the universe that you won't care about anyone else either.  

Let me know if you have any questions that I can help you with. Cheers & healthy hugs estatic

Susan McCord @ [Link Removed] 

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