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Hip, Hip-forget the Hooray

Last Friday was yet another medical emergency in this family.  Have you been counting?
I, well, have my chronic problems and being rammed by a Silverado truck did nothing to help on that plane of thought.

At the same time, my sister and parents were rear-ended.  Thank goodness my parents were shaken but okay.  My sister had a concussion and the pain resulting from that.

My sister-in-law found out she had breast cancer and had a successful surgery-but before the poor woman could breathe, we found out that our nephew, her son and only 27, was diagnosed with a rare cancer that is growing around his heart.  

He's just completed round 2 of chemotherapy.

Our younger nephew followed his aunt and mom and a car hit him.  The driver wasn't much older than him and was obviously higher than a kite.  He has whiplash and a minor concussion.  Poor guy-his first new car and it's still under debate whether or not to claim it a total.

And now for the explanation of the title of this week's blog-my mom (who's more blind than sighted) was walking her dog and didn't see a tree route, tripped and fell-resulting in a broken hip.

Now my sister and I have been on her to use a cane for years and even after several falls and broken fingers and torn up knees-she has repeatedly refused to even try one.

Well, now she doesn't have a choice.  Thankfully, if one is going to break a hip, this was the way to do it.  Mom did have to have 3 pins put in, but it was done through her skin with dissolvable stitches inside and a couple of "glue" tapes on the outside.  Within 3 days our almost 83 year old mom was walking with a walker.  We suggested a part time aide, but like the cane-she's refusing any help.

I won't get into the facts-enough to mention that if she had been using a cane she wouldn't have fallen and broken any limb or bruised anything.  This was also quite a horrible experience for our father has only had maybe a week in his married life total where he and my mom weren't sleeping in the same bed.  It left him understandably very scared.

For our mom, her stubbornness is both her salvation and her downfall.  My guess is that we all have that trait.  Me, not so much.  I've got enough going on where if someone in the medical profession said, "You know Carine it might be best if you used a cane for stability."  I'd do it.  

That's just me; my vanity is not that strong anymore.  I'd rather be safe than sorry.

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      Marya1961 wrote May 31, 2013
    • I agree completely, although my mom is 76 and still doing ok, she is in the first phase of diabetes and won’t take a pill, but will watch her carbs, eat properly, etc..she is losing weight which does concern me a lot as the woman is already thin.  What can you do with an elderly parent who won’t take suggestions?

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      Diane17 wrote May 31, 2013
    • I wonder if the stubborness is an elderly trait?  My aunt who is now 87 fell and broke her hip earlier this year after falling in her efficiency.  This could have been avoided if she had just used her cane like she’s supposed to.  Now she is stuck in a nursing home and no one knows when/if she will be leaving there.frown

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      Carine Nadel wrote May 31, 2013
    • my mom also has diabetes, high cholesterol, osteoporosis and high blood pressure.  along w/ the glaucoma and macular degeneration.

      Like you aunt diane-she was told to use a cane and wouldn’t.  Our dad is at the stage where he knows us but otherwise fairly befuddled from the dementia.  Plus he’s hard of hearing and refuses to even consider a hearing aid.

      As my son put it-it’s the blind leading the deaf.

      stubbornness can either be a good or destructive trait.  something we all should consider.

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