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My mother asked me, kindly, today what my plans were for the future. At 41 without my own home or job, I hate this question from anyone right now, including me.  I quit, yes, quit my job earlier this year to go to Spain with my boyfriend. Sadly, you cannot collect an unemmployment check for leaving a job, even when your sanity demanded it.  

So here I am sitting on the couch in my mom’s house, where I visit regularly when doing interviews. Other than dropping my car off with the mechanic, writing more cover letters, and going to a happy hour, I don’t know my day holds for me. Same goes for next week.  It’s terrifying in this economy, even with supportive friends, boyfriend, and family, but I needed a change.  

I now have to think creatively about finding ways to make money (still thinking!) and put myself out to meet with people.  Writing blogs, brainstorming, learning about new  organizations & opportunities, I am really waking up to the world around me. When I have regrets, I drive by a cemetery. It works every time. I recommend making the big jump if at all possible - you’ll be proud of yourself.


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      Anne E wrote Aug 13, 2009
    • Brenda, I know what you mean about having to leave a job in order to preserve your sanity.  In my case I got laid off before I could quit so I collect unemployment.  San Diego is so expensive though that I’ve nearly drained my savings.  Sorry I’m not meaning to whine here.  I just wanted to give you some moral support and wish you luck in finding a better job.

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      Brendastarr wrote Aug 14, 2009
    • Thanks! San Diego is a beautiful city, I visited it for the 1st time last year.  Hang in there. It will get better eventually, it just takes faith.

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      Songbird wrote Aug 14, 2009
    • I think you are courageous to take the plunge. Sounds like  you are doing some inner soul searching, finding your path. I love what you said about waking up to the world around you.  

      There are SO MUCH MORE TO LIFE than the mundane life many of us are born into.  

      It was an incredible journey for me when I broke out of the well I lived in, where what I could see is only a part of the sky. I know now what it really meant to be born again.

      I agree to make the big jump if at all possible . It might not always be bright outside. Sometimes you might have grope around in the dark before you could find the light switch. And if you do, remember the darkest hour is always just before dawn breaks.  

      May your journey be blessed.

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